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Aww thanks for responding !
I’m pretty new at this acceptance therapy , but am encouraged .
I’m still getting very little sleep , which makes me a bit sad and I can tend to get down for a day or two, until I turn it around and realize what an amazing life I have!Yesterday was one of those really bad days , as I shared, I’m starting week 6, been doing the sleep window , (10-4) and although we can’t control sleep , I sure thought I’d at least get one good night, it’s been about 1-3 hours , one night 4!!! It’s always broken up, not all at all together , but I’m really ok with that.
I’m finding it difficult when I do decide to stay in bed to do the AWAKE.. I’ really feel as tho I’m trying to go through all the feelings, only to end up more anxious,
am I just not ‘allowing’ them, am I trying to hard possibly and maybe pushing them away , instead of sitting with them ? Idk?
Last night when I went to bed, I felt so calm, def sleepy , but nothing came, I got up , attempted to watch tv, listen to Martin BUT I could not keep my eyes open, so I went back to bed, and was good for a bit pretty relaxed, then boom anxiousness overwhelmed me. Then it’s hard when I get in that place to practice , while I will try the exercises either AWAKE OR NOW… I almost feel worse
Any words of wisdom for this old broad that feels like she not getting it!
I mean… it has been over 20 years,😩 so I’m not expecting overnight success
BUT I KNOW this will work for me !Casserieev
That is so wonderful! It gives me such encouragement to read your post and see where you are now’
Love your thoughts!I’m finding that getting out of bed is best for me too, I just listen to a podcast or watch something until I get sleepy and I either crash on the couch or go back to bed.
It’s been quite a process with ‘accepting’ but it’s a work in progress for sure.
I can’t wait to be further along !
Sometimes I still get a bit worried ‘this won’t work for me’ but so many have had similar stories , SO, it keeps me coming back!
I think I’m trying to hard , because I want it now!OMGOODNESS how I needed this!!! Thankyou for sharing!!
I have been feeling quite overwhelmed of late. This is week 6 for me and I’ve been with the same sleep window since week 1 (10-4) ( or 9:30-3:30)falling asleep is no problem 90% of the time , it’s that waking after a hour, then on and mostly off till I finally get up
I sometimes feel likes it’s making me crazy.. with such little sleep ,I am still getting up for the day by 4 I wish I could say it’s because the alarm woke me☺️but nope I’m
Usually awake .. I am still going about my day, with a gym workout at 4 and staying pretty busy . I have tried during the day to read or listen to Martins videos , but dang, it’s really tough to stay awake, I just want to just lay down and crash.. I don’t, SOOO I get up for a bit and walk around.Fear , yes!! I believe you nailed it! As I approach the bedtime hour, I start to feel A bit anxious, fearful, unsure of what will happen tonight. I feel like I’m doing the best I can with the exercises , with accepting all that shows up, but I also feel
Like I’m not doing well at all! This is hard,
I am beyond thrilled to hear how you’re doing and sooo many others!! It truly iS my lifeline!!
I SO appreciate all of you that have had some success, and are willing to share your journeys with us!Oh how I wish I could truly embrace this fear and anxiety that I have , and know it can’t hurt me.
Woohoo Paul I’m excited for you
I have been going to my couchl
( my insomnia bed☺️) when. I wake, i first do the AWAKE exercise , and sometimes that makes me anxious , soooo then I get up out of bed , i either watch something or listen to a podcast , I have not tried just staying in bed and listening to my Bible , or a book . I may try that, as to be able to stay in bed, because when I get sleepy on the couch I just crash there. It’s the best two hours of sleep tho,and sometimes ‘my only sleep’
so a part of me gets nervous about going back to bed .
However to focus on sleep and chasing it, is not the goal…. It’s so tough ..,when all you wanna do is get some sleep!!!I’m on week 5 of doing the sleep window, (i am in the six week course ),
Although it’s been brutal, it’s truly amazing how strong we really are on very little sleep… what the sleep window has helped me with. Is that instead of being in bed way too long ‘awake’ I’ve been able to enjoy , other things, watching tv. Listening to a podcast, I even made choc chip cookies at 9:00 pm , when I was usually in bed . I was going to bed around 8 maybe asleep till 10, laid in bed till 3 tossing and turning. Then chased sleep till finally getting up at 6 or 7
I’m still not getting much sleep, but I am working on accepting the thoughts and feelings that come
My window is 10-4 and I’m sleeping prob 2-4 hrs , but I believe so much in Martins philosophy, and that I too will one day be another’ sleepingsuccess story’ it sure makes the most sense for sure!
All this to say, I am functioning !! I am not falling asleep on my way to and from work or my friends ..
is this easy….. NO, but I’ve struggled for so many years, and done so many things to help rid me of this insomnia,
So with this course I’ve realized , that I have given WAYYY TOO much power to it!! I’m ready to move on, learn from
Martin and then sleeeeep☺️agrieser , I totally agree these threads are what keep me going!
I’ve actually just finished week five and am going through the other. Weeks before starting six …
Still doing the sleep window and Michael like you, shared , i too am getting maybe 3 hrs a night …
It’s tough, for me , I’m realizing , that I might be staying in bed too long with my wakefulness, i fall asleep right away and then will do the AWAKE exercise , only to get a bit anxious , and leave to watch tv, what I haven’t done is gone back to bed when I’m sleepy , I just crash on the couch and that has been my best sleep of 2 hrs , I want to be in my bed eventually so maybe I should go back to bed and see what happens.
Dang this can be very brutal , but you’re doing better , along with many others , sooo we press onSo is it ever ok to just take advantage of that amazing sleepy feeling and lay down and sleep?!? I’m guessing that that’s not ok!? I’m also guessing that, this will eventually come at night when it’s bedtime …. Woohoo that sounds incredible
I’m so with you!! Just would love some sort of breakthrough , to encourage me along. As we’ve read , it’s taken many people many months to get there, I think we were just hoping to be further along… we’ve got this!!!👍
I’m sorry you’re having a rough time of it …. Yes I’m struggling with it as well, mostly because I’ve done so many things in bed such as breathing , counting, scanning my body, over my many years of insomnia, that it’s almost triggering for me and I get a bit anxious .
So I if I am not able to rest in my wakefulness I leave the room.
However that is getting old too, because I did that a lot with CBTI, you were to get up , everytime if you’re not able to sleep within 30 , at least now, I can watch tv, thank you Martin , which was not allowed with CBTI.
I’ll keep going! I know this is going to work!
For now I’m just pretty drained , and would love just one good night to know it’ can happen
Oh that’s sounds like heaven! I’m still struggling quite a bit , can’t seem to get a good nights sleep , not sure why my sleep drive hasn’t given me at least one good night in this last 5 weeks … for I’ve been very consistent on my sleep window (10-4)
I know it’s not about aiming or chasing sleep but sleep would sure be helpful haha!! I fall asleep so fast , I wake almost as fast , then the entire night, sometimes the AWAKE exercise makes me more anxious, so I choose a podcast or tv … I start falling asleep pretty quickly only to wake again within an hour.
I will continue to press on , as many on here have done , and
Know my time is comingOMGOSH Sees1970 i am so sorry!!!
I jinxed you😩
This is Part of why I signed up for Martin’s course! I have done seriously SOO many meds , all to help me sleep .. all to only work for awhile , until I had to go up on the dose and then it stop working altogether! I was so tired of that song and dance! I just wanted to sleep on my own without meds,black out curtains,taking a hot bath, yoga, no screen time hours before bed, def no fun snacks like brownies an hour before bed!!! Haha I drove myself crazy trying to do all these right things … and now I’m literallly chuckling out loud all by myself because of ALL THESE rules I placed on myself, and to no avail!!That is why this excited me so much ! Like he mentioned once, ask a sleeper what they do before they go to sleep ? ‘ NOTHING!’ They just go to bed haha
my husband is one of those, and he is a saint …to have dealt with me and this sleep issue for waaay too long!!
I wanted so bad , for me to be doing better by now, I’m not , my biggest struggles are trying to keep my eyes open till my sleep window , and then the mornings are pretty rough ( 2-4 hrs sleep for weeks) However , once I get up and get going ….. I do function and ‘that’ blows my mind
Come on sleep drive !!Oh I so hope and pray the very best for you as well❤️
Ohhh these comments give me such hope! I mentioned in an earlier forum …that today is rough!!
So I am sitting here reading all these comments to keep me inspired and motivated , I have always been a pretty positive person , whom, even with this insomnia that I’ve had for soooo mannny years , I never totally gave up ‘doing things’ I enjoy. I did however get into some ‘funky’ days /weeks of depression… and would mope around a bit feeling sorry for myself, but that just hurt me and my poor hubby!! I cannot wait till I can share ‘my story’ of all the sleep I’m getting 😁
I love reading all these success stories… your helpful insights really truly are what keeps me going … gonna practicing NOW , now hahaWell Buddy@370 how are you doing as of today?
I just started 4 weeks ago and I ‘truly believe ‘ that this is going to work, but it sure can be tough!! Today I am dragging for sure , I haven’t yet had what I’d call a good night .. for fours weeks it’s been 2-4 (four was great but only one night )
I was SO hoping to be one of those people , that connected the dots early on and didn’t think about sleep at all. I am doing my best to practice , focus on my actions what I can control and keep
Pushing forwardSame, it’s very helpful for us newbies to read of those that have ‘gone before us’ I SO appreciate all these comments,
I’m struggling so much currently and know from the course ‘chasing sleep’ doesn’t work.. I’m practicing the tools outlined, and continue to be hopeful, it’s just pretty brutal at the moment and tough to not get caught up in the struggleSleep… wow that sounds amazing!! I’m on my 5th week with Martins course and absolutely LOVE this kind of approach, I SOOO want to be where you are 😊that’s fantastic that this shift for you seemed to happen so quickly. I decided before I started the program to wean off my sleep meds ( which weren’t working anyway , but was too afraid to quit them) annnd things are pretty rough at the moment , that I sometimes feel that I’ll be the ‘one’ that this doesn’t work for. However it’s also the only program I’ve found that gives me such hope!! All the success stories of those ( and you ☺️) that are doing well! I sure wish I could ‘get it’ as quick as it seems you have…
I’m going on 20 + years of this so I understand it’s not at all a quick fix, you give me ( and I’m sure others) great hope!!!
Thanks again for sharing
