[Flowerpink]

Many thanks for your supply Scott.

I am feeling desperate with what I should do next.

I have suffered insomnia since moving in with my partner. Before this I never had any sleep issues and when I am away from home visiting family I sleep perfectly fine.

I have struggled to sleep when my partner stays up late in the evenings in the other room and I want to go to bed as am sleepy. Something just triggered in my head and now I associate him staying up late with me not being able to sleep.
I go to bed as I feel sleepy but as soon as my head hits the pillow I feel as so I am forcing sleep and toss and turn in a panic.

I greatly want to go back to being able to sleep alone as I know I am capable of this.

This hasn’t always been the case and there was a three month period when we first lived together that I was able to sleep but used to wake in the night (he enjoys staying up late occasionally at the weekends).

I sleep fine when we are together which is most of the time. However I live everyday anxious and worried about the next time I won’t be able to sleep when he stays up late. I just want to be able to not rely on him for when I wish to sleep which at the moment I seem to do every night.

For the last week I have been implementing sleep restriction whereby I have consistently been going to bed at 12am and waking up at 7am everyday.

I am finding it hard to control my anxiety over going to bed every evening and however much I tell myself wakefulness is not a threat I can’t seem to get a hold of my anxiety.

As I can sleep the majority of the week but struggle once or twice a week when my partner is not there, I am struggling to consistently apply stimulus control because as soon as my partner comes to bed my anxiety completely disappears.

I just wondered if anyone else suffers with this or if anyone has any advise to help me trust the process of sleep restriction/ stimulus control even if I only implement in maybe once a week?

Thanks in advance

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