[Ines_I]

Hi!
Has anyone felt that they fear their own fear? Because lately it seems that what I’m fearing the most It’s my own fear, and I don’t know how to approach this or if it’s a thing.

[Martin Reed]

That’s not unusual at all — and, in my experience, it can be associated with our desire not to think certain thoughts or feel certain feelings/emotions.

If we can get to a place where we can make space for difficult thoughts and feelings to exist (rather than trying to fight or avoid them), they might start to have less of an influence over us.

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[Ines_I]

Thank you for your response, Martin!

[Martin Reed]

You’re welcome! For more on the subject of making space for difficult thoughts and feelings (rather than battling with them), this discussion might be helpful, too.

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[smueller1117]

YES! I was afraid of being afraid of being afraid of being afraid. It took me a long time to even sign up for this course, because all I could see were the demons, big guys dressed in black and wearing black masks, I would be forced to face. Thing is, the only way OUT is THROUGH, and it turns out those demons, which were admittedly scary and still are some days, are actually just little kids whose masks come off. Now, I sort of picture myself walking towards them and seeing them for who they really are.

[Chee2308]

Hello and welcome to the forum @smueller1117!

When you’re recovered, you will realize those ‘big scary men with masks’ are really just a set of your own thoughts. You have been frightened by your own thoughts all this while, did you say, for 27 years?

[smueller1117]

Thank you! Happy to have discovered this.

Yes! I know they’re thoughts. It didn’t start out so scary…my insomnia developed my first year of teaching out of stress and perfectionism. It took on a life of its own over the years, independent of life’s stressful events, although I certainly struggle more during those times (mostly with family events, ugh). Now I am unlearning those beliefs. I wish the amygdala would evolve so as to better represent modern stress–I am not marching into a band of scary men with masks or being chased by a bear or kidnapped by a terrorist (though this feels sadly possible)!

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