[MommyE18]

Hello everyone! Mommy’s in particular.

Do you find yourself waking early say anywhere between 3-5, and stress out because you know your baby will be up soon, so you really want to get those extra couple hours, but seemingly can’t?! How do I let go of that worry.

[hiker]

Hi MommyE18,

I am not a mommy, but if I may, perhaps what you are describing is any situation in which you really want to do well, and you want the energy to do well, and that means sleeping now. And so it becomes imperative to sleep now.

Unfortunately this is one area where trying harder does not help. Maybe it comes down to just doing the best you can. That okay, you’re tired, but you love your baby and so you’ll just do what you are able to do right now.

I find that when I have a rough bout of insomnia, underneath it all is a feeling of having requirements. A good night’s sleep becomes not just something I would like, but something I have to have or everything will fall apart, that if I am tired I will be a lousy mother, and I have to be a perfect mother.

I also find that when I am tired, I am more likely to get into this mindset. It helps when I can remember it is the insomnia talking, I am a little scattered, thoughts racing all over…..and eventually I recall that wait, I am tired right now, I don’t have to lay such huge expectations on my shoulders, I’ll just do the best I can.

No magic formula…..it could help to check out Martin’s videos, emails, etc. which are available on this site even if you don’t sign up for CBT course, though maybe that is something you would like to explore also?

You are not alone in this. Take care..

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