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Hi Larana
Lol okay! The human mind is very creative. That is also why you are having this problem now, your mind is presenting you with scary thoughts of not sleeping, poor sleep and etc. But I can tell as a recovered person that all this is entirely made up and a hoax!You need to find your own way to deal with it. Everyone does, there is no one size fits all, but the destination is always the same. It’s the freedom from fear and the resumption of the pursuit of other things that makes your life more fulfulling and satisfying. I hope you find it soon and best wishes!
Hi Larana!
Instead of writing affirmative statements which you don’t believe in, another way is to write down why you fear poor sleep so much. Is it as bad as your brain presents it? Then be brave and challenge yourself to discover if this is true.Rediscovering your own personality is also helpful. Do things like you always used to. What did you do whenever you were stressed before you had insomnia? Binge watching netflix, making a delicious meal, baking, gardening, going to your favorite restaurant, reconnecting with friends or whatever you find fun to do. Then do exactly that, this is your personalized way of destressing and it is often helpful because it won’t feel forced like writing down affirmations, which you don’t believe in or never did before.
Hello Mehar!
Insomnia can happen due to many causes but the underlying reason for it to persist is always the same. It’s the fear of getting poor sleep, its perceived repercussions which are often false and way overblown and the stress over why it keeps rehappening that keeps it going. To get over it, you have to stop fearing it and to stop fearing you have to face it bravely. Everyone succeeds in their own way but the destination is always the same, it’s not fearing anymore that leads to a place of inner peace and liberation. Good luck to you.Greetings!
What’s so scary and worrying about the inability to catch even a couple of hours of sleep on such nights? ?I encourage you to really identify why you find not sleeping so frightening that it keeps you up all night. Then challenge yourself, be brave to find out whether this is true. You must have the ability to manage this fear well to get ahead! Nobody has ever truly recovered as long as they continue to fear poor sleep.
And ask yourself why you think your sleep is damaged, given that you have already proven to yourself that you can sleep well for the past few weeks. Is having a couple of bad nights really so bad, after so many good nights?
Once you recouncile with your fears, you may just find your way out of all this. Good luck!
Greetings…
The only way for it to end is to not want it to end, sounds twisted? Because if you are desperate to get away from insomnia, it will tend to stick around longer! It is only when you stop seeing insomnia as a huge problem that you start to defuse the heightened alert situation and turn this around.Your mindset is the key here. Other than that, the only other thing you can do is just adopt a regular bedtime schedule just like a normal person. Best wishes.
Hello Jacob!
I am sure this is only temporary, kinda like hitting a speed bump on the road. Like last time, I am confident you will recover from this also. Then future bad nights will become less bumpy but this experience will better equip you with what it takes to handle future setbacks. Good luck and best wishes!Greetings Jacob!
Welcome back! And we all here have already heard about your stories so none of this is new. And it’s also me again replying to you! ?
Why is not sleeping so hard to accept? If you think bad nights give you bad days, challenge yourself and find out whether this is true. So when will you accept that sleep is entirely controlled by your own body and not you? You are trying to fight against your body, against an inexistent enemy. Read up on Angeli’s post, she has had insomnia for decades but recovered after just 2 months of doing nothing. She estimated the money she spent on sleep remedies over the decades is now enough to buy an apartment!
I don’t want to write a long post because my answer is still the same. Do nothing and try to achieve nothing! You know you are recovered when you get bad nights, but it never cross your mind again to seek any kind of help or come here to seek any advice anymore, you just go on your day as usual like nothing happened. This means only a total surrender of the situation and complete acceptance of bad nights that will happen regardless of anything you do or think, only this will truly liberate you from the struggle. Good luck and best wishes!
Greetings!
Your story is a very common one, typically starts as a night of little sleep then suddenly you get stressed over it because you don’t know what’s going on and what to do. That becomes the problem. The truth is nothing is wrong with your sleep or your body and you are just overreacting. Thinking there’s a problem when there’s none becomes the problem. If you didn’t need any help to sleep for 49 years of your life, you certainly don’t need now and sleep just doesn’t get broken like that, in a sudden way. Just keep to a regular bedtime schedule like you used to, then you will slowly recover and this episode will pass. There must be many times you had disrupted sleep in the past but recovered because you didn’t stress about it and did nothing. This is exactly what you need to do now.Yes, every mother gets them so what’s the problem? Of course sleep will be affected for expectant mothers due to inherent bodily changes and then having to care for a young one after giving birth. The problem is you start to see insomnia as a huge problem, when it’s not! Slowly change your mindset and your sleep will recover. Or being okay with less sleep works fine too! The objective is not to get stressed over it.
Hello!
Waking up during the night is very common! Both normal and troubled sleepers have them, the difference is the response, if you see them as problematic and must be avoided like the plague, you will have a lot of trouble sleeping!Hello!
Learning to let go of the fear of poor sleep is key! This means all “safety mechanisms” such as medications and any special efforts done specifically to make sleep happen must slowly be weaned off. Learning to trust your own body to sleep naturally often takes time but the primary step is to slowly stop fearing poor sleep, while incorporating a regular bedtime routine are key ingredients to a liberation from the struggles of insomnia. Good luck!Hello!
Doing too many things to sleep only gets you restless and encourages overmonitoring of results which makes you struggle to sleep more difficult! Learn to relax, letting go of sleep efforts, adopting a regular bedtime schedule and learning to trust your own body again often leads to a great outcome. Try it and Good luck!Hello!
Sleep disruption is very common amongst parents so I am not sure why you think this is such a huge problem. Instead of trying to avoid it, could you not try to accept it or kinda expect your current sleep pattern will be here to stay, the key is to stop trying so hard to control your sleep. Perhaps the only thing you can do is establish some sort of regularity, depending on your baby’s sleep schedule and grabbing mini naps here and there whenever you can and do feel sleepy. Learn to stop stressing over it because thinking there’s a problem (when there’s actually none because insomnia isn’t a huge problem in itself but thinking there’s a problem becomes the problem) is not going to help you but makes it worse! Be really patient and kind to yourself, this is really important when things get rough. Good luck and I hope you find some relief soon.Hi yazz…
I am speaking from my experience and this in no way can replace professional medical advice, both the anxiety and sleep issues have a common solution, just do nothing. Stop trying so hard. Allowing emotions to flow no matter how uncomfortable they are. Look up Claire Weekes’ treatment method for anxiety and she said the same thing, just do nothing and allow yourself to be overtaken by anxiety until your mind realises that whatever that’s bothering you just ceases to become a threat anymore. For sleep, just having a regular bedtime schedule of reasonable duration (6.5-7.5 hours is more than enough) is sufficient, the body should respond quite nicely within a few weeks. Best wishes to you and your brother.Hi Mona
Sometimes trying too hard can lead to more problems, especially when it comes to a problem like sleep where nobody ever has any control over. Too many efforts led to being restless all the time and over monitoring of results, which can make the insomnia worse. I remembered too when I signed up with Martin, I was also seeing several other therapists at the same time, both online and in person. But nothing improved, so I cancelled them all, gave up all efforts to improve and eventually got better because I was trying so much less. I slowly abandoned the struggle and recounciled with myself. This led to a place of inner peace. Do nothing except going to bed at regular times to slowly regain your confidence in sleeping naturally again is more than sufficient in many cases of insomnia. Insomnia by itself isn’t a problem, the fact that you had this for so long and yet are still able to come here, striving to seek answers, all and by whole, still living to this day is a great testament to this undeniable fact. Insomnia isn’t the problem, thinking that it is a problem becomes the problem. Makes any sense? Best wishes to you and good luck!
