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  • #53958

    Slock
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    Hello! I am insomniac for nearly two months, before than i was having episodes once a week maybe for month or two before big events, but i was sleeping great all my life, i was sleeping so deep all life… I thing i developed insomnia because of my anxiety and fears what if i cant never sleep from now on. What if i ruin my whole life, career, relationship because of not sleeping.

    My question is, does someone have cured insomnia just working on his/her anxiety levels??? Sleep restrictions are elevating my Anxiety levels so high and i have hard times to follow the window every day(for two days in a row, i dont follow the sleep window because i have night shows, i am an actor, and i am home at 23:00 full of adrenalin, so i was sleeping 4.5-6 hours, but alloting 8-9 hours for sleep, and my window is 6 hours + daily naps because i must be 100% at night to play… because of that two days my anxiety level is so high because i betray my sleep window, and i am at first 8-9 days of SR! Maybe if i let go all efforts and work on my anxiety with my psyhologist, my sleep will come back.

    Does anybody have expirience with something like that? To not follow any rules, but work on your fears and anxiety and succeed?

    Is so hard with my job to be so strict with SR. :/

    Sorry for my English! Have a nice day everyone!

    #54063

    Martin Reed
    ★ Admin

    I think that can definitely be helpful — without anxiety I doubt insomnia can really exist! With that being said, I don’t think it’s anxiety itself that disrupts sleep — I think it’s our battle with it.

    Because anxiety doesn’t feel good, we usually try to fight or avoid it. Those attempts to fight or avoid anxiety get us tangled up in an endless (and exhausting!) battle and that’s what I think truly makes sleep more difficult.

    So, if we can work on allowing anxiety to exist — to make some space for it — and continue to engage in activities that help us live the kind of life we want to live, anxiety might have less of an influence over our lives (and our sleep).

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    #54131

    Slock
    ✘ Not a client

    Thank you Martin!!! You are a GREAT human being!!!! Thanks for all of your support!!!

    #54308

    Martin Reed
    ★ Admin

    You’re welcome — I appreciate your kind words!

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    #54347

    DannoM
    ✘ Not a client

    What does making space for anxiety look like? I struggle with this because I feel like I’m trying to do that. Maybe it’s the trying? But I feel like anything I do now is trying.

    #54360

    Martin Reed
    ★ Admin

    Great question!

    I think it comes down to acknowledging the presence of anxiety rather than trying to fight it, avoid it, or otherwise trying to control it.

    Imagine that your anxiety is a beach ball. It arrives next to you as you’re hanging out in the pool, topping up your tan, and reading David Hasselhoff’s autobiography.

    You don’t want that anxiety near you because it doesn’t feel good. So, you try to push it under the water so it’s not near you.

    What happens? The beach ball pushes back even harder. So, you put even more effort into pushing it away. You push and strain and use all your energy to keep that beach ball away.

    When your arms turn to jelly with exhaustion that beach ball explodes back up toward you — you expended all that energy and yet the beach ball is still there.

    Perhaps even more importantly, during all this struggle you haven’t been able to continue reading the magic contained within the Book of Hasselhoff and you haven’t been able to apply any sunscreen so you’re also burned to a crisp.

    As an alternative, what if you acknowledged the presence of that beach ball instead of trying to push it away?

    Of course, you don’t want it there — but it’s there.

    Then, perhaps you allow it to sit there for as long as it likes. While it’s sitting there, you do things that are important to you.

    You put on that sunscreen, you read that infamous autobiography. Sooner or later that beach ball might drift off. It might come back. It might drift off again.

    The difference now is that you’ve not used up all that energy trying to get rid of that beach ball. Instead, you’ve used it more productively — you’ve done things that are important and meaningful even in the presence of that beach ball.

    Is there anything helpful here?

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    #54407

    DannoM
    ✘ Not a client

    Yes! That’s helpful. It’s hard because it feels like I’m suppressing the feelings.I understand that it’s not. I’ve acknowledged the feelings, investigated why they are there, and know they aren’t helping me. It’s just hard to put into practice. I want so bad for the feeling to go away. Because I know when it goes I can sleep.

    #54531

    Martin Reed
    ★ Admin

    Trying to suppress feelings is no different to pushing that beach ball under the water! We all know how that ends (sunburn, no David Hasselhoff wisdom, and the feelings remain anyway).

    Of course you want the feelings to go away — but you can’t control that. So, perhaps it’s worth using all that energy in a different and more constructive way?

    With all this being said, the process is hard and it takes a lot of practice!

    PS: You can sleep, even in the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings! It’s the struggle — donning the suit of armor and going into battle — that makes sleep really difficult. No human brain is going to allow the body to sleep when it’s heading into battle!

    The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

    If you would like to say thank you by making a financial donation to Insomnia Coach, here’s the tip jar!

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