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I may do that. Thanks very much Deb! Much appreciated support. Together we are stronger!
Also, we have to look to our blessings with gratitude as not all people have them.
I have a loving wife, lovely son, I’m well off and work for myself. I’m quite fit and healthy. As far as I know, apart from the sleep issue, I don’t have anything else wrong with me. And my sleep problems not as bad as some poor people on here.
Sure there are some issues in my wife that are a bit of a pain – me and my wife both have elderly, sick parents and in my wife’s case, a sibling. who need a lot of our support and time. But it’s not so bad.
When I feel down, I count my blessings. One odd thing about insomnia is that it makes me really appreciate it when I DO sleep! Another plus!
LOL! Hey if there are some issues in your wife that are a bit of a pain, you now know a marriage coach to go to!
I also have a lot to be grateful for. I have a wonderful husband, 2 great kids, my business is doing well and I’m finally starting to play jazz piano with other musicians! I played Sunday night and had so much fun, which was really good because I was so exhausted and down that day. Life would be great right now if it weren’t for this dumb insomnia. Besides making me exhausted when I have the bad nights, it’s really affecting my mood too. Last night I cried in my wonderful husband’s arms because I was so exhausted, discouraged and tired of dealing with this. It was was so wonderful to feel his love and support. Afterwards, I felt ready to pick myself up and tackle the bed again! So support in this process is really important.
Deb,
Totally agree. I sometimes breaks down and cry or rage in frustration too. My wife says I should do that “and let it out more”. It would be awful to have to cope with severe insomnia without support of a wife/ husband or close friend – and I feel for anyone who has to cope on their own. At least, they can find sites like this for support.
Daf PS I may (or may not) take longer breaks from the forum in next few weeks, as part of a process of trying to make thinking and discussing sleep less of a BIG THING in my daily life. Think Sasha Stephens said something similar in her book? I know Colin Winter also says this in The Sleep Solution book (think that was the title?) But if you start any post addressed to mewith “Daf” I will open and read it ASAP. Thanks for the support ongoing here.
Daf – Yeah I can’t imagine dealing with this without my husband’s support. He has been wonderful throughout the whole time, sometimes getting up and sitting with me during the lonely nights.
Wishing you luck and hope to hear that things are improving for you next time we hear from you.
Support for me has been very helpful. My wife is with me in bed and out of bed to talk to when I feel like I am going crazy. Without her it would be much more difficult to cope.
Last night was rough. Went to bed at midnight and I have no clue when I fell asleep and when I did it must have been for 30 minutes to an hour and then more tossing and turning until the morning. I did some SC after laying in bed for 45-60 minutes. Just went to another dark room and sat down for 15 minutes to compose myself and try again. The crappy thing is even though I feel like taking the day off work, it will just make time at home slow and screw up my sleep/wake schedule that I’ve been working on.
I know we all sleep but I hate how my brain and body is so stubborn.
Thank you. It helps knowing I am not the only one dealing with this and we can do this.
If I could break it down to a few phrases…
It’s in our heads, probably, though that stupid pineal gland may have something to do with it… but 95% of it is in our stupid heads. It is irrational, illogical and even stupid. (Though we are not stupid, quite the contrary, sufferers are usually v bright, successful over-thinkers)
We have made it into a big part of our lives… wasting time thinking about it day and night.
Realise the fear / anxiety and repetitive thoughts. Accept in the fear feelings, allow it as part of your life….. your body knows how to sleep and it will in the end… Trust in your body
Practice SRT and all the Sleep Hygiene stuff, but don’t be too much of a slave to it. Try to be a bit like a “normal sleeper”
Try to keep busy in the day. If you can’t, focus on anything in front of you – the pavement, a stick, a lump of dog much, whatever… Be in the moment and try to make this more a part of your life
Think of the good things in your life
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