[mdoss]

Hello my name is Meredith and I am new. I don’t know really what to say about myself. My dad died when I was 15 and I took care of my mom till she died in 2007. I have had insomnia for as long as I can remember. I am married and my husband can fall asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow. That really drives me crazy and it may sound weird but I am jealous of him. I played tennis in college and love sports. I think I might be nocturnal because it seems that the later in the day the more awake I get. So by bed time I am wide awake. I am really happy I found this forum because I am so sick of talking to people who have never dealt with insomnia. All I hear is why don’t you just set your alarm clock for the same time every day and then eventually your body will adjust. 😮 Or even better when I am told just to lay in bed, close my eyes and relax. 😡 I mean it really is amazing that I have never thought of these things. AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH! 😀

[Caers]

Not weird. I've been jealous of people who can sleep well for most of my life. Damn them! *shakes tired angry fist*

Yeah, don't you love it when you mention you've had insomnia for ages and people try to offer all those suggestions? Because you're NEVER thought of those simple remedies before! Oh fancy that, maybe setting a schedule will work! Maybe talking to a doctor about it is the right course of action! Because we are all stupid and sleep-deprivation addled and cannot think of those things ourselves. 😀

Anyway. HI! Welcome!

[Dozydame]

Definitely not weird!! There's nothing more frustrating than being an insomniac and living with someone who couldn't stay awake if they tried. Well welcome, at least here you'll get lots of support from people who know exactly how you feel.

I too feel like I'm more of a nightowl and can't believe it when I start to feel human about 6pm after dragging myself around all day in total exhaustion. I've been an insomniac for over 40 years and my own mother still says things like “have you thought of having a hot milk drink?” Grrrrrrrrr

I just had a thought about the nocturnal thing…….. I was born in England but have lived nearly all my life in Australia. Do you think it's possible your body clock is set at birth and stays that way even though you move to a different time zone??? :wacko:

[pfield]

Hi Meridith – my wife is exactly like your husband – sleeps like a log – very annoying!! She never understood my insomia properly until recently when I had issues with my GP regarding my sleeping pills (which eventually got sorted). I kept a sleep diary for a few weeks when I was off sleeping pills and it really opened her eyes to how badly I was affected by my insomnia. I wrote down what happened at night (how long I slept/ what I thought about/ frustrations etc) and then also wrote up during the day how I was feeling (tired/ headache/ lethargic etc). Not only did it help her understand (and stop making wisecracks like just relax and close your eyes etc!!) it also helped my doctor understand. Good luck finding support and help and welcome.

[MarinaFournier]

'mdoss' wrote on '06:

I have had insomnia for as long as I can remember. I am married and my husband can fall asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow. That really drives me crazy and it may sound weird but I am jealous of him.

Preaching to the choir, here, but we all say, Sing it, Sister! My husband never could understand why I couldn't just go to sleep. I have more idiopathic reactions to more meds! I would like to have a talk with whoever designed my body, and have sharp, pointy objects nearby.

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I am so sick of talking to people who have never dealt with insomnia.

Yes, as you can tell, anyone who can't just go to sleep at the right time is by inference dumb as a rock. Now, some of us do get that way after being awake too long, but I never noticed stupid people having insomnia, nor have I encountered stupid insomniacs. When I was working in the mid-Wilshire district in LA, CA, I saw more people assuming that since I didn't have a car or drive (because I didn't have a car, duh), that I must be halfway to retarded, and not know how to get anywhere. Surprise! Navigator! I can probably get from the Catholic school I attended in Albuquerque in the mid 60's, long before I drove, to either Old Town or the State Fairgrounds. My husband can't remember how to get around in the Pasadena area, much less the greater part of LA, and we only left there in 1989. I have a strong visual memory…and I still go on autopilot to the wrong place sometimes.

Welcome, and know we understand.

[Martin Reed]

Welcome to Insomnia Land, Meredith!

As you've already noticed, we're a friendly and supportive bunch here and we definitely understand what you say when you refer to feelings of jealousy of a 'sleeping like a baby' spouse – it's actually a very common occurrence, so don't feel bad about it!

Can you trace your insomnia back to the death of your father, or have you been struggling with sleep for as long as you can remember?

Anyway, welcome once again and I look forward to seeing you around the forums.

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[1949Molly]

'mdoss' wrote on '07:

Hello my name is Meredith and I am new. I don’t know really what to say about myself. My dad died when I was 15 and I took care of my mom till she died in 2007. I have had insomnia for as long as I can remember. I am married and my husband can fall asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow. That really drives me crazy and it may sound weird but I am jealous of him. I played tennis in college and love sports. I think I might be nocturnal because it seems that the later in the day the more awake I get. So by bed time I am wide awake. I am really happy I found this forum because I am so sick of talking to people who have never dealt with insomnia. All I hear is why don’t you just set your alarm clock for the same time every day and then eventually your body will adjust. 😮 Or even better when I am told just to lay in bed, close my eyes and relax. 😡 I mean it really is amazing that I have never thought of these things. AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH! 😀

mdoss,

Welcome to our forum. I'm on a pretty good track right now. I take 3 sleep meds (Temazepam, Ativan and Seroquel). I've tried taking more of this and that, but for right now I'm just taking these 3 every night.

[1949Molly]

'Caers' wrote on '07:

Not weird. I've been jealous of people who can sleep well for most of my life. Damn them! *shakes tired angry fist*

Yeah, don't you love it when you mention you've had insomnia for ages and people try to offer all those suggestions? Because you're NEVER thought of those simple remedies before! Oh fancy that, maybe setting a schedule will work! Maybe talking to a doctor about it is the right course of action! Because we are all stupid and sleep-deprivation addled and cannot think of those things ourselves. 😀

Anyway. HI! Welcome!

Caers,

I feel angry at people who can drop off at a moment's notice too. I haven't been able to do that for years and years.

[Hamster]

Hi, Meredith!

I am new too! I mentioned my well rested husband in my intro – it IS frustrating – but my husband , actually, really understands. He will even get up with me at night if I am having a really hard time but I try not to do that too often. Though he does fall asleep on me a lot- while watching movies or even when I am in the middle of talking! That drives me nuts!

Does your mind race at night or are you just not tired?

[Author]

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