[hopelessatusernames]

I haven’t slept much (none or 2-3 hours) for a month and it’s been hell. My efforts to sleep don’t seem to help so I will try Martin’s methods which I saw on YouTube. Instinctively it makes sense because when I have slept well I never thought about sleep and now I’m obsessed.

[Martin Reed]

I think you shared a big insight here — that putting effort into sleep and engaging in sleep efforts aren’t usually very helpful since they can create an obsession with sleep. Sleep occurs best when we let it happen by itself — we typically experience problems only when we try to get involved in the process!

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[hopelessatusernames]

Thanks for your response, and YouTube videos, they’re helpful so far. Last night was typical, lying for 5 hours before a little sleep but instead of becoming frustrated I was calm. Progress I think

[Martin Reed]

How are you getting on?

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[hopelessatusernames]

Not well! Finding it hard to stick to sleep restriction and I’ve lost my calm at not sleeping well. Been keeping a sleep diary over 10 days and the only 2 days which have been good are when I napped during the day and also drank alcohol, so I’m drawing the conclusion (probably wrongly) that I should do that every day. Also wondering if I even have a sleep drive! Last night I lay awake in bed or on the couch from 10pm to 5am, finally gave up and got up properly at 5. Lay on the couch, and fell asleep til 9am. So I can sleep but only when I’m not expecting to. So that must mean I have a sleep drive, right? Martin, are some people too neurotic / anxious to benefit from this method?

[hopelessatusernames]

Thought I’d post on the forum because it helps me to write down what’s happening.

Last night I only got about 3 hours, having gone to bed at 11:30. Not my plan for a sleep window but I haven’t yet managed to resist going to bed when I’m falling asleep sitting up in living room. So no ‘better’ in terms of hours slept or succeeding at the sleep window.

BUT it was a lot better in that:
– I slept in my own bed not on the spare mattress, the couch, the floor… I’ve commited to my own bed now and am not trying to replace it with another place that I’m tossing and turning.
– When I couldn’t sleep I got up and sat on a chair I’ve set up in my bedroom and listened to an audio book (probably didn’t give these sessions enough of a chance because I got back in bed pretty quickly and still couldn’t sleep)
– most of all, I didn’t panic in bed when I realised that sleep wasn’t coming any time soon. I didn’t get angry at myself and fearful of the bed. This is the biggest win from last night.

Today I have managed to do some things that I’ve put off through feeling too tired — going shopping for plants and potting them up. This made me think there are a lot of things I used to enjoy which I’ve stopped doing, so I’m going to write a list of them.

[Martin Reed]

Thanks for sharing that you slept in your own bed and have committed to sleeping in your own bed — and that you got out of bed when being in bed didn’t feel good to help make being awake a bit more pleasant!

We can’t control sleep but we sure can control our behaviors to help create better conditions for sleep!

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