[maperrbz]

So I can truly appreciate the importance of the change in mindset regarding insomnia. For example, I get that it is not at all helpful to being lying awake at night anxious about how I won’t be able to do my normal things the next day if I don’t sleep. However, for me there is the reality that I often CAN’T do the things I want to do for a significant portion of the day (typically afternoon and evening), because I am too fatigued, too drained of energy to do those things when I’ve only slept 2-3 hours a night. How does not worrying about it help alleviate the actual physical consequences of sleep deprivation? I had to leave a birthday party early today, because I could barely maintain I was so depleted. And since coming home, I haven’t had the energy to do anything but lay on the couch. However, last night I was not worrying about this happening today, yet it happened. It seems that just changing one’s mindset will relieve much of the mental anguish, but it doesn’t relieve the physical impact I often experience of poor sleep.

[Scott]

Attending social events was one of the most challenging aspects when I experienced insomnia.
However, I realized that if I let my insomnia dictate my activities throughout the day, it only served to highlight my sleep problem. I had an overwhelming urge to stay home, but surrendering to it would essentially be giving in to my insomnia and allowing it to dictate my days.

Did staying at home instead of going to the social event or leaving early result in a better day, or did it potentially lead to increased worry about sleep?

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[maperrbz]

It didn’t really lead to increased worry about sleep. I felt like I had literally hit a wall and had no physical or emotional capacity to do anything more. It made me think what it must be like for people who suffer from ME/CFS where they have no capacity to push themselves. This doesn’t happen for me every day, but when it does, continued engagement with others and most activities is actually painful. The only way I can frame it is to say I lose capacity. It’s like an engine running out of gas. It’s impossible for it to run no matter how many times you might push on the gas pedal. With further consideration, I think when those times hit, it’s just best for me to extend kindness to myself and not get too down about not being able to function as I would prefer.

[spunkyspangler]

i am new to this since having sleep problems, i know what they say about not letting insomnia dictate your life and i am not sure if it is a mindset switch when one first starts out doing there things. i think it starts out with just being a conscious decision just to do it and i think that the mindset will follow etc

you have to be kind to yourself as well as u stated. i think martin explained from what vids i have seen is that even if one takes baby steps toward your goal of living the life u want it is in fact a step in the right direction.

this morning i had about 2 hours sleep, it was overcast a raining out and i wanted to take my dogs on a trail for exercise early in the morning. i have to say it was very difficult for me to do that as every part of my body was saying stay home and relax conserve energy yada yada

so i just did it, it was painful, and after i got them home was i over the moon with excitement about not letting insomnia dictate to me …………. NO !! but what i did find was that i knew that i did something that in the past i just would not even have attempted so a little part of me said well done at least u are going in the right direction.

spunky

[Scott]

That’s wonderful, spunky, keep going! As you mentioned, smalls steps lead to huge gains.

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[spunkyspangler]

thanks scott,

i shall keep on keeping on cus really whats the alternative LOL !!!

spunky

[maperrbz]

So just to be clear, I rarely have problems with energy in the morning when I have had very little sleep. I typically play 2-3 hours of pickleball. As I stated in my first post, it is usually mid afternoon into evening when I sometimes have episodes when I simply cannot function. It’s not a mindset issue, because often – most days – I get through the tired times by doing what I intended to do. But I am a human being in a physical body, and sometimes there is no reserve – no more gas in the engine. That’s all I was noting. And that’s where Martin talks about extending kindness to oneself, which is how I answered my own question in my original post.

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