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i never had a problem sleeping until I suffered a trauma both mentally and physically at age 28. I subsequently moved away a few months later as was expected in, nor hindsight, a very fragile state. Sleeping probs began. Became very depressed which led me to leave the country for college where all the stress worsened everythjng. I have tried valerian tablets and teas. Burning sage like an idiot, always still exercise, kalms and any herbal tablets, yoga, Pilates, lavender obviously. My insomnia got so bad at one point I turned to alcohol purely just to sleep and this led to self harm. I just want to be able to put my head down and fall asleep. Any help appreciated.
Read the effortless sleep method by Sasha Stephens and then read her second book the effortless sleep companion. Those books will help you
Welcome to the forum, Greenday1 — and I am sorry to read about your past trauma and your current problems with sleep.
Can you tell us a bit more about your current sleep pattern? When do you normally go to bed at night, when do you get out of bed in the morning, and roughly how many hours of sleep are you getting on a typical night?
Do you tend to have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or both?
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I tend to go to bed at 11 ish coz my boyfriend goes then but I won’t sleep until 5/6 so I end up getting out of bed and the couch is becoming my bed. He has sleep apnoea which doesn’t help but not the problem. But I’m so so so so tired! In need of help coz I don’t want to take medication and I’m lost. I feel like I’ve done everything!!!!!
I think we have uncovered a starting point here — you should only go to bed when you feel sleepy enough for sleep. If you go to bed before you are sleepy enough for sleep (for example, because your boyfriend is going to bed) you are only going to be lying in bed awake and this is going to perpetuate the problem.
It’s also important to sleep only where you want to be sleeping for the long-term. If sleeping in your bed is your long-term goal, that’s the only place you should sleep (in other words, you should avoid sleeping in the couch unless this is your long-term goal).
More on that in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrNu80ePuA0
I hope this helps!
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Trouble is I can go about a week and work 12 hour shifts and people think I’m drunk (I don’t drink or take anything btw) and then I crash for a few days. It’s really affecting my life. I’ve tried the mildest of sleeping tablets. Hypnosis, homeopathy, exercise, I work in health care. I’ve tried everything!!!!
You mentioned that you have tried everything — but have you tried only going to bed when you feel sleepy enough for sleep (rather than going to bed just because that’s when you boyfriend goes to bed)? Have you tried not sleeping on the couch? Have you tried following a regular (and appropriate) sleep window? Have you tried implementing any cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) techniques?
In your most recent reply, you mentioned that you work shifts — this is a big insight that was not mentioned in your opening post. Do your shifts regularly change? What kind of various shifts do you work? Shiftwork has a huge impact on sleep since it can prevent the body from following a regular sleep/wake cycle.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
I’m currently not working because of my lack of sleep! I can’t put my finger on it. I go to bed with my boyfriend always at the same time but his apnoea doesn’t help. I have lots of stressers in my life
Please consider signing up for Martin’s program. CBT-I works! My insomnia started months after 2 tragedies occurred in my family. My husband is a snorer was well. I was trying to do this in my own, sleeping on the couch etc. I became very depressed. I’ve done another online course, but Martin’s personal email support has been invaluable. There is hope for you in this program. It’s not easy, but it works. Praying for you.
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