[Angeli]

Two months ago I started to implement all the suggestions in this course. And after a lot of struggle to withdraw from all efforts to sleep, including supplements, teas, anti-allergics, rituals etc… I am clean of all sleep aids. I currently have a sleep window of 6.5, always sleeping and waking up at the same time. However I wake up in the middle of the night and stay awake for about 45 min (I’m not sure) It feels like my sleep has split into two pieces. I get out of bed, meditate calmly and go back to sleep. Insomnia I only have when some external stress happens. I wanted to know what to do to have uninterrupted sleep. Or whether it’s normal to have sleep in two halves. Despite this interruption, I’m fine and my anxiety level has gone down a lot.

[Chee2308]

Greetings!
Nobody has any control over sleep and waking up, all of this is decided by your own body. Sleep also tends to get a bit “worse” as you start sleeping better, instead of thinking this is all bad, on the contrary these are all signs of sleeping better, not worse. Good/Bad nights are just opposite sides of the same coin so bad nights tend to follow good nights and vice versa. So everything is quite normal at this point. I wouldn’t be getting into all kinds of activities like meditating etc when waking up because this reinforces the idea that waking up is abnormal; I would just go back to bed to rest and eventually fall asleep. I also suspect the time to fall back asleep will get shorter as you progress along. Just don’t overreact to any waking up or bad nights episodes and you will do fine. Best wishes to you.

[Angeli]

First of all Chee2308 , thank you very much for your precious guidance, it has helped me a lot. I come from a 20-year-old painting without sleeping at all. I used to stay in bed for 10 hours to get to sleep only 4 hours. She survived exhausted, without energy and without the will to live. This course saved my life. I am so grateful!
What confuses me is that doing Sleep Restriction, I learned that if I stay awake with insomnia, I must get out of bed. I think I end up quickly leaving for fear that insomnia will return. At the beginning of the course I got out of bed 3 times a night. It was crazy. I was exhausted. How do I know when to get out of bed?
That night, after his orientations, I didn’t get up and slept straight for 6 hours, with some quick interruptions, but without anxiety.
Can you guide me? Sorry for the English, using translator. – Brazil

[Chee2308]

Greetings!
Doing sleep restriction is only to make you feel sleepy at regular times, it doesn’t guarantee sleep will happen. Sleep is entirely controlled only by your own body and nothing else except being awake long enough. Sufficient wakefulness is the only thing that makes sleep much more likely to happen. Everyone doing the course must understand this.

Getting out of bed also doesn’t guarantee you will sleep either! So if you get out of bed only to make sleep happen, it can make it worse because you are trying so hard! Getting out of bed is meant for you to be okay with being awake, so it doesn’t matter if you get out of bed or not, the idea is to get the pressure off sleeping then sleep comes easier. Good luck and best wishes.

[Angeli]

I understand perfectly! As long as I don’t abandon combat, I will always lose this war. Who will decide when and how I sleep is my body. As much as I try to help, it only gets worse. Just as he knows how long he’s going to live he also knows how long and how I’m going to sleep. I need to surrender to this greater force. I think that everything I’ve tried so far, all treatments, techniques and medications, only made my suffering worse. I really appreciate having been lucky enough to meet you.

[Chee2308]

Greetings Angeli!
The secret recipe is try less. Less is more! Then slowly you begin to realise this is not a “combat” at all, who are you fighting with?? Your own body? It doesn’t make sense. Sleep is something your own body decides all by itself, it has been like that since you were born, just like hunger and breathing. Let your body do all the work, because doing so many things to make you sleep like medications, meditations, etc actually tires you out more, but actually the most tiring is the mental struggle against an inexistent enemy, that is very exhausting! And still you don’t sleep after trying so hard! So just give up and abandon the fight, accept that this will be the way forward for sometime and by being very patient, your sleep will slowly improve. Best wishes!

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