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The more i am about to fall a sleep, the more tension i get

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    I dont know another way to describe ot, but i am keeping myself literally awake all night, despite i am already enormously fatigued. When i am in my bed, the moment i start to feel drowsy, the same time a slight tension is kicking in. There is a part of me wanting to sleep so bad that i am scanning all the time for signs i am about to. The closer i get to sleep, the more the tension increases. Its horrible. After i while i dont get drowsy anymore, its just tension and awakeness all night long. I dont have an answer to it. Its not anxiety about falling asleep, its something else. I am afraid i am conditioning myself to stay awake and i cant do anything about it, it seems. Trying focusing on something else doesnt cut it. Letting the tension and thoughts be feels like i am getting more sensitive to it every night, i feel,like the physical tension near my chest is sharpening and increasing and i am worried i m programming myself to stay awake even more..i Feel scared now…dont know how long i can take..I hope someone recognize and can share some thing i can try.



    Hi! If you’re lying in bed and experience heightened arousal about sleep it’s typically considered conditioned arousal. For example, conditioned arousal can appear if you’re sleepy while watching tv and then become awake as you lie down in bed. Your mind has created an association between your bed/bedtime and anxiety. If you don’t believe it’s anxiety about falling asleep, what do you think it is? Do you think that getting out of bed when you begin having these sensations and engaging in something more enjoyable would be a better option than continuing to lie in bed frustrated?

    Scott J

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    I fully understand what you are going through. I’ve been through that too. My brain has been conditioned to stay up at night in bed and fight. And nothing I did could change that. I suffered for years, trying therapies, medications, meditations, CBDs, supplements, and everything else you can imagine. The despair of waking nights made me think about dying to get it over with. Only CBTi can bring me back to life. It took me about 5 months to regulate my sleep, deprogram my brain from the negative association with bed and cleanse myself of the large amount of substances I was taking. Today I sleep happy, always respecting my 6.5 sleep window (always at the same time). I don’t do anything or take anything anymore. When it’s time for bed, I fall down. And when some not-so-good night happens – I accept. A wonderful sleep awaits you. Do not give up.

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