[Grandma Maria]

After decades of sleeping like a baby, it stopped. Nightly heart palpitations, losing both parents in six brutal months, and subsequent health issues brought my once peaceful sleep to a screeching halt. Life is now juggling sleep aids, supplements and acupuncture in search of the Holy Grail called sleep. Going to a sleep clinic soon and hope that helps. Suggestions?

[Hbhigg]

Hi grandma Maria
So sorry for your loss and no wonder you are having difficulty sleeping. Please sign up to Martin’s free course it is really worth it and take a look at his other resources they help to put things in perspective. The most important thing to know is that you won’t die from insomnia and just getting on with your life regardless of how little sleep you get is the best way forward.

[Martin Reed]

Hello Grandma Maria and welcome to the forum. Allow me to echo the sentiments shared by Hbhigg and share my condolences for the loss of your parents. At such a difficult time, it would be unusual to sleep well and not to experience difficult thoughts and emotions.

It sounds as though you are spending a lot of time experimenting with sleep aids, supplements, and other things in a bid to improve your sleep — that is a well-trodden path that most people take.

It’s an understandable path to take, too — but, unfortunately, it’s often the ongoing search for the “magic remedy” that perpetuates sleep disruption. Sleep doesn’t need anything to happen — the more we try, the harder it usually becomes.

As suggested by Hbhigg, it can be really helpful to shift focus and attention onto what truly matters and has the most influence over your quality of life — what you do, during the day.

We have two choices here — we can do things that help move us toward the kind of life we want to live, or we can do things that move us away from the kind of life we want to live.

When we are dealing with difficult thoughts, feelings, and emotions (and struggling with sleep) the brain’s default option is usually to encourage us to do things that don’t help us live the kind of life we want to live. We might withdraw from activities that are important to us or do things that aren’t aligned with our values.

If we can make “towards moves”, no matter how small they might be, we can help shift attention away from sleep, be less influenced by difficult thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and engage more in things that truly matter to us and have the most influence over the quality of our lives.

I hope this is helpful.

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