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You’re welcome! I look forward to hearing about your progress.
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Andrea,
You’re absolutely correct – we can’t control our thoughts – when they arrive, the topic, etc. but we CAN control how we respond to them. Most of our thoughts are unhelpful, they make us feel uncomfortable, frustrated and because of that, we begin to have this endless battle with them. We want them to go away but we can’t…just like we can’t stop the waves in the ocean.
When we try to control our thoughts it usually makes those thoughts rage even more and visit more frequently. Instead of spending all that energy trying to control our thoughts, do you think it might be more beneficial if we changed our relationship with them? Instead of picking a fight with them – welcome them instead! When you experience one of those sleep-related thoughts, simply thank your mind for being on guard by saying, “oh, thank you, mind!” and carry on with the activity you were doing when it arrived. Those thoughts will indeed return, but if you continue to practice this technique, over time they become less impactful to you. I wonder if telling yourself not to put effort into falling asleep when you go to bed is actually effort, or in the very least, a “control” strategy?Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi @tdr,
I’m glad to see you’ve made tremendous progress! Thanks for sharing your success story with us.
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi Andrea,
Welcome and thanks for sharing your story.
Insomnia is considered a 24-hour disorder due to the vicious loop we find ourselves in – can’t sleep at night, anxiety and concern about our sleep issue during the day and heightened arousal again at bedtime. When we experience a sudden life event, such as your son’s sleep disruptions, our sleep is restored once the situation has been resolved but if we begin to change our thoughts and behaviors toward our sleep, then the issue can perpetuate itself. Your son began waking multiple times during the night but then began to sleep better and through the night but I’m guessing he didn’t spend time during those awakenings to ruminate about why he couldn’t sleep or worry about it throughout the next day following a poor nights sleep. When we try to fix our sleep, it increases our arousal about the issue and potentially means another night of sleep disruption. Since we have absolutely no control of our sleep, I wonder if there are more meaningful things in your life you could engage in than to worry about it? Let’s say you didn’t have insomnia, what would you be doing during your day/night that you’re not doing now because of your sleep issue? Are there more enjoyable activities you could engage in that better align with your values instead of being caught in a tug-o-war with your unhelpful thoughts about sleep?
Hope this helps,
Scott J—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi @Roobee,
Welcome to the forum, we’re glad you found it.
Can you tell us a bit more about your current sleep pattern – what time do you go to bed and wake up to start your day in the morning? Has there been any life changes or stressful events occur that could have caused a change in your sleep? What do you think is causing your sleep disruption?
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi @AstaHugo, welcome to the forum!
Our nature is to try to control and fix what doesn’t feel right in our life, but we can’t control sleep and our efforts to try to fix it usually perpetuates the issue. What is it about wakefulness that generates anxiousness? Rather than trying to force sleep and struggling with your anxious thoughts about it, do you think their could be more enjoyable activities to engage in while you’re awake? If you can, remember when you slept great – you didn’t exude much effort into getting a good night’s sleep, you simply let it happen! Any activities directed to fix your sleep could result in heightening the awareness of the issue and cause increased arousal about it.
Hope that helps,
Scott J—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi @sleepy21!
Thanks for sharing and, yes, that can be frustrating. What do you think is causing your inability to return to sleep?
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi @Navisa21,
Welcome and thanks for sharing!
If the light through the curtains is bothersome, are you able to block out that light somehow?
On average, how many hours of sleep are you achieving each night?Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi, welcome to the forum!
How long have you been experiencing insomnia? What time do you usually go to bed at night, when do you get out of bed to start your day in the morning, and how many hours of sleep would you say you get on an average night? Understanding that sleeping pills rarely have a positive long-term outcome on our sleep since sleep meds can’t generate sleep, have you considered experimenting with CBT-I evidence-based techniques? CBT-I addresses our thoughts and behaviors that causes our sleep disruptions, something a pill has the inability to do.
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi Diego!
Welcome to the forum, thanks for posting from Mexico! I believe you’ll find the CBT-I techniques beneficial as it addresses the root causes of insomnia – our thoughts and behaviors!
Good luck,
Scott J—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hi @nowtadi,
Stress can certainly be a sleep disruptor! Are you engaging in anything to reduce your stress level?
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
That’s the beauty of our mind – it’s always on alert, determining if there’s a need for us to fight or flight, but it can be frustrating when it’s monitoring for danger when it shouldn’t be. Typically, when our mind is scanning for risks, it’s usually accompanied by anxious thoughts. As with our thoughts, we can’t control – as much as we’d like to – our mind from being on alert. We can respond more positively to the monitoring and thoughts by thanking it, as mentioned above, by saying, “oh, thank you, mind!” and returning to what you were doing when that thought arrived. By allowing the thought and monitoring to exist, you stop the endless struggle with your mind. If you continue that practice, those thoughts will greatly diminish in impact and frequency, but it takes time. Look at this exercise like basketball – the more you practice it, the better you become as a basketball player.
Hope that helps,
Scott J—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Many insomniacs try to change their daily agendas and cancel social events to accommodate for poor sleep so it’s good to hear that you’re continuing to enjoy life and living it as meaningful as possible. Since we can’t control our thoughts – when they arrive, how frequent they wish to return or the message – do you think it’d be beneficial if you modified your relationship with them instead? Essentially, stop playing tug-o-war with those thoughts because it seems to find a way to win every time. When a sleep-related thought rears it’s ugly head, what if you simply acknowledged it’s presence by saying, “oh, thank you, mind!” and allowing it to come and go as it pleases? Since thoughts are only harmful to us if we begin to believe in them, what if we allow those thoughts to exist? Once you welcome it, return to the activity you were engaged in when it arrived or focus on your breath for a few seconds. It’ll return, but if you continue greeting it in this manner, the less of an impact it’ll have on you.
Hope that helps,
Scott J—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hey @Avocado – welcome!
As much as we want to, we can’t control our thoughts but we can control how we respond to them. Negative thoughts are only harmful to us when we give them attention. Insomnia-related thoughts don’t cause our sleep issue but when we try to push them away and fight with them, we can certainly experience continual sleep issues. What is it about being awake that gives you anxiety? Are you able to engage in activities that enrich your life instead of struggling with your thoughts? When a negative sleep thought pops into your mind, what action, if any, do you take?
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Most people who begin implementing CBT-I techniques and are taking sleeping pills, consider tapering their dependency on them, under the guidance of their physician. CBT-I tackles the root causes of insomnia – our thoughts and behaviors toward our sleep issue. Have you began experimenting with CBT-I?
Scott J
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
