i am in the exact same boat as hobbitspice, which made reading your response (Chee2308) so compelling. may i ask that you both elaborate further? that is, i agree and understand everything that you all wrote. but i don’t know how to apply the solutions to my life. i know this is the million dollar question, but if there’s anything you can share on this point (at no cost, despite it being a million dollar question), i would really appreciate it