[Avocado]

Been struggling with sleep for the past 6 weeks on and off , my sleep prob is worrying about sleep itself and negative thought and questions my self about sleep make it worse, if i didnt sleep first hour or two i get more anxious , some days i get good sleep if i distract my mind from sleep , but some days cant stop my anxiety about sleep .

[Scott]

Hey @Avocado – welcome!

As much as we want to, we can’t control our thoughts but we can control how we respond to them. Negative thoughts are only harmful to us when we give them attention. Insomnia-related thoughts don’t cause our sleep issue but when we try to push them away and fight with them, we can certainly experience continual sleep issues. What is it about being awake that gives you anxiety? Are you able to engage in activities that enrich your life instead of struggling with your thoughts? When a negative sleep thought pops into your mind, what action, if any, do you take?

Scott J

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[Avocado]

Thank u scott for ur replay , when bed time approach i get anxious and thoughts like “ what if i didnt sleep tonight “ or what the consequences for not sleeping or being awake for long period “ these kinds of thoughts always get me and make the sleep so much worse, sometimes i try to distract my self by get up from the bed , do something else , but when get back to bed my anxiety will be back , my sleep issue not effecting my daily life or my work , i try be positive about it , if i didnt sleep at all , i will try to make my next day normal .

[Scott]

Many insomniacs try to change their daily agendas and cancel social events to accommodate for poor sleep so it’s good to hear that you’re continuing to enjoy life and living it as meaningful as possible. Since we can’t control our thoughts – when they arrive, how frequent they wish to return or the message – do you think it’d be beneficial if you modified your relationship with them instead? Essentially, stop playing tug-o-war with those thoughts because it seems to find a way to win every time. When a sleep-related thought rears it’s ugly head, what if you simply acknowledged it’s presence by saying, “oh, thank you, mind!” and allowing it to come and go as it pleases? Since thoughts are only harmful to us if we begin to believe in them, what if we allow those thoughts to exist? Once you welcome it, return to the activity you were engaged in when it arrived or focus on your breath for a few seconds. It’ll return, but if you continue greeting it in this manner, the less of an impact it’ll have on you.

Hope that helps,
Scott J

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The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

[Avocado]

Thank u scott , i just want to ask u another question , when i go sleep i feel like my mind monitoring itself if will go sleep or not , its like waiting for sleep to happening , i need to stop that habit , how i can resolve that problem? Much appreciate .

[Scott]

That’s the beauty of our mind – it’s always on alert, determining if there’s a need for us to fight or flight, but it can be frustrating when it’s monitoring for danger when it shouldn’t be. Typically, when our mind is scanning for risks, it’s usually accompanied by anxious thoughts. As with our thoughts, we can’t control – as much as we’d like to – our mind from being on alert. We can respond more positively to the monitoring and thoughts by thanking it, as mentioned above, by saying, “oh, thank you, mind!” and returning to what you were doing when that thought arrived. By allowing the thought and monitoring to exist, you stop the endless struggle with your mind. If you continue that practice, those thoughts will greatly diminish in impact and frequency, but it takes time. Look at this exercise like basketball – the more you practice it, the better you become as a basketball player.

Hope that helps,
Scott J

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If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.

The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

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