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I appreciate you sharing, Tony — and all the best for 2023!
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Hello Tony!
You have access to the course for six months from the day you enrolled.
Which parts of the course have you found most helpful up to this point?
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It’s great to hear that you’ve been practicing the NOW exercise when these thoughts and feelings are showing up.
Remember the goal isn’t to get rid of them — it’s to help you move away from struggling with them. To help you practice allowing them to come and go. To help you practice doing things that are important, even in their presence.
It sounds as though there might be two ways to respond to those difficult thoughts.
One way would be to not travel. To not visit family. To act in a way that will help you avoid the difficult thoughts and feelings you described in your post.
Would that help you move toward the life you want to live and eliminate difficult thoughts and feelings forever?
If so, perhaps that might be an appropriate response.
Another way to respond would be to acknowledge those difficult thoughts and feelings. To make space for them to come and go as they please. Perhaps to recognize that they come from a good place (your brain doing its job and looking out for you — thanks, brain!). To be kind to yourself in return, and then to travel because that’s important to you.
Would that help you move toward the life you want to live, even in the presence of all that difficult stuff?
We cannot control what goes on inside our minds. We can’t make ourselves not feel anxious and we can’t even make ourselves enjoy the activities we engage in — even the important ones.
Ultimately, we can do things that matter, even in the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings and even when they don’t feel enjoyable.
Or we can stop doing things that matter in order to avoid certain thoughts and feelings — but they always send up coming back anyway, right?
Is there anything useful here?
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Hello Mel! Yes, it can be difficult to open up and allow difficult thoughts and feelings to come and go as they please — especially if you’ve been spending a lot of time practicing engaging in a struggle with them instead. That’s often a far more familiar approach and, as such, you probably have a lot more skill at engaging in struggle!
How comfortable does it feel to engage in a battle with your thoughts and feelings? How effective is that approach? If it’s comfortable and you are able to get rid of certain thoughts and feelings so they never come back, that’s great — no need to do anything different!
If the battle and the struggle doesn’t feel comfortable, perhaps a different approach might be worth practicing? If you’re going to experience discomfort either way, how about experiencing the discomfort of the thoughts and feelings themselves — rather than adding the discomfort of struggle on top of all that?
I wonder if practicing the NOW exercise might be a useful way to respond to the wandering mind and the struggle that occurs when you’re trying to do more meaningful things (such as practicing tai chi)?
A lot of this stuff is difficult because it’s so new. It makes sense that anything new requires practice, right? Skills usually take time to develop and require ongoing practice!
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Yikes, sorry to hear that! How are you feeling now? I don’t think there’s any need to “go back” — you might want to keep moving forward and start observing your sleep window from this point on if you are feeling better.
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Hello Judi! Did stopping work get rid of all the really difficult stuff you described in your opening post?
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My guess is this requires a conversation with your husband so you might be able to decide the approach that’s right for you and the kind of life you want to live.
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Thank you for sharing this big insight with us, Carli!
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Welcome to the forum! Concern for your health is understandable (and probably human)! There is no evidence that sleep duration causes any health problem whatsoever — so hopefully that might be one less thing for you to worry about! Quite often the real struggle with sleep comes from all our attempts to make a certain amount (or type) of sleep happen, since sleep is out of our control.
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Thanks for sharing, Lorraine! What would you be doing differently with your life if every night was a great night? What are you trying to avoid when you take the sleeping pill and experience all the side-effects you described? Is that proving to be helpful?
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Waking is a normal part of sleep and it can happen at any time during the night 🙂
Problems are more likely to happen when we try to fight or avoid those awakenings or try to make sleep happen — since all that stuff is out of our control!
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What happens when you try to teach your students, Judi?
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If you feel comfortable with your current sleep schedule, there’s no need to change anything. If you feel that you might be setting yourself up for a lot of wakefulness with your current sleep schedule, perhaps it might be worth experimenting with a new approach and reducing the amount of time you allot for sleep so it is a bit more closely aligned to the amount of sleep you are currently generating?
A clock doesn’t know when we are sleepy — trying to make sleep happen before we are sleepy can create some struggle and difficulty. It’s great to hear that you have been experimenting with a different approach and seem to be finding it helpful!
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Sooner or later, sleepiness always happens — our arousal system can do a good job at suppressing it, but it usually shows up once we’ve been awake without any sleep for a certain amount of time. Sleep cannot be suspended indefinitely!
If you know from experience that you usually fall asleep pretty quickly when you go to bed at a certain time, without sleepiness being present, then you might simply give yourself a set bedtime. If you know from experience that going to bed without a strong sense of sleepiness can set you up for a lot of struggle, it might be worth waiting until sleepiness happens — even if that means no (or very little) sleep in the short-term.
Ultimately, though, the sleep window isn’t intended to make sleep happen or to get rid of wakefulness. It’s one tool that can help move us away from chasing after sleep — it’s all our attempts to make sleep happen, to get rid of wakefulness, and to fight or avoid the difficult thoughts and feelings that often come with insomnia that are the true cause of our struggle.
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Hello Shelf and welcome to the forum. It sounds as though you’re saying that medication hasn’t proven to be helpful over the past 33 years so perhaps that might be an area that doesn’t require any more ongoing research, attention, and effort!
Understandably, you also haven’t found sleep hygiene, keeping sleep diaries, relaxation techniques, or meditation useful either — and that makes sense since none of those things can make sleep happen (since sleep cannot be controlled).
What’s your current plan for a different approach?
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