Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Thanks, Groggy! You have really made me feel better — plus I've shared your comments with my husband, and HE fees better too. This has certainly improved our attitude. I'm sure glad Martin “invented” this website!!
Hi, Groggy. Thanks for your response. And I will admit 🙁 , yes, we have started sleeping in separate beds — which has really, really helped :wub: . I just feel so guilty about it! But your reassurance has made me feel a lot better, and it certainly has not adversely impacted our, er, affection for each other. So that's a very good thing!!
Thanks again.
Hi, Martin. I think this is the link to that article:
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/09/110912092554.htm
Thanks for looking into this!
I totally agree that one connects with the other. The less sleep I've had, the more agonizing it is to try to be sociable and interactive. So I think the sleep impacts the socializing, more than the other way around — at least for me. Maybe others feel differently. However, I certainly cannot say that when I've had enough sleep I instantly become a social butterfly and life of the party type of person! I'm still an introvert, no matter what. But it's way more intense when I haven't slept — and anticipating any social event makes my insomnia worse, but, well, then I guess I'm worrying about it ahead of time too much, and here we go with the vicious circle! Anyway, I can totally relate to anyone feeling this way.
Some good ideas here! I'm going to try them out tonight, as last night was not good. I've been trying to wean myself away from Xanax, which I take at least once a week to help me get back to sleep when I wake up at 11 or 12. So I toughed it out last night but have been very sleepy all day today — but at least not “hung over” from the Xanax.
Have recently watched Swedish version (with subtitles) of “The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo.” Have NOT seen the new American version. Has anyone seen both and found one to be better than the other?
I'm glad you figured out what “sacking out” means. I didn't know that was pretty much just an American expression. I've had similar problems sometimes with all the books I've read by British authors, where they'll use a common Brit expression, and I am totally baffled. One recently was “taking the piss.” Thank goodness for the Internet — I was able to look it up!
Well, my week-end insomnia problems are (I think) because of the fact that my fiance and I can only be together at that time, as he lives and works about 50 miles away. So I'm alone all week, and then suddenly have my wonderful bed-partner — but then I can't sleep. He feels very bad about this (he does snore and has leg-twitching problems), and I don't want him to feel responsible for something he's not doing intentionally.
So in recent months we've started sleeping in separate rooms. Sounds not very nice, but this has not hurt our “romance” at all, thank goodness. However, I still have trouble sleeping, even though I'm physically alone in the bedroom. My conclusion is that when he is there, even in another room, I'm thinking about him and looking forward to our week-end plans. This should be a happy thing, I know. But during the week, my life is just sort of more calm and uneventful, hence more peaceful sleep. At the week-ends, my mind is racing and excited and there's just more to think about.
It's very frustrating. All I can figure is that once he retires and can come live with me all the time, my emotions and mind-racing will adjust, and my sleep and life-style will be more consistent all week long. I hope so!!
All of us will be thinking of you today, Jane, and greatly sympathizing! Hopefully, tonight you will really sack out and catch the zzz's you need.
I've had several good nights in a row this week, but week-ends are my downfall. Today is Thursday, so Friday is just around the corner, and that's when my insomnia kicks in. And tonight (Thursday) I will start THINKING about dreading Friday, so then that will probably impact my sleep tonight — well, it's a constant circle of frustration!
I think we introverts tend to “internalize” things a bit more. There's lots of stuff constantly running around in our heads — and keeping us awake!!
I love these ideas of listening to someone's voice on CD's, to help you drift off to sleep. I'm going to give it a try, as soon as I figure out which CD to get. Thanks!!
I should have KNOWN I was going to jinx myself with my advice to you yesterday, Snookie. Sure enough, I had a bad night last night, tried the method I wrote you about, but did it work? Of course not!! 🙁
Oh well. I shall try to function as best I can today. It's a Saturday, so maybe I can catch a nap somewhere along the line. I pity my boyfriend; he will have to see me at my worst throughout our day today. But I will hope to have a better night tonight and at least salvage some of our week-end with a cheerier mood from me tomorrow.
Hi, Snookie, and welcome. Believe me, we ALL feel your pain!!
Your comment about the hypnosis has convinced me to share a little something I recently discovered that “sort of” helps sometimes. Here in the U.S. we have a popular tv show called “The Mentalist.” It's a mystery-type of thing. The main character (Patrick) is able to solve all sorts of crimes because he's good at reading people's emotions and reactions and body-language, all that kind of stuff. He can also very quietly hypnotize people, though he doesn't use it much.
Well, in a recent episode, one of the other characters on the show was having trouble sleeping. Patrick said, “Try to calmly and totally focus on your breathing. In and out, in and out. Stay totally focused on it. It often works!” I couldn't resist giving it a try myself — and in the past few weeks, it has actually worked most of the time I've done it. Not always, mind you, but often. And I do think this is somewhat of a form of self-hypnosis.
So what the heck — try it.
Hi, Michelle. I'm wide awake too — have been trying to settle down for hours, but no luck. I totally, TOTALLY agree with your comment about the worst nights being ones where you have something important coming up the next day, so you're thinking about how you really, really need to sleep. So, of course, you can't.
Years ago I taught my “significant other” guy to never, ever say to me, “Honey, be sure to get a good night's sleep tonight because tomorrow is a big day, you know.” I'd always remind him, “Well, sweetheart, you have now guaranteed that I will get absolutely NO sleep tonight!” So now he knows better. 🙁
So, how to cope with big events coming up?? I still haven't figured that one out. My family is having two major weddings in the coming year, and I know I will be a zombie for both, because I won't get any sleep in the days leading up to each one. I wish that somehow these fun, big events could just suddenly happen, with no warning, and then I'd have gotten plenty of rest the night before. Oh well.
