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    laimtoh5
    ✘ Not a client

    Hi everyone.

    I’m Phil, and a long term sufferer from insomnia. (Sleep onset type.)

    This forum appealed to me via the Insomnia Coach youtube videos, and I’m currently undergong CBTI in the form of sleep restriction, and also relaxation techniques.

    I hope I can be of some use, too, as I’ve had positive results so far, and can share these if anyone is interested.

    #33689

    Martin Reed
    ★ Admin

    Welcome to the forum, Phil! We’d love to hear more about some of the positive results you’ve experienced so far!

    #33816

    laimtoh5
    ✘ Not a client

    Thanks for the welcome Martin.

    My insomnia began when I was about 4 years old, and due to having an episode of particularly worrying nightmares, and no parental help, I decided the best way to avoid nightmares was to be as restless as possible, and not sleep (for as long as I could manage).

    So this altered my circadian rhythm, probably at an easy time to do so.

    I found it possible to live with insomnia, as it became, as it isn’t like pain or any other type of physical discomfort. You just live with it, badly and knowing it affects your life terribly, but it’s easier to go along with it.

    I took stock of my life, seriously, last year, having tried most of the available self-help, medications (including temazipan for short periods) and most types of sleep hygeine, but it was really getting me down so I took serious action. Decades had passed since I was 4.

    I used an online NHS funded sleep CBT-I course, which was certainly good, but my condition was too severe for this to work effectively, in the 6-week period, I felt. So I took the recommendations from it, and put them into practise in my own time.
    In particular, the sleep restriction phase was too short on the course, so I’m currently 2 weeks into that (and finding it pretty hard, I must say). But I’m getting better at it, and I’m really pleased to say, I’m also finding I’ve got more energy and am getting a long to-do list shorter all the time, which as a pretty conscientious person, is crucial as it’s one of my anxiety factors.

    Other than insomnia, I am remarkably lucky to have no ailments, and excellent health, along with being as physically active as I can manage.

    Reading the beginning of The Sleep Book in the last few days has also been very helpful, as I didn’t realise how much I connected my life to my insomnia. In fact it’s so bad, I could accurately be called “that guy with chronic insomnia” before any other description is necessary. The author’s description of how I view insomnia was spooky, with statements like “I know tomorrow will be terrible if I don’t sleep tonight” and “it has prevented me from succeeding in finding a long term relationship” came like a shockwave. At last I heard that someone understands this condition, and that’s such a comfort.

    So I begin to drop my hatred of insomnia, and accept what it is right now, and try not to attribute anything directly to it. It will lose its power of causing me anxiety that way, at least I hope so.

    I’ll continue with the things I know work, like sleep restriction and keeping a sleep diary, as I’m not obsessive about them and actually find them motivational.

    Hopefully I haven’t bored anyone with my story – if I have, hopefully it will have had a meditative effect on you!

    #33818

    Harpoleptic
    ✘ Not a client

    Thanks for describing your insomnia story Phil. Great to hear you are doing better. Yes it can be a long, curvy path with bumps and delays, but sounds like you are moving forward.

    I have seen chronic insomnia start with nightmares, fear of going to sleep. It’s not uncommon, and I think many people don’t want to mention it. For an adult, it’s often with PTSD, but not always of course. That’s very challenging.

    You mentioned the NHS CBTI course – although free, do you feel it was too inflexible? Not individualized enough? Just curious. Not everyone proceeds through CBTI at the same pace as you described. You’ll find Martin’s program is very personalized, which is so important for effective CBTI.

    Again, thanks for sharing.

    Mike

    #33820

    Jonathan618
    ✘ Not a client

    Welcome to the forums Phil. Do you still have the nightmares? If you do maybe you should be treating those first as they seem to be the root cause of your issue. There are ways to beat nightmares.

    #33868

    Martin Reed
    ★ Admin

    Thanks for sharing, Phil.

    Sleep restriction definitely takes time (and a lot of effort) — so I am happy to hear that you’re going all-in and are two weeks into it right now, and already noticing some results. I hope this gives you the motivation to continue!

    Recognizing just how productive (and capable) we can be during the day after a poor night of sleep is a big insight that is easily ignored or glossed over. You’ve got this, Phil — keep going, and keep in touch!

    #33886

    laimtoh5
    ✘ Not a client

    Thanks for the encouraging words everyone. I’m feeling very positive about my condition now, and also about what I’d call success from the treatment I’m working through now.

    In reply:

    Mike, indeed it is, but I’ve only failed before by looking for quick and easy solutions, to a learned problem (circadian rhythm as mentioned before).
    I felt that by giving the course of treatment a 6-week (if I recall correctly) timeframe, that put too much pressure and expectation on me, so this was the only problem.
    But the small improvement and structure of keeping a regular sleep diary were useful practice, and convinced me it was worth persevering with, in my own time (so I finished the course, but without permanent results).

    Jonathan, it’s interesting that I hear that a lot. I sometimes wish it were true, that perhaps it would be easier to remedy than my messed up circadian rhythm.
    I think I just grew out of the nightmares, and not that much later than they arrived. But the stay-awake habit lasted much longer, and left its mark deeply.
    In fact, I welcome nightmares, gratefully, which used to be rare (along with any dreams) – perhaps only once a month. It told me I’d slept more deeply than normal.

    I think they’re very useful to mark how successful my CBT-I is going, and I add them to the sleep diary spreadsheet that I created after the NHS course.
    Dreams/nightmares (it depends on your definition, I call a nightmare a story I wouldn’t enjoy awake) are at least twice as common, since I started CBT-I.

    Martin, my productivity was always a problem, and I’ve seen that increase fairly well in the short time I’ve been on CBT-I. Another thing, is how shocked I was when I thought of all the times I’d make excuses for myself and blame insomnia, like it was a physical being, existing only to torment me.
    Poor memory recal, clumsiness, difficulty in standing up for myself. Wow, I’d probably blame it 10 times a day.

    Now I actively check to see if I’m doing that, as it’s almost an unconscious action, and is so inhelpful. As you say, it’s better to look at how well life goes on despite a poor night’s sleep.

    One thing that’s really lifted my spirits is something I read about called positive feedback loop (and not applied to insomnia, so it’s my take on the concept).
    As I gain more energy and enthusiasm, however small, from successful treatment, I will achieve slightly more in my life.
    As I achieve more, I’ll feel more relaxed and contented with my days.
    As I do more, I’ll be a bit more sleepy come time for bed.

    I prefer visual examples and analogies, so I see it (bear with me here) as a set of old scales – I’m adding a small weight (with better sleep) with each day that passes, and my life is lifted slightly higher.

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