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oh my goodness. i have loved reading thru this thread, I can’t help but smile as I read.
I loved what you said about ‘it is surprising how quickly those feelings recede to the background or go away altogether once I’m engaged in something meaningful and/or interesting/novel.’
And how discovering your values has helped you engage in your life no matter how you are physically feeling. I also am so encouraged by Martin’s reminder that difficult thoughts and feelings always come up with situations/circumstances in life in the day AND night.
Thanks for sharing!
Hi Molly, I also have a brain similar to yours. WooHoo sometimes and pretty irritating at other times, huh!?
Martin’s response ‘people with problem solving brains are likely to experience difficult thoughts and feelings in the days before (and during) things that matter. SO FREAKING TRUE to my experience and makes me feel oh so validated. Now, do I wish I had a brain that could still sleep well even during exciting occasions, like my husband does?!?! Yes. I. Do.
And though, I remember not sleeping much the night before my wedding 28 years ago and yet I was able to experience a glorious wedding day.
Just recently I had reached out to Martin prior to hiking a 14er and knew I would probably be the only one in the hotel room not sleeping the night before when it was already going to be a super short night/early, early morning…when I shared that anticipatory fear with Martin, he reminded me that sometimes to do the things that are meaningful, we may have to accept that we will do them with short sleep and it is worth it anyway. (paraphrasing, feel free to correct me Martin–ha!) And, that is pretty much how the night played out and despite that I made it up and down the mountain and had an exhilarating experience.
It brought me a lot of needed peace of mind.
I was nodding my head like crazy as I read thru your post. I also find myself in the same place…feeling like my nerve system is still stimulated and thinking thru conversations and what have you from the evening while my husband (who also shared the experience) is fast asleep next to me. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. So frustrating.
I agree with Martin that we keep taking action toward a full and meaningful life but it DOES feel unfair when it feels like we ‘pay for it’ later.
Why can’t we all have ON/OFF buttons as humans?!?!?!?!?!?
Ooooff! Reading through this thread is bringing a lot of emotions to the surface for me. One is compassion for myself and each of you… insomnia is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. It has most definitely felt like a form of suffering. It helps to know we are not alone. I am so grateful for the hope and wisdom that is offered here from Martin and others who have gone through the course.
I am just beginning week two, due to traveling, and I appreciate everybody’s comments and contributions so much.
We got this!
THANK YOU SO MUCH for your support and helpful response Martin. I appreciate it.
Yes! I love being reminded of the concept of when we choose rich and meaningful experiences (I believe you and Dulce talked about it in her podcast and am glad for the reminder), they are often accompanied by some uncomfortable feelings…AND IT IS WORTH IT!!!
Thanks also for the practical tips. 😎👍
I think the fear that is behind all of this is about whether I will set any progress that I’ve made back with sleep (& acceptance of all the things) and go back backwards once I return, and my body has been in many different time zones. I guess it will be a good opportunity to offer compassion to myself. It surely can’t be damaging long-term…
Oh my word. I love this whole thread so much.
Richard, I too completely understand the dreamy feeling of being calm and comfortable and sleepy; however, once your head hits the pillow this immediate fixation to sleep, which we all know often backfires. Ugh!!! It’s such a mind #*$k! 🙂
It’s part of why I have historically resisted doing a sleep window because then it feels like I have delayed trying to relax and fall asleep and now I must get to sleep faster because I’m going to bed later… I also appreciated the above feedback on the sleep window, being one tool of many and not a solution solution for everybody.
I also found Martin’s feedback a good reminder of how our brains are created to sleep, and they are created to protect us and that will win… short term, anyway!
So again, what are the actions we can take to not freak ourselves out about nighttime wakefulness so that our brain can also chill the heck out… lots to learn.
