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  • in reply to: help tapering off sleep zolpidem #50272
    Chee2308
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    Hi guys!

    Sleep can happen quite independently of stress or anxiety or whatever else that’s going on, otherwise virtually everybody wouldn’t be able to sleep at all! Everyone will have some sort of stress, it’s just life. But people still sleep regardless. You can make whatever connections you want about sleep but one thing is for sure: it will always happen at some point with the passage of time regardless of how stressed or anxious you get over it or the other things going on in your life. It’s just that you have chosen to obesess over it unnecessarily and quite unproductively. Because worrying about it won’t help you or your sleep or whatever problems you have in life. So just get over it! That time and effort would be better utilized to solve your other problems. Sleep will take care of itself, just getting in and out of bed at regular times is more than enough.

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    in reply to: Current bout of insomnia #50211
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    3 most important things??? If this is your mindset, then you are not getting the point. As you as you keep thinking you MUST do something to sleep better, you are doomed to continue the struggle indefinitely. Because you are choosing to continue playing a game you can’t win. Who’s the enemy here?? Fighting your own body??

    Just commit to a regular bedtime schedule. That’s all you need. Everything else is frivolous. The emotions and thoughts WILL take time though, but by being extremely patient and not setting a timeline to “recover”, they will eventually settle down. You reach the “nirvana”, a state where you don’t care about how much and what kind of sleep you get and sleep thoughts no longer bother you. Best of luck!

    in reply to: Current bout of insomnia #50207
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    Hello @HelpMeHypnos

    I don’t wish to write a long post about this. Because there’s really nothing here to talk too much about. Fearing poor sleep is like fearing having a poor appetite or fearing being hungry or fearing how to breathe. How’s that even possible if you eat three meals a day and never think about breathing?? Because your body takes care of it, all by itself and everytime you think of wanting to control it or trying to override your own body systems, that’s where the problem and the obessesion begins. And when you fail, the despair and gloom sets in. When you simply have no control over it to begin with! The problem is not the kind of sleep you get. Thinking there’s a problem when there’s none IS the problem! What a complete waste of time.

    in reply to: Current bout of insomnia #50178
    Chee2308
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    Hi!

    U won’t get over this as long as you continue to fear poor sleep. It really comes down to your relationship with poor sleep and how you think of it. People without sleep problems just shrug it off and go on as if nothing happened. Poor sleep happens to everyone, there’s no such thing as a good sleeper, it’s just sleep in however shape, form or duration and there’s no way your body can do it wrong. The only other thing you can do is to keep your bedtime schedule regular which helps keep your nights more consistent. There’s no other thing you can do to sleep! This is really important and you must understand this before you can begin letting go of the struggle. The faster you let go, the faster you return to normalcy.

    in reply to: Postpartum insomnia #50114
    Chee2308
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    Hello!

    Fine then so sleep whenever you feel sleepy and when you aren’t taking care of your baby. Disregard what the clock is saying or what conventional wisdom says about sleeping at regular hours; only go by how your body feels. If your body feels sleepy and you have the time for it, then take it! Who says this is wrong or prohibited?? It’s like slapping a fancy medical term on someone who eats whenever he feels hungry and then saying that’s abnormal because he doesn’t eat breakfast at 7 am or lunch at noon or dinner at 7pm. If everyone follows this, then technically the term insomnia doesn’t even exist. Because everybody can sleep. Your body is proving this to you every single day! Though it may just be 3 or whatever hours. Then sleep at other times too to feel rested! That’s how sleep’s supposed to work in nature. If people could stay awake indefinitely without needing to sleep, then we’ll all be doing that because sleeping is such a waste of time. But the fact is nobody can stay awake indefinitely. Sleep drive will kick in at some point, just like hunger will. So worrying about it is a complete waste of time and efforts, which might be better spent on being a better parent or doing the things you truly enjoy in life.

    in reply to: Unpredictable Sleep #50018
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    @illiniwek9

    You don’t need anyone to tell you how to sleep lol. The fact is anyone should be able to sleep anywhere as long as the sleep drive is there.

    in reply to: Unpredictable Sleep #49979
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    @illiniwek9

    To answer your questions, I don’t think I experienced 5 or more nights of poor sleep continuously. Mine was typically poor sleep one night when I hardly slept a wink, then I’d be thoroughly exhausted the next night and would sleep quite well again. I’m not sure about you, is it possible you actually slept more than you think? Try not to make this a numbers game, where you become obsessed with counting how many days you slept poorly or how many hours you slept on a particular night

    For me, now, I just stay in bed during all of my bedtime. If I can’t fall asleep straightaway, I would just lie in, close my eyes and think mundane things until I eventually drift off and fall asleep. I don’t care how long it takes, I always fall asleep in the end. I don’t get caught up in counting the minutes spent awake in bed or doing stimulus control. I found this kept me up more! When I implemented SC, the pressure to sleep increases and the frequent process of getting in and out of bed very frustrating. Now I just get into bed at X and out at Y. I don’t care what happens in between or how much sleep I got.

    in reply to: help while traveling #49977
    Chee2308
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    Hello guys!
    The thing is stop pressuring yourselves to sleep. Because the truth is you dont have to sleep well every single night. Stop making bad nights such a monster because it really isn’t and you must be friendly and accepting of them in order to stop being afraid. When you start thinking you must do something to avoid it, like taking a pill or doing cbt-i or whatever, it means you are still afraid and you probably will encounter more bad nights more often.

    in reply to: Can't sleep deeply. #49938
    Chee2308
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    I highly doubt anyone here can help you with your problem because I believe nobody is an “expert” on sleep except Martin, well he’s got some certs or something under his belt. Speaking about your “light sleep” problem, there’s another person too who purportedly has the same problem as you: Jess84. Maybe you both are the same person so why are you flooding this forum with the questions, asking endlessly about the same stuffs for years. If you aren’t her, then go to that thread and see if you can find anything helpful, though I highly doubt it.

    in reply to: Tamoxifen #49930
    Chee2308
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    Hello!

    Angeli is right. You only take something if you think there’s a problem to be solved and then you become stuck in the false belief that your sleep is broken for god knows how long. Sleep isn’t the problem, but thinking there’s a problem becomes the problem, makes any sense?

    in reply to: Unpredictable Sleep #49928
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    @illiniwek9

    Thanks for sharing. But I am not going to write a long post anymore because it is not going to help you or me or anyone else by making big issues out of it. All I can say is setbacks are very common, even for recovered persons like myself, I couldn’t care less about how I sleep, all I know is my body takes care of it all by itself. And nobody is saying you will miraculously sleep well suddenly after doing cbt-i for only days or even weeks! Cbt-i isn’t a sleep generator but it does help make your nights more consistent. True recovery isn’t about sleeping well, it’s really about how you respond to difficult nights in the end.

    in reply to: Can't sleep deeply. #49926
    Chee2308
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    You went to the experts who gave you all sorts of advice and medications, none worked so what makes you think anyone here can help you without even seeing you in person? The only thing I can say is you are spending too much time in bed (1 am – 830 am) plus naps, the longer it is, the lighter the sleep tends to get. Also, what is your definition of light sleep? How do you know you have it? Have you done a sleep study (polysomnography)?

    in reply to: Unpredictable Sleep #49909
    Chee2308
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    Hi @illiniwek9!

    “I worry that lack of sleep is going to give me Alzheimer’s or lead to premature death.”

    You already mentioned the root cause of your sleep problem. It’s always the fear of getting poor sleep that keeps it going indefinitely. As a recovered person, I am telling you this fear is completely irrational and way overblown but do you really believe me? Most likely not otherwise you wouldn’t be making such a fuss about it here. Yes, so you haven’t slept well for 4 nights but so what? Just get on with your days regardless. It is pretty common to experience hiccups along the way. Give yourself permission to have bad nights, this isn’t a contest about who’s sleeping the best or the most for the longest because nobody is judging it except yourself. Accept any sleep on any day and just move on. Don’t dwell on the past. Begin each night on a fresh page. By sticking to a regular bedtime schedule, your sleep should get pretty consistent and your emotions will settle down eventually. I get some bad nights too occasionally but it never crosses my mind to come here and ask about it or seek advice. Because I know there’s nothing I can do except accepting and moving on. Like I said, it’s all about your relationship with poor sleep and how you think about it. If you don’t think there’s a problem, then there’s none. Good luck and best wishes!

    in reply to: Sick of being dependent on sleep meds #49752
    Chee2308
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    I cannot help but laugh at your statements about sleep ?. Sorry you don’t control sleep nor waking up! The faster you quit trying to control it, the faster you leave the struggle with insomnia behind. And this usually leads to a place of inner peace where you become okay with anything and everything about sleep, those awakenings and often falling back asleep with relative ease.

    in reply to: Big setback #49229
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    @daveka
    Yes your future nights will be full of cycles of like these, stretch of good nights, followed by not so good, then back to good again and the cycles keep repeating. I got so used to them so they don’t bother me anymore. And I couldn’t be bothered to do any strict SR like what you are doing because they don’t keep the bad nights from happening anyway nor guarantee a good night either. I frequently take naps during the day whenever I get sleepy and/or go to bed at night whenever I’m not that sleepy also, I couldn’t be bothered to be obessesed over what kind of sleep I get on any night, it simply doesn’t matter! If I sleep badly on any night, I know it’s just a matter of time I’ll get the good nights back so why fret or get unnecessarily anxious over it.

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