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Usually that happens when trying to sleep with a weak sleep drive. A.K.A not sleepy. Try to go to bed after 16-18 hours of continuous wakefulness. Or when you are really sleepy, such as difficulty keeping awake, head nodding off, eyes really heavy. Keep to a
regular bedtime so you get sleepy by the same time each
night. Best wishes!Greetings!
Are you anxious or worried because you can’t sleep? If you are, then that’s quite possibly the reason, it’s that worry over poor sleep that keeps you up!Or, if you aren’t, then your body just doesn’t need that much sleep anymore. Think about it for a moment. Sleep is when our bodies repair itself and also when we make ourselves most vulnerable to any attack. So ideally, the body will only make anyone sleep just enough. Or in other words, sleeping time is down time and it’s maintenance time only. If you sleep less than you used to, it simply means your body just doesn’t need that much anymore. It may be because you have taken so well of yourself, by eating well, keeping a healthy weight and cultivating healthy habits.
Try to pay less attention to your sleep and go by how you feel about yourself and during the day. People usually sleep their best when they don’t think much about it and therefore not chasing it. When it comes to sleep, it’s often thinking that there’s a problem that becomes the problem! Good luck and best wishes.
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What racing thoughts are you talking about? About sleep or something else totally unrelated?Greetings!
Great to hear that. If you really do just 2-3 hours of sleep per day, it would be almost impossible to concentrate on anything during the day, and you would be crashing to sleep almost anywhere, even standing up. It would also be extremely difficult to not take naps and a lot of people just give in.Could you at least learn to trust your own body? Leave sleep all alone to your own body. Because it knows how to sleep, much like it knows how to eat and breathe to keep you alive. Then as you start letting go of control, you sleep better and longer and then the occasional difficult night(s) would creep in, you’d have an occasional difficulty falling asleep at start of bedtime and the sleepiness way before bedtime would start disappearing, all this is normal! This is a sure sign of sleeping well, just as your appetite eases after eating. Go along the path of “there is nothing I need to figure out or solve about sleep anymore, because the “problem” is beyond me or maybe there really isn’t a problem at all, it’s all just me and my active brain making groundless and baseless accusations about my sleep and my body, therefore everything I am trying to do is a complete waste of time and effort.” Good luck.
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Unfortunately nobody here can help you with your anxiety, the best way to deal with it is by the Claire Weeke’s method, basically allowing yourself to tolerate it, not fighting it and slowly getting desensitized over it over time because you begin to realise there’s really no danger to you at all!Hello Julie!
It is quite impossible to go on with just 2-3 hours of sleep per day indefinitely so are you napping during the day? Stop the naps if you want to have a healthy sleep drive at night! Also try to lengthen your sleep window by going to bed earlier or getting out of bed later, so you don’t get too sleepy earlier in the evening and no sleeping outside that sleep window! I suggest to allow a 6 hour sleep window at least and slowly add to that to as you sleep more. Best wishes.Greetings!
There is no such thing as “the strongest arousal system” until your sleep system is compromised ?. Your body will always win, and you *will sleep* at some point, no matter how hard you try. Sleep works like this: you sleep bad for one night, you’ll almost certainly make up for it the next night or at most the night after. Your sleep system is completely self-regulating with a built-in fail-safe mechanism, absolutely nothing can change or damage it. So it is futile to worry about it too, and quite dumb as well because there’s *nothing* you can do!Greetings!
With regards to sleep, nothing will happen to you even if your appointment is a year away! So stop dramatizing this and making it so serious. Because it just isn’t and your brain is overdramatizing stuffs that is completely false and made-up. There is no danger. Never was. Challenge yourself to stay awake the longest you can! Even if you want to stay up for days at a time, your body simply won’t allow it and will make you sleep at some point. Over time you begin to realise this whole thing has been a hoax and a goose chase over nothing. Good luck!Greetings!
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing. You are just too impatient. And nothing wrong with waking up during sleep either! Did you try to go back to sleep? For many people, eventually they discover they can fall back asleep, usually in small amounts first, like 10,20 mins, slowly increasing over time.When it comes to sleep, just throw out everything you think is right and should be doing about sleep and just completely accept that what your body does about it is always correct, because it will always be the body that decides how much sleep you need and get, not you! Just don’t question it, ever. This is where the problems always lie. Think of your body as an extremely cranky person, everytime you try to challenge it, you receive a slap back and more troubles!
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Your question is not new and you have been posting the same exact “problem” a couple of months back! So when you are truly going to give up the struggle and being accepting of whatever sleep you get?? Because nobody ever has any control over sleep to begin with. And you know coming here and asking endless questions about it probably won’t help you in a big way anyway. The way sleep works is: Less sleep on one night = increased chance of better sleep next night or the night after, and vice versa. It’s not rocket scienceHello Kimbiana,
Great post! Everyone who recovers will most certainly have an “aha” moment like this, when they finally understand the futility of struggling against an uncontrollable element like sleep, which leads them to abandon the struggle and ultimately finding the inner peace within themselves. And that’s really the key to sleeping well where there’s no struggle, no fear, just tranquility.Hello Trish!
Thank you for your kind words. The vocabulary you use still indicates a lot of struggle going on. As I read it, words like “persistent”, “practicing”, “eventually”, “I must do these techniques to sleep!” suggest a lot of impatience and the enormous pressure to put yourself under to “get rid of this thing ASAP”. What about not trying so hard, slowly abandoning all the techniques and not being persistent?? Do this at your own pace, or sometimes accepting that these issues will be here to stay for god knows how long and really giving up the struggle might be useful. That really helps take the pressure off. Try to reestablish the loving relationship with your own bed in your way. It doesn’t have to be sleeping just to enjoy being in bed. I hope this helps and best wishes.Greetings!
Nobody has ever beaten insomnia. For people who “recovered”, they just started caring less, doing less and they stopped fearing poor sleep. This is how you deal with difficult nights, which are completely normal and happens to everyone. It is your obessesion with sleep, unwillingness to experience some poor nights and your frustration at efforts to pressurize sleep to happen that makes you go down the same hole again. When it comes to sleep, just do nothing, modify nothing. Go on your life as usual, enjoy your day and your sleep will get back on track on its own. Best wishes!Greetings!
Nobody is immune from having bad nights, however you can be immune from the struggle with sleeplessness by adapting your response and mindset. It’s often your response to bad nights that becomes the problem! When you start seeing having bad nights as a huge problem, which needs to be solved and quashed no matter what, that’s when you run into bigger problems! The key to freedom is no longer getting stuck in the struggle by endlessly engaging in battles with yourself but more towards embracing it, doing absolutely nothing to fix it and continuing to enjoy your life as usual. When it comes to sleep, the key is always do nothing, modify nothing. Good luck and best wishes.Hello momup!
That’s great news and you have finally “got it”. Sleep is something nobody ever has any control over. So it is pointless to worry about it or do stuffs to make you go to sleep, it is this pressure that makes sleeping so hard! Going forward, as you sleep better and letting go of control, you care less about it and hopefully never struggle with sleeplessness again, even if it happens, you just don’t struggle like before and the difficult night just comes and passes. This is normal! Sometimes you look back and might even laugh at yourself! You may think ” Wow, did I use to do all those stuffs just to sleep?? Man, that’s crazy!”. Eventually, the realization sinks in that you CAN sleep, it doesn’t matter where or under what circumstances, your body just takes care of sleep all by itself.
