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To put it in short, my moms been getting worse and worse and worse. I'll save you the gruesome details but i haven't been sleeping. I got 1 hour now in 4 days.
Want to know why? Sure you do! you all love my candy butt!
My moms in the mental ward, they dont think she'll be able to get released again. If she does it wont be for a while.
And… my girlfriend got hit by a car and is in a coma. She's not dying or anything and they say she got a chance at waking up and she'll be fine when she wakes, just will need to rest, and heal.
If you don't know me I suffer from chronic leg and back pain, it's worse than childbirth it's that bad and I cant find any help for it, you naem a pill I've been on it.
She's my life. My world, my everything. She's got complex regional pain syndrome and her chronic pain is even worse than mine.
Im getting daily updates from her best friend and to be honest. I've been through a lot in life but this is the single hardest thing I've ever dealt with.
Im falling apart, I can't sleep, i cant eat, it's not just oh i love you baby u r my world that you hear from little 13 year olds.
Im only 21 and we've been together over a year now. We started dating Feb 11th but abotu 3-5 months before that we were close and said we loeved each other.
We formed a bond through understanding each others pain. She was always here for me and when I was dating a girl who was so wrong for me she would say things like you're not happy with her, you need someone more like… me. and maybe if you open your eyes and look at someone you don't expect to like you you might just find what you've been looking for your whole life.
I used to think she was this gorgeous girl i wasnt able to get. A girl way out of my league.
I'll admit it. It's the truth im young. 21 she's 18. It's no young puppy love. Old people I know(Im always at Tim Hortons and I talk to lots of older people) always tell me the way I talk about my girlfriend and the emotion people feel from me makes me seem like im an old man who's been happily married and in love for like 50 years haha.
I have cared for a few girls before and none have EVER been like this. I've never been in a position where the simple act of her signing offline or not being online for a day or two makes me feel like im completely alone and she's the same with me.
Always on each others minds and she's been in university(was until she got hit) and trying so hard to talk to me via fb and emails everyday and go to school where she would wake up at 5 am or 6 am after like an hour or two sleep a night get a shower and dressed, catch the 7:09 train and then go to school, take the train to the like train station and get there at 4:30-6:30 depending on how long she's in school that day, then have to wait on her step mother to get her. On a 4:30 day she'd get picked up at 6:45 and on the 6:30 days around 7:15. Then she spends an hour to 3 at relaxation which is 5 times a week.
Get home around between 8 or so until 10. Then to bed to try and sleep after sending me a message/email/video call.
Then on weekends do school work talk to me when she can etc. It's hard but we make it work!
But what is getting to me is, she isn't just my girlfriend or my best friend. She's my heart. She's what keeps everything together, my soul mate if you believe in them.
It's just… it's like a part of my life is not here. She's in a coma and i cant sleep, eat, drink, do anything.
Dad took me to the hospital and i didnt want to go because i am just upset about everything and the doctor told me it's natural to be upset but i've never seen someone who's will to live has been diminished so much from their loved one being sick etc.
I am sorry for my absence and everything.
I don't know what to do besides wait and hope. Just like she would.
ALSO Im not trying to be rude, if you want to say i'll pray for you and her don't. If i offend anyone I am deeply sorry but I am not a religious man and it REALLY bothers me when people tell me they'll pray for me or something. I don't need that right now.
Hi Ivan.
I can't imagine what you are going through. It seems you have already had way too much pain to deal with in your young life.
I sincerely hope you find the strength to hang in there and that your girlfriend will be fine.
I hope it helps to know others are thinking of you and sending you love and support from the other side of the world.
Please keep us informed.
Can you take something to knock yourself out for a few hours? As we all know things never seem as bad after you get some sleep.
I wish I could offer you something more than this, Ivan.
Please take care of yourself.
xx
Wow.
I've been offline and away from the forum trying to deal with a lot of personal problems, but I had to come online today to show my support.
'IvanAleisterMesniaa' wrote on '13:It's just… it's like a part of my life is not here. She's in a coma and i cant sleep, eat, drink, do anything.
Part of your life is STILL there. She's not gone, she's healing and she's going to need you more than ever when she comes round. You have to keep reminding yourself of this. Constantly if it comes to that.
'IvanAleisterMesniaa' wrote on '13:I don't know what to do besides wait and hope. Just like she would.
Take strength from your love for her and use that to stay strong and focussed. Like you said, you know she would do the same for you. Keep reminding yourself this is a temporary struggle and it WILL pass.
Franky
I am so sorry to hear about your mom and girlfriend. Is there any possible way of you getting out to be with your girlfriend even if just for a short while?
You have support and friends here, so don't forget that. Keep us updated and if there is anything I (or the rest of the group) can do, just say the word.
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Thank you everyone for everything you've said<3
I can't get out to see her since i have to watch the apartment here while dad works and do stuff for my grandmother also I don't have the money to go down and she's rich which is makign her treatment better(getting top treatment she can) and it's a strict hospital.
They only let her step mom and her father in the room for like 15 minutes at a time. Her best friends cant even go in to see her and hug her.
Even if I could go down and afford it etc. I wouldnt be able to go in and see her. AND I'd have to find my own place to stay there since tehres family in her house etc.
All I can do is wait. That's what I will do. And when she wakes up she'll see all the messages from her friends and I. How We all thought of her and how I never gave up on her.
All I know right now is, she's stable, in a coma but she isn't dying or will die and when she wakes up she'll need to be in the hospital a bit and she's got brain activity etc.
So it's looking good, still rally hard.
I'm thinking of you Franky. Keep us updated. It's great to hear that her prognosis is good.
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Thanks Martin, and I sure will! I won't hear from her friends or anyone for a few hours or more. I think I've cried all the water in my body out!
Broken arm and leg. Some tiny organ damage nothing too serious. Still in the coma. Better chance than they thought.
That's good to hear. Is the coma medically induced?
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No, she got hit by the car, blacked out and never woke up yet. Still has brain activity though. Her mom posted on her facebook that she'll keep us updated and everything we say she'll read off to her and told me she really appreciates that she has a boyfriend like me who wont give up on her.
I don't care how long it takes I will fight for her.
Jessica woke up last night, except then she crashed and was forced back into a coma 🙁
Hey Ivan,
sorry to hear Jessica is back into a coma.
But don't loose your hope. She has woken up once so she may be able to do it again.
I'm sure all the love and support that reaches her will give her some extra strength.
Hi guys anyone heard anymore news. I keep checking for added posts but nothing for a while xx
Sorry I haven't been posting. Anyway, gf lied to me, wasn't in a coma, lied about a lot of other stuff etc so I got rid of that.
'IvanAleisterMesniaa' wrote on '04:Sorry I haven't been posting. Anyway, gf lied to me, wasn't in a coma, lied about a lot of other stuff etc so I got rid of that.
Oh no hon I am so sorry, and theres me dragging it all back up again. I can fit both feet in my mouth if I try (hitting hand on head)
Hope you are staying positive and doing well
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