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The intended outcome is similar (refocus over struggle) — the route there is just a little different. Which approach do you prefer?
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What might be going on here is that you made a change to your sleep window and then your brain was a bit more alert in response — it naturally wanted to monitor and evaluate the effect of that change.
That, in turn, can lead to a bit more alertness and some other thoughts and feelings. All natural and normal, and no barrier to sleep.
What matters now is how you respond when that happens. What have you been doing in response and what have you been learning from that?
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It’s so easy to get pulled back into a struggle or to feel trapped in a struggle — so you aren’t alone.
Ongoing struggle often comes from doing something that our experience tells us doesn’t work, yet we do it over and over again — perhaps because it feels logical or safer or more familiar than any alternative.
Your sleep system is clearly working as it should. You are noticing sleepiness showing up at night. When you go to bed, anxiety shows up as your problem-solving brain does its job of looking out for you. It’s trying to protect you and prepare you for the battle it predicts is about to show up (based upon experience).
You shared that you are trying to move away from struggle and you are practicing the AWAKE exercise. As you pointed out, that’s hard to do (especially at first since it’s a new skill) — and is it any easier to battle and struggle instead?
What have you been learning from your practice with the AWAKE exercise, @Ryno84?
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Good job sticking to your sleep window for most of Week 1!
It sounds like you felt bad for grabbing an extra gummy because you wanted to practice responding to wakefulness (and all the thoughts and feelings that showed up with it) in a different way.
In other words, that feeling revealed important information — and on opportunity to do something different (if you so choose) in the future!
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Wonderful — you are consciously looking for the good stuff and that makes it easier to find and easier to notice in the future.
You are developing a skill that can help make difficult periods a little bit lighter — a skill that can help remind you that good stuff can be present even when things are hard and that you can influence what those “good things” might be, through your choice of actions!
Thanks for sharing! 👍
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A dozing state of body sounds like a sleeping state of body — it’s just that sleep isn’t happening as you want it to. And so you then find yourself getting stressed and problem-solving and trying to figure out how to fix the problem (which is normal human behavior!).
You are waking during the night because waking is a normal part of sleep. And, what happens next is all down to the level of threat your brain associates with being awake (does it believe that it needs to fire up to protect you and prepare you for battle and struggle?) and how you respond when things aren’t happening as you might want them to (effort, problem-solving, etc).
Ultimately, sleep is a passive process. It requires “less” not “more”. The AWAKE exercise isn’t required just because you notice you’re awake. It can be a helpful tool to practice if you notice yourself struggling or responding to whatever is happening in a way that’s creating more struggle, though.
Is there anything useful here?
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You know that if you only give sleep the opportunity to show up in bed, that’s where it will show up — because you cannot remain awake forever!
It’s great that you’re viewing these types of actions as experiments — because that’s exactly what they are! There’s no such thing as failure, only learning opportunities!
You are learning, you are taking action, and you are noticing change happen.
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That’s a great question — what have you tried up to now, and what have you learned from doing those things?
Dealing with distracting thoughts and feelings during the day in a workable way is explored in more detail as the course progresses.
In the meantime, have you tried playing around with the concept shared in Week 1 of simply thanking your brain in response to whatever it says or whatever feelings it chooses to generate?
That’s certainly a lot quicker (and more realistic) compared to trying to work through the AWAKE exercise when you’re in a meeting or engaged in some other daytime activity!
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Sorry for missing your post, Chloe. Having a two-year-old wake you up (and even waiting for that moment) can make things more difficult.
If and when he wake and cries for you is out of your control. What you can control are your actions. With that in mind — and as the expert on yourself — what do you feel is a workable way to respond when you notice that you’re putting pressure on yourself to sleep or notice that vigilance grow?
The AWAKE exercise could be an option if you find yourself getting drawn into a struggle at this point. Is that something you’ve played around with? If so, what have you learned from that?
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You are taking action, putting into practice what we’ve been covering at this early stage of the course.
You are implementing a sleep window to move away from chasing after sleep. You are maintaining a consistent out of bed time in the morning to anchor your body clock and ensure you have the opportunity to do things that matter (rather than spending even more time in bed). You are reading or watching TV when sleep doesn’t show up.
And, in the midst of the difficult situation you described, you are still flying from California to Japan. Living life and doing what matters, even though that’s hard to do.
As for suggestions on how to get sleepy — your experience seems to tell you that’s out of your control. The more you try, the less likely it seems to be to show up. So, as the expert on yourself, what’s do you feel is the most workable way to deal with that?
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As you pointed out, that might make things more difficult @Alan-John. As the expert on yourself and your own experience, what ideas do you have to deal with that swing of two hours on those two or three nights each week?
@Karima87 — Being afraid of going to bed later is totally understandable, and I wouldn’t usually suggest a sleep window of much under six hours or so. In what ways is going to bed earlier helping you move closer to where you want to be?—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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Being in the hospital is going to make sleep more difficult. Do you have any idea how long you’ll be there for?
It might be difficult to implement an appropriate sleep window while in hospital. Instead, you might want to consider going to bed (or giving sleep the opportunity to show up) only when you feel sleepy enough for sleep (finding it hard to stay awake) and seeing if you might be able to maintain a reasonably consistent final out of bed time/getting the day started time in the morning.
A sleep window is a very small part of the overall picture when it comes to moving away from the insomnia struggle, so I’d encourage you not to put too much effort into trying to make that perfect — especially in a hospital environment!
As for feeling anxious about wakefulness — that might be coming from your brain trying to protect you from what it believes to be the threat of being awake at night. As for why it thinks being awake is a threat? That might have been learned (through no fault of your own!) from the repeated and ongoing struggle that comes from trying to resist wakefulness at night.
That’s just one idea, though. And you are the expert on you. What are your thoughts on that?
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Things sound hard for you right now, @Karima87.
You are afraid to get out of bed and you can still get out of bed when you are afraid to get out of bed.
You are scared you’ll never overcome this and you can still overcome this when you are scared you’ll never overcome this.
All the thoughts and feelings you are identifying come from your problem-solving brain doing its job of looking out for you.
You always get to decide how to respond to those thoughts and feelings. How you act when they show up.
And your response might be what determines how much power and influence they have and your level of struggle.
You mentioned that you try not to panic — what have you learned from that strategy?
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Thanks for sharing @Ryno84 🙂
You know that you aren’t alone, that the insomnia struggle is hard, and that your experience is not unique or unusual.
You are an action taker. You are a problem solver. As you wrap up Week 1 you feel reassured that you are on the right path forward.
You have a powerful awareness of what fuels insomnia — which is, ultimately, all the understandable effort to get rid of it. With that awareness, opportunity reveals itself.
Sleep is losing the power and influence it once held over your life, thanks to the changes you are making. Those changes aren’t always easy — change is hard. You’re doing it anyway because change matters to you.
I wish you all the best as you continue to move forward!
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It’s good to have you here and I look forward to reading what you learn as you work through the course and share your insights in the forum 🙂
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