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I have just completed your email course. Im WAY better than I was and my sleep diary looks as though I have little to complain about and it is because I clicked pretty much straight away that the main issue was anxiety. I was interested in hearing from others who have experienced Insomnia triggered from menopause, mainly for any additional tips or tricks. Thank you for the invaluable information in the email course.
This is an old post of yours I see, but I just wanted to say that what you were doing at that time asking this question. In the anxiety world, this is known as REASSURANCE SEEKING. It happens after you understand and have been given all the solutions and then say, I know what to do “but”…. or “how do you do it” just after they’ve explained how.
I hope you are doing much much better these days. That was 5 months ago now I see 😊 Its a good practice in mindfulness to catch yourself when you are reassurance seeking and simply say, I notice I am reassurance seeking or seeking reassurance and kindly acknowledge I know what to do I now need to practice what I know.
I can totally relate, Ive been experiencing pretty much the same experience. Ive had a life time of it but it kicked in seriously 6 years ago and Ibhadn’t had 1 decent night since! Got to the point I didn’t think I could go on and googled help for insomnia and CBTI popped up with Insomnia Coach. I read all I could and started to do the free email course. The crazy thing is once I started Ive been having fairly decent sleep. The fact I realized it’s my fear of not sleeping that was really driving this, the fact it is a mind game thing really clicked. I used to get myself back on track with sleep in the years gone by when I had bad belts of insomnia by just allowing the crazy thoughts and relaxing my mind, but because this was triggered by menopause I had heat issues thrown in as well, and my pre existing anxiety disorder and pre existing insomnia was intensified. Anyway, my point is, its the fear of not sleeping, of thinking you may die or go crazy that is the driver, not the insomnia. That is the part that clicked, the “mind game part of it”. Once I accepted this and started to concentrate on relaxing rather than sleeping, Ive been sleeping. My sleep log is embarrassing to fill in and send off as it looks as if I don’t really suffer from insomnia 🤣 So my main take away has been, learn to relax for the sake of relaxing not for the intention of going to sleep.
