[Mencer23]

Hi, i have been having restless sleep and insomnia for the last 10 years. I never feel well rested when I wake up and throughout the day, I always feel nauseous because of the lack of good quality sleep, I have tried sleep restriction and only being in the bed to sleep and waking up at the same time everyday but still have insomnia. Can I please get help on this.

[Martin Reed]

Welcome to the forum! You mentioned that you’ve tried sleep restriction — can you tell us a bit more about that? When did your sleep window start and when did it end? How long (and how consistently) did you implement it for before deciding it wasn’t useful?

Can you also tell us a bit more about your sleep at the current time? Over the past couple of weeks, how much sleep would you say you get on an average night? Do you tend to find it hard to fall asleep or stay asleep?

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[Mencer23]

I started my sleep window at 12am to 6:30am and did this consistently for 3 months. I would still have restless sleep each night and would feel extremely tired throughout the day and had no energy to do anything.

My sleep at the current time is from 11:00pm to 6:30am. Over the past couple weeks, I would say i get 5-6 hours a night of restless sleep each night. It is harder for me to stay sleep.

[KennyS]

I can appreciate it getting harder and harder to get and stay asleep, in the past few days my sleep meds have stopped working completely so I am getting 2 to 3 hours sleep from 8am to 10 -11 am and I can not go on like this for much longer. I also did a sleep study and was told I have insomnia but they did nothing to alleviate the issue.. I’m 63 and have suffered insomnia for 8 to 10 year. During that time my mental state has dropped off a cliff with depression and anxiety and moodiness. I have issues leaving the house as well as making decisions. I am on disability so time is not an issue but I really need this to work to save my sanity as well as my wife

• This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by KennyS.

[Mencer23]

Hi Martin, any suggestions on what I should do? Thank you.

[Martin Reed]

What’s your goal here, @Mencer23? If I could wave a magic wand and give you the kind of sleep you want to get, what would you be doing differently in your life?

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[Mencer23]

Hi Martin, life would be different If I could get the kind of sleep I want to get because I will feel more happy and get to do things I love to do again. I will have more energy at work and to go workout. I will be able to hang with friends and family again. I won’t have to make excuses for avoiding family functions and gatherings because I’m always tired. My health will improve as I will be able to go to the gym again and eat healthy again. My relationships will improve as everyone won’t say that I’m quiet and look tired all the time. Getting good sleep will help me create new friends.

[Mencer23]

Hi Martin, any suggestions on what I should do? Thank you.

[Martin Reed]

I wonder if you might find it helpful to start doing some of these things (or actions related to these things) even after difficult nights and even in the presence of fatigue and any other difficult thoughts or feelings since it sounds as though they’re important to you:

* Eating healthy
* Going to the gym
* Spending time with friends and family
* Attending family functions and gatherings
* Exploring ways to socialize/make new friends

Although it can feel as though sleep controls all of these things, it doesn’t. We always have control over our actions — no matter how dire our situation.

The more we withdraw from living a life that’s important to us, the more we move away from the kind of life we want to live — and that doesn’t usually lead to any improvement in our current situation.

If we can move toward the kind of life we want to live, even in the presence of pain, difficulty, challenge, and struggle, then we end up living a life that’s more aligned with our values — and that might help up live a richer and more fulfilling life. Then, the difficult stuff might feel less difficult.

Unfortunately, we can’t control our thoughts and feelings. We can’t make ourselves feel happy all the time (nobody is happy all the time). We can’t eliminate fatigue (as a parent, I feel tired ALL the time!). We can’t get rid of anxiety — it will always come and go for as long as we are alive. As human beings, we will experience the full range of human thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Some will feel good and some will not.

What we do have control over are our actions.

I hope there’s something helpful here.

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[Mencer23]

Thank you so much. Yes I need to push through and do all of those things even though I feel extremely tired, and I can’t let the restless sleep interfere with all of those actions.

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