[Fifi]

How do I let go
How do I stop stressing about sleep
Sleep is on my mind 24 7.i hate myself for not sleeping. My thoughts are so bad.

[Chee2308]

Hi @Fifi

Great question! Everyone who has or had insomnia must have asked themselves that. There’s no easy way to answer it unfortunately. My advice to you now is to go through this unwilling and unsolicited journey with open eyes and heart. Try to learn as much as you can from it instead of shutting it out and not wanting to learn anything. If you don’t want learn anything, you cannot and will not develop the courage to deal with it.

Try not to let how you sleep for one night determine your success or failure. There will be plenty of nights down the road so you can always keep trying and there is no reason to despair now because you “failed” to sleep on one single night. The key is consistency.

The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. The desire to be free of insomnia also starts with the desire. With the right knowledge and mindset, you too can overcome this. The key is not to struggle too much with it. Do not be petty and vengeful with sleep just because it doesn’t seem to serve you now. Which is why finding things to occupy your time that you enjoy and gives you meaning and purpose is helpful. It helps you get sleep off your mind even for a while. It may be a bit hard at first but most people find it gets easier as time moves on. When you no longer think about sleep or can’t be bothered anymore, when the obsession stops, when you no longer find any wakefulness annoying, the insomnia always and without fail, tends to resolve itself without any external intervention. Good luck to you.

[Martin Reed]

I think one way we can let go is to move away from trying to fight or avoid all the difficult stuff that we cannot control — for example, nighttime wakefulness, our thoughts, our feelings.

Since we can’t control these things, the more we try to fight or avoid them, the more we struggle — and the struggle usually makes everything more difficult as all that stuff pushes back, consumes our energy, and distracts us from doing things that matter and from the world around us.

An alternative might involve acknowledging all this difficult stuff and allowing it to exist and to come and go as it chooses (even though you might wish it wasn’t present, there it is) — and continuing to engage in activities (no matter how small) that keep you moving toward the life you want to live, even in the presence of this difficult stuff.

You might also find it helpful to be a bit kinder to yourself. What you’re going through is hard — if your best friend or a loved family member was going through what you’re going through, what would you say to them? How would you treat them? Please consider talking to yourself and treating yourself with a similar level of kindness, too.

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