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I’m also dealing with long, entrenched anxiety thought patterns that I’ve evidently had for many years. That will take time to overcome. For example, I am already having some anxiety that if I don’t get enough sleep, I might get sick, and then I can’t visit my grandkids for Easter. Of course, with that type of thinking, it could cause my insomnia to get worse because I’m so focused on sleep!! So I am working on changing my thought patterns.
Thank you tessishere – I’m doing a lot better but still have a way to go. I did the Insomnia Coach 2 Wk free course and it made a huge difference!! I am considering one of the paid programs when I get enough confidence built up that I am ready to start decreasing medication under my
dr’s care of course. I am at a point of getting 1 – 1/2 hrs less than I used to always get before the last insomnia relapse a few months ago. I’m pretty tired during the afternoon. But I am going right to sleep and straight through until my established wake up time. I’ve had a few set backs, like 2x this week I woke up 45 min early. But now I know that sets backs are normal and I don’t get so freaked out.This is definitely hard for my husband who has lived w me over analyzing and over thinking and having a lot of anxiety for several years. I’m actually doing better in the past 3 days and had 3 nights improved sleep when he accused me of doing something that is over analytical and you’re going to increase your anxiety! and getting upset with me. It was actually just that I need to write out a general plan for the next few days re wake up time bc of the time change followed 2 days later by a trip to change time zones and having to get up extra early for flights. So writing some of this out will help me be better prepared mentally and remind myself that this will happen and I may be tired on some days but it will be ok. It upset me that he said you’re making your anxiety worse by doing this! You’re going to have more anxiety! Well this conversation DID increase my anxiety bc I’ve been doing better. I want to write down in this forum that I need to give him grace- this has been very hard on him. He doesn’t know what to say that is more helpful. Life will bring various stresses, it’s just life. I need to let go of being upset with this conversation and remind myself that he wants to help. I’ll have to give him ideas on how to do that better!
What has helped me get out of bed is that I’ve reached the point of being so desperate that I’m willing to do whatever it takes. People are saying they start getting some results in a short period of time. I figure I can do it for a couple of wks if I have to, maybe more. I’m sick of having the anxiety and getting more awake as I get closer to the bed, like you said! It’s awful!! I’m ready to follow the instructions and get relief!
Thank you for posting about your issues with medications. I’ve been on meds for insomnia for 30+ yrs. The dr kept increasing it or adding to it. Getting off of 1 prescription a year ago increased my insomnia and I never really recovered. Like you I was ok until I got off the last of it. I’ve just started this program and your post is very encouraging that I will make it if I persist. When I start getting off the other medications I will remember that it wasn’t always smooth sailing for you but it was worth it!! Thanks again for sharing!!
I’m so glad you took the time to tell your story and your husband’s story. I’m married also and it definitely affects those around us. I just didn’t know what to do. This is only my 3rd day. I am hopeful I will get better about worrying so much. And be better able to handle HIS erratic sleep behavior. He can and does fall asleep easily and anywhere in our small house and snore loudly! I have gotten anxious about not being able to consistently read quietly and journal as part of a regular bedtime routine. Then my husband feels guilty and worries about me. Martin is saying that trying so hard to control everything to get sleep actually doesn’t help. I’m hopeful that I am going to improve and it will help my marriage too!! Lynn M
