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Hi Karla,
That’s great that you had that sleep! I was the same after sleeping for that length, I felt exhausted, body not used to it but I got better as day progressed. Last night I went to bed around 1.15 as I was yawning, I felt a little anxious because I had slept so good night before I started overthinking would I do the same tonight?? but I didn’t, it took a good hour to drop off, but I seemed to be drifting in and out of sleep all night, waking, dropping off. etc, that’s still an improvement, my husband was off this morning and when I woke I said I had a headache due to bad sleep quality, he said.. stay in bed and I’ll sort my son, I said NO WAY, that’s old behaviour, I’m getting up and staying up even if I lounge around. I’m so happy I did, it’s what I want to do, for one month I’m going to drag myself through it. I have a headache but will be fine, I’m working this afternoon so will just go with the flow. x
That’s tough for you, good on you for pulling yourself out of bed! i still have to master that, I’m doing it in the mornings, which I never did so I’m proud of myself for achieving that. I was so happy last night, I don’t remember it being too much of a struggle to get to sleep around 1.30ish and my son came in at 8.30am. i was completely thrilled, I got up straight away as I still could have slept on, bed so lovely and warm but I just said NO knowing it would totally disrupt tonight. So it’s 12.25 am, I’m still waiting for sleepiness to hit, it’s very isolating, everyone asleep in the world except me! oh and all my insomniac friends! I found one thing this week though, no matter how tired I was I still did stuff that I had planned, usually I end up cancelling plans, I made myself do them, and it made me feel so much better, I’ve been very depressed over my insomnia and how it’s ruling my life, after listening to Martins’ podcasts i decided not to let it (insomnia) have that much power over me and my life, I’m almost looking at it as a person trying to control me! so I’m almost telling it you’re not winning this battle any longer, I’ve had enough, sounds crazy i know but it’s held me back for too long, I’m going to struggle on and do stuff regardless of how tired i feel. it’s hard but at the end of the day i dont’ feel depressed that I’m wasting my life away thinking about how little i sleep! Good luck and stay in touch. x
I wonder also should we go to bed when we feel like sleeping, reading up on it , it says to go to bed when you feel very sleepy so I guess that’s when you could go to bed, it looks like you fought it well but then the sleep window was gone? I’m not sure, I never feel sleepy to that extent so I wouldn’t know, I feel tired but when I go to bed it’s like I’ve hit an electric spring because I become so alert once I hit the pillow, that’s why I’m doing the sleep restriction. i have to set a time of 1am as if I stayed up all night I wouldn’t feel sleepy! Hope it gets better for us all. it’s torture!
Hi Martin,
Thanks for your reply, he more or less said that it’s primary insomnia so my brain is firmly wired in that way, suggested I could try sleep restriction at some point but not then as my child was a toddler so wouldn’t be a good time, also advised me to throw away every book I had about sleep and all sleeping aids I had and to drink tea if I wanted at night as the more I tried to control sleep the less it would help. At that time I had such a strict regime about sleep and the whole family had to abide with me… the irony… they all slept great and I was wide awake all night. Thank you for all your information free for people suffering, you really are great and I’m getting great help just from listening and reading.
Hi there, i hear you! i read about sleep restriction and I think it’s all about association with the bed, it’s for sleep and nothing else, no reading, no tv, no phones, cuppa tea! i would have breakfast in bed, cups of tea, tv, phone, books. so I’ve taken all these things away, even my clock and am doing the full on sleep restriction, EXCEPT when I go to bed around 1am-1.30 I turn lights out but I don’t get back up even when I’m not asleep as I never fall asleep fast, also the one night I tried to get out of bed my body was like lead, i really couldn’t move to get up. I get up at 8am no matter how much sleep I’ve had, it’s very hard but so is insomnia. up to last week i went back to bed every morning to get more sleep after the school run and never went back to sleep , got more frustrated and barely made it to work for the afternoons. It’s so so difficult so I’m going to give this a trial for a month, that’s what I’ve committed to and if there’s no difference I’ll think of something else, but i feel it will help. I’m exhausted this week but taking it very easy in the mornings, i relax on the sofa and watch morning tv , i tell myself it’s all for the good. Good luck!
Hi , i used to take sleeping tablets, 3.75 but always hated the groggy feeling, I tried everything on the market to sleep, melatonin did nothing for me what so ever. my son also has insomnia and is on 2 drops of melatonin a few nights a week as he stays awake until 1am and later and is only 8. I decided last week not to resort to any tablets/magnesium/melotonin/valarian/rescue sleep/night nurse/piriton….. you get my drift. . i find 4 hours of natural sleep far outweighs 5 hours of drugged sleep. I’m done with dependence on these aids, I’m trying to release the anxiety by telling myself I’ll be fine even if I don’t sleep, that has helped my anxiety, that I’ll feel crap without sleep but I’ll get through it with tea/coffee!! i had a huge dependency on tablets at one stage and still sometimes feel like taking one to get out of my own head but know deep down it’s not the answer. I’m on night 6 here and am dreading the morning as I usually stay in bed until midday at weekends but determined to get up at 8am . hope it gets better for you.
Hi Karla,
I feel your every word, you poor thing, i’m too doing the sleep restriction but more sleep compression for the last 5 nights. It takes me 2-3 hours to go to sleep every night no matter how tired I am, sometimes I don’t go to sleep. I started reading Martins podcasts and youtube videos Monday after a horrendous night, that night i stayed up really late until i felt sleepy, i don’t mind staying up late as I’m a complete night owl but have a 8 year old son so had to change my whole life around when he arrived. I go to bed now (since Monday) at 1-2am and i don’t get back up again even if i am not alseep in 30 minutes as I’ve never gone to sleep in 30 minutes in my whole life so i just wait it out and i get up at 8am . I’m exhausted this week but no different than when i stayed in bed all morning looking to catch up on sleep which never happens. This morning (Saturday) i asked my husband to pull me out of the bed at 8am because i really want to keep the pattern up, he got me out of the bed at 8,30 with a lot of rants! Maybe because you’re off work now could you just come down stairs and rest there? put a blanket on you relaxing on sofa, i know you’re caring for your partner so I’m sure that must be tiring also. i hope you start getting more sleep, I’m really hoping i do. i also turned the clock away so i can’t keep checking it as that was a huge thing for me, counting how many hours i had before the alarm.. . and i don’t read or go on social media anymore at night! just bed, lights out and sleep.. fingers crossed for us!
Hello Elmtree,
Thank you for your message, yes it’s so difficult, I’m listening to Martin’s Youtube videos and it’s such a relief to know there are tools there to use for a better sleep life! I suppose it’s going to take time as it’s years of insomnia, it’s not going to disappear overnight. Yes let’s both pull each other out of it!! Here’s to a road of recovery!
