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One you can control (how you respond to the knot), the other (the presence of the knot) you cannot, right? With that in mind, what might be a helpful way of dealing with the knot?
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I would suggest talking to your doctor about the shaking. If there’s no medical explanation it might be a physical symptom of hyperarousal.
Many people have worked through the course having taken benzos. Since the course focuses on actions and skills, they can be practiced whether someone is taking medication or not.
It sounds as though you have experience in getting through adversity — getting off benzos was really difficult. And, you did it! Perhaps it might be helpful to draw on that experience when things feel difficult. All the strengths you drew upon then are still present now!
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It sounds as though moving away from medication is important to you — why is that?
Nobody here can give you a recommended taper schedule, unfortunately — that should come directly from your doctor. Have you discussed your tapering plan with your doctor?
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Thanks for sharing, Sdzagrean. It’s good to know that your process of reflection has helped you realize that what you are going through makes sense. There’s nothing going on that’s unusual, unique, or a sign that you cannot continue to move forward on your journey.
It’s natural and normal to experience difficult nights and it’s natural and normal to struggle with them and to experience difficult thoughts and feelings in response — feelings such as discouragement and sadness.
Learning and practice is an ongoing process. Consuming and understanding information is one thing and putting information into practice is another. And practice is what matters. It takes time, especially if the new practice is so different to what you might have been doing in the past. You can control practice. You cannot directly control outcome.
And, separately from all this, sleep is sensitive to what’s going on in our lives. So, when we feel stressed in our job, when we receive bad news, when life changes, heck even when we are excited — sleep can be difficult. That’s all part of being a human being.
What matters is how we respond. Because how we respond determines the level of power and influence sleep and difficult nights have over our lives. It’s really easy to get pulled back into the struggle and, no matter how deep we get pulled back into the struggle, we always have the opportunity to pause, notice this, be kind to ourselves, and change direction.
How might you practice being kinder and compassionate to yourself when things feel difficult, do you think? Has the course given you any ideas?
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Acceptance is a skill that requires ongoing practice — pretty much everyone finds it hard, especially in the early days of practice!
What matters is getting the practice in (and being kind to yourself when things feel difficult).
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It sounds as though going to bed when sleepy enough for sleep (rather than because you are chasing after sleep or responding to what the clock might say) and practicing refocusing your attention on where you are, what’s around you, and noticing what you are thinking and feeling with less judgement are all actions that are proving to be useful 🙂
A bonus side-effect of these actions can be the appearance of calm — but that’s not the intent. The true intent is to struggle less — and the struggle typically comes from trying to control what we are thinking or feeling, or trying to make sleep happen.
I wish you all the best with your ongoing practice!
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Thanks for sharing, Tim! As you mentioned, the reflection of your progress here is in the difference to how you respond to the difficult nights — not the absence of difficult nights!
Responding in a way that involves less struggle shows that you are building skill in a more workable response — and that’s entirely down to your own commitment to ongoing practice.
The fact you are also responding without judgement, are seeing each night as a fresh start, and are refocusing your attention on daily actions is also evidence of all the progress you’ve made in such a short period of time.
It also sounds as though you are becoming more skilled in living life in the present — not the past or the future (which is where our brains like to take us, by default).
Great stuff 🙂
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I love the supportive discussion here and the ongoing evidence of the existence of so many character strengths such as curiosity, exploration, reflection, determination, honesty, and tenacity!
Setbacks are a normal part of progress. They wouldn’t be setbacks unless we were comparing them to some kind of improvement that we’ve experienced! All setbacks mean are that we are human and that we are on a journey. When we walk, we trip sometimes. How do we respond? That’s what matters.
The AWAKE exercise can definitely be difficult to get your head around — especially at first. There’s a lot there. And, like any new skill, it’s going to be most difficult at first. And, it will likely get a bit easier with practice.
What matters is getting the practice in, playing around with it, seeing what works for you. Anything that helps you practice building skill in experiencing wakefulness with less struggle is probably going to be more helpful than continuing to struggle — so, feel free to modify the AWAKE exercise or do anything else that helps you experience wakefulness and any thoughts and feelings that might show up with less struggle.
Remember, too, that accepting anxiety isn’t supposed to get rid of anxiety — for as long as that’s the goal, struggle is likely to continue. This is about resisting it less — not burning all the energy and attention that’s required when we do battle with it. That battle makes things so much more difficult!
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That’s a great insight — thanks for sharing, Christianna! Imagine if you gave your thoughts permission to be around for as long as they chose — then they might not need much of your attention at all.
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Thanks for the great questions!
There’s no need to respond to being awake just because you are awake since being awake is a normal part of sleep. Perhaps that might simply be an opportunity to rest.
What can be helpful is responding in a different way if you find yourself struggling with being awake. At that time, you can practice a way to experience being awake that will help you build skill in experiencing wakefulness with less struggle — and that might involve practicing the AWAKE exercise.
Does this answer your question?
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Ups and downs are normal — and the nights of good sleep prove that your sleep system is working as it should and is generating sleep when sleep is needed.
It’s a lot harder to practice acknowledging and making space for difficult thoughts and feelings to exist at night — there’s fewer opportunities to shift our attention! So, you aren’t alone in finding that difficult! Having a clear plan in place for what to do when you find yourself struggling at night can be helpful.
In terms of dealing with wakefulness and anxiety in a workable way, if sleep meditations, the audiobook on the power of the subconscious mind, and buying books about unwinding the mind had worked, what would have happened?
If your goal with those actions was to get rid of wakefulness or anxiety, perhaps you are still tangled up in the struggle that comes from trying to control what your experience tells you cannot be controlled?
Imagine if the appearance of anxiety didn’t create a struggle. If its appearance was more like water off a duck’s back rather than something that pulled you in to an endless and exhausting tug of war. How might things be different? Does that sound more appealing and more workable? If so, how might you practice building skill in experiencing anxiety and wakefulness with less struggle?
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It sounds as though you are acknowledging that the approach you shared isn’t working for you. Does that mean that changes are needed if you want things to change? If so, are you ready to make those changes — even though change can be difficult? What might those changes look like?
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Hello Tara!
If your goal with the AWAKE exercise is to practice acknowledging your thoughts and feelings and build skill in experiencing them with less struggle, you are on the right track!
If your goal is to practice acknowledging your thoughts and feelings so that sleep happens, you might be setting yourself up for more struggle since your own experience tells you that you cannot control sleep through effort, right?
Anxiety can definitely make sleep more difficult but it’s still possible to sleep, even in the presence of anxiety. What makes things even more difficult is battling with anxiety — because, after all, how likely is sleep to happen if we are at war with our minds? The brain is probably less likely to allow sleep to happen if it’s engaged in a battle.
If one of your goals is to not allow sleep to consume you, how are the ongoing attempts to control sleep helping you move closer to that goal?
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The example you gave in your first post is correct — if you are averaging less than six hours of sleep at the current time, a six hour sleep window would be 1:00 AM to 7:00 AM. And, the idea is that no matter how you sleep at night, you will still be out of bed at 7:00 AM.
A sleep window is usually based on how you are sleeping now, rather than how you want to be sleeping.
I hope this helps 🙂
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Does the knot itself stop sleep from happening or might the desire — or effort — to get rid of the knot be making sleep more difficult?
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