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'MarinaFournier' wrote on '28:
My husband's asleep, or I'd ask him if he had any anxiety at that point. Mind you, I was already doing the diet&exercise control for gestational diabetes at the 2nd month. I was tested due to age (30), weight (190) and family history of diabetes–DO NOT worry about this part. However, if at the usual time, your wife IS dx'd with GDM, write me directly. If that's in her future, she will have an easier time than I did, as she most likely doesn't have the risk factors I had, and mere dietary changes and exercise will take care of it.
About what are you anxious? Is it something that talking to new dads–or even dads of older kids would help? As Martin said, if anxiety is at the root of your insomnia, there're plenty of remedies for that, including non-chemical ones, such as yoga, relaxation exercises, and therapy–maybe there's even a group of first-time dads-to-be run by a local hospital or medical group.
Feel free to air it here, if you like. We won't laugh, call the cops, or think you're any stranger than any of us are already!
That's good! I'm having a hell of a time dealing with my wife being pregnant because I was an abused kid, and while I thought I had worked through most of that stuff already, a TON of it has reemerged now. It was emotional, not physical, but it was pretty violent all the same. It's at times overwhelming. I wasn't on any kind of medication or in therapy as of 8 weeks ago, but I'm now seeing a talk therapist, have an appt with an EMDR therapist on wednesday, have seen energy healers, have taken more pharmaceuticals than I though was even possible and am basically trying everything I can think of to work through this. It's at times the scariest, most harrowing time of my life (at least since I was a small kid). And my wife isn't even due 'til March! After this, taking care of a baby might seem like child's play. Probably not…but it's nice to think that sometimes. 🙂
I'm very lucky because my wife is amazing and I have created a pretty decent support system to help guide me. But it's still freaking scarier than hell. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. So I got the universal holy crap I'm going to be a dad stuff too, with a healthy dose of post traumatic stress throw in for good measure. It makes for a really good time. 🙂
'Margaret' wrote on '24:Welcome to the list, Scott. I had to chuckle when I saw the cause of your insomnia was an upcoming baby. My husband did the same thing forty years ago. His anxiety fell away from him when he first held his little girl in his arms. I hope it will be the same for you. Margaret
Thanks Margaret! It's good to hear that. My wife and I share your hope. A lot. 🙂
