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This is a bit like those “how long is a piece of string” questions!
Typically, insomnia lasts for as long as we continue to struggle with it. And, for as long as we continue to try to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen we might be setting ourselves up for an ongoing struggle.
Every person has the ability within them to sleep well and every person has the power to move away from the struggle through committed action.
That doesn’t mean it’s easy. Just that it’s always possible and the power for change is already within you.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thank you so much for sharing!
My 3 Goods Things from yesterday were:
1. Noticing the beauty of the trees alongside the highway because I consciously switched off my brain’s “autopilot” mode!
2. Feeling overwhelming love and joy for my son because I took time out of my day to play with him.
3. Eating a healthy and nutritious meal because I had prepared in advance and had easy-to-access “leftovers” in the fridge!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Welcome!
Do you typically find yourself falling asleep without warning during the day? Such excessive daytime sleepiness is not usually associated with chronic insomnia so it might be worth discussing that with your doctor to see if any other issues might be present alongside insomnia.
In terms of staying awake, any form of movement can often be helpful — especially for fatigue. What guidance does your experience have to offer?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If the sleep window worked, what would be different?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You are the expert on you! What I can tell you is that there’s no evidence insomnia causes any health problem and there’s no evidence insomnia increases mortality risk.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If medication generated sleep, how could insomnia exist?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You might not be able to stop that feeling — but you always get to choose how you respond to that feeling (or any other).
Sleep can happen if you have a sleep window and it can happen if you don’t have a sleep window. Sleep can happen if your sleep window is 1-6 and sleep can happen if your sleep window is 12-6.
Nothing you do can guarantee sleep will happen as you want it to, because — as your experience tells you — sleep is out of your control!
The sleep window is nothing more than a tool that is intended to help you move away from the action of chasing after sleep 🙂
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
A consistent out of bed time can help strengthen the body clock and ensure enough time for sleep drive to build during the day to help set the stage for sleep at night.
Perhaps the most helpful part of a sleep window, however, is as a tool to help us move away from chasing after sleep. Quite often, the more we chase after sleep (by going to bed earlier or staying in bed later, for example) the more elusive it becomes.
And, the more we chase after sleep, the more time we might spend in bed — and that means less time out of bed, living life.
We do less and sleep becomes a bigger part of our lives.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You’re definitely not alone, Kira — as you’ve discovered thanks to the wonderfully supportive @Bronte (and those podcast episodes)!
Your experience seems to be telling you that the more you try to control sleep, the more difficult it becomes.
Based on what you’ve learned (from your experience, from Bronte, from the podcast, from elsewhere), what do you feel is the best way for you to move forward?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Welcome to the forum!
It makes complete sense that your mind would generate all those thoughts and feelings — it’s doing its job of looking out for you. Your experience three years ago was tough. Your brain is trying to protect you from that.
If we see those (often difficult) thoughts and feelings as the enemy or an obstacle to sleep, we might be more likely to try fighting them. Then, before we know it, we are engaged in a battle with our mind. And, how likely is sleep to happen when we are engaged in a battle?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Welcome to the forum, @trailrunner85! It sounds as though you’ve made fantastic progress since finding the podcast and changing your approach (and response!) to insomnia.
Here’s the thing about OTC sleep aids. They don’t make sleep happen. Sleep is only ever generated by our natural ability to sleep. Sleep doesn’t require medication to happen. It doesn’t require a supplement to happen. It doesn’t require anything to happen — other than staying awake for long enough.
As you shared, it can be harder to kick the supplements, sleep aids, or whatever else you might attribute to sleep if you have nothing to “replace” those things with. You’ve been doing “something” to make sleep happen for so long, going without “something” might be somewhat of a challenge, especially in the short term.
It’s my belief that the best replacement is the practice of skills that can help you build skill in experiencing being awake (and all the thoughts and feelings that might show up) with less struggle.
If being awake, if experiencing all those thoughts and feelings, doesn’t cause a struggle, those things become less of a problem. When they are less of a problem, we set the stage for sleep to become effortless again.
You might find this YouTube Short relevant, too.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Anxiety can be a very difficult emotion to deal with. The experience of others who struggle with anxiety sometimes reveals that our (understandable!) attempts to fight or avoid anxiety can make it even more difficult and even more powerful — to the point where it can even seem to make us act in ways that don’t really reflect who we are or who we want to be.
I’d encourage you to be kind to yourself when things feel difficult. Things feel difficult when they are difficult. And, remember that you still have complete control over your own body and your own actions. You get to decide how to respond to anxiety (and insomnia).
You have the power.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Difficulty falling asleep is a common part of the insomnia struggle, so you definitely are not alone. Quite often, the more we *try* to fall asleep, the more difficult and elusive sleep becomes. What has your experience been?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thank you for sharing your gratitude, Etty — it means a lot!
You are drawing on your superpowers of resilience and determination and your problem-solving abilities are keeping you moving forward. You are exploring new approaches and, most importantly, taking them.
You are making change happen because you are making changes. And, you are learning from what you are doing. You are moving forward thanks to your own efforts. I wish you all the best as you continue on your journey toward insomnia freedom!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You’ve achieved a lot and you’ve learned a lot — thank you for sharing!
Waking during the night is a normal part of sleep. It happens. Sometimes it’s noticeable, memorable, and sticks around for longer. Other times it’s not noticeable, memorable, and sticks around for less time.
Of course, you are disappointed about what you are experiencing more recently. And, as you know from experience, sleep is out of your direct control.
The more you try to control it, the more you try to protect it, the more you struggle with it and the more likely you are to act in ways that don’t reflect who you are (or who you want to be) and, therefore, pull you away from the life you want to live.
And so, since you’ve learned so much already from your journey so far, what do you think is the best way to respond to waking during the night, based on your knowledge and your experience?
What actions will keep you focused on moving toward the life you want to live (independently of sleep) and help you practice moving away from struggle, rather than trying to control what cannot be controlled?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
