Hi Jenna, and I am glad you found Martin’s site.
There are millions of people walking around who did not sleep that well the night before. And sometimes the reasons are due to what’s happening right now–pain from a sore knee, anxious about sleeping through an early alarm clock, noisy neighbors, overdue bills, etc. I imagine there could be nights of poor sleep due to pregnancy, etc. In other words, what’s called situational insomnia. It happens.
The bigger problem is when insomnia starts taking on a life of its own. The initial reason for the poor sleep has passed, but you spent a lot of days tired with your brain getting scrambled with thoughts along the lines of “I can’t handle this,” “I’m probably not going to sleep well tonight, who knows when, how much longer am I supposed to live like this,” etc.
When I find myself falling back into this rut–and setbacks happen–I try to remind myself not to take my thoughts too seriously, that I’m pretty hammered from insomnia right now and not thinking straight, that the thoughts are just popping into my head unannounced and sometimes even bizarre, but I can just let them drift through my mind like cloud shapes passing through the sky.
And that nobody sleeps great every night….I wish I had slept better last night, but hey, I’ve been here before. In other words, not freaking out about sleep when it is something which will just come on its own when I stop trying.
Take care, you are indeed not alone in this.