Hello Emma and welcome to the forum. Your story is actually not all that unusual (as suggested by Steve). Sleep disruption is completely normal when we experience a life-changing event or trauma. What you experienced definitely qualifies as both!
Sleep usually recovers once we “get over” or “get used to” whatever the initial trigger was (some other examples might be moving house, changing job, getting married, losing a friend or family member, getting divorced, having a child, etc).
However, sometimes we become very concerned about this sleep disruption even though it’s completely normal because — after all — we rarely (if ever) struggled with sleep before.
When we worry about sleep, we make sleep more difficult. Then, when sleep becomes more difficult, we often implement behaviors to try to improve our sleep or compensate for lost sleep. This can include things like:
- Canceling plans with friends
- Calling in sick to work
- Trying to conserve energy
- Going to bed earlier
- Napping during the day
- Staying in bed later
- Developing sleep rituals
Unfortunately, all these behaviors make sleep worse — and, before we know it, we are perpetuating the sleep issue and this can trigger a vicious cycle of increasing worry and anxiety about sleep, more compensatory behaviors, and worse sleep.
The good news is, you have caught your insomnia relatively early — so it will be easier for you to tackle and get your sleep back on track if you take action sooner rather than later.
It sounds to me as though you would be a good candidate for cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia — have you discussed this with your doctor by any chance?
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