[Rubylight]

This is so discouraging. I’m in my sixth week of sleep restriction and still seem to be getting nowhere, mostly heading backwards…the “success stories”that used to give me hope only make me feel awful now, as this seems to be taking SUCH a long time. Still averaging about three and a half hours of sleep a night. Initially, I felt I was doing well with acceptance and learning not to stress, but the continued lack of improvement is really getting me down. I know it’s different for everyone, and I’m wondering if anyone else has been stuck like this and/or took a really, really long time to see results. I KNOW I’m not supposed to worry about results and just stick to the programme, but is this going to go on FOREVER??

[Martin Reed]

It’s OK to worry — you’re a human being not a robot, right?

If you felt as though you were moving forward instead of backwards, what would be different?

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[Rubylight]

I’d be getting more sleep, and worrying about it less! There’d be fewer zero-sleep nights and more good nights. (A ‘good’ night at this sorry point is four to five hours of sleep.) I’d be the way I used to be, before this happened. So…………I guess the only thing i can more or less control in this scenario is the ‘worrying about it less’ part. And not comparing myself to hypothetical people who might have been more successful in the initial stages than I’ve been. And practicing patience, not being in such a hurry.

[Martin Reed]

It sounds as though your goal might be to control things that cannot be controlled (more sleep, less worry). For as long as that’s a goal — and an understandable one at that! —perhaps you might be setting yourself up for struggle?

To put it another way, how successful could you expect to be if your goal was to turn the moon into cheese? Might trying to achieve that goal end up setting you up for difficulty and, in turn, make it harder for you to live the kind of life you want to live?

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[Rubylight]

Thanks. Martin. You’re right, of course. Trying not to try is such a tricky business. But I’m learning more now about how to not be attached to the outcome, nor so rigid about the “rules”, and slowly, slowly, slowly, there’s incremental improvement. And the happier I feel about that, the better it seems to get!

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