Hello @RoadWorn and welcome to the forum!
From reading your post, it sounds as though you might be getting a bit tangled up in trying to control your sleep. This is something that trips a lot of people up.
If we implement sleep restriction with the intent of making a certain amount or type of sleep happen, we can end up struggling as we “chase the numbers” or otherwise put pressure on ourselves to make sleep happen.
Ultimately, we cannot make a certain amount or type of sleep happen through effort. The more we try, the more we can struggle.
It might be helpful to think of sleep restriction as a single tool that is intended to help you move away from chasing after sleep — from doing things like going to bed earlier or staying in bed later in an effort to make more sleep happen.
If it’s used in an attempt to achieve a specific sleep efficiency or a certain amount of sleep, it has the potential to create more struggle — not less.
Have you discussed your concerns with your therapist? Perhaps it might be time to explore or practice some additional tools that might help you respond to wakefulness and difficult nights in a different way if you find they’re currently creating a lot of struggle?
I hope there’s something useful here and I wish you all the best.
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