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Sleep drive is one part of the “requirement” for sleep to happen (in other words, we need to be awake for long enough). For the best conditions for sleep, there also needs to be a lack of effort to make sleep happen — a lack of attachment to sleep itself.
There’s a possibility that some sleep is happening over a seven day period — even though it can feel absolutely certain that no sleep whatsoever has happened — since our arousal system can’t usually suspend sleep for that long of a period without the balloon bursting!
It’s OK to think about sleep — your brain will think about whatever it chooses to think about. What matters is how you respond to those thoughts. Do you engage in a battle with them, trying to fight or avoid them? Are they controlling your actions in a way that is pulling you away from doing things that matter and from living the life you want to live?
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How are you practicing acceptance and not fighting? If I was in the same room as you when you were practicing that, what would I see you doing?
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Being afraid of the possibility of getting two hours of sleep for six weeks is totally understandable! That might happen and it might not happen — nobody can predict the future (as far as I know)!
Does your experience tell you that you can directly and permanently make a certain amount or type of sleep happen through effort? If not, where does trying get you?
What you can always control are your actions — and it’s your actions that will determine your level of struggle and how much power and influence sleep (and the thoughts and feelings that can come with insomnia) will have over your life.
Identifying that trying to fight or avoid difficult thoughts and feelings is something that’s creating a struggle suggests that an alternative approach there might be worth exploring. What might that look like, do you think?
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Ugh, sorry to hear of the illness that struck your family — that was no doubt very stressful and generated lots of difficult thoughts and feelings as your brain did its job of looking out for you and reminding you of how important your family is to you. I am glad to know everyone is feeling better!
It’s great to hear that once your family recovered you continued to do things that matter and went through the Christmas period in a way that was aligned with your values and that kept you moving toward the life you want to live and the person you want to be 🙂
The return of difficult nights is hard — it’s also normal, especially when there are clear stressors involved. Just as difficult days happen from time to time, difficult nights happen from time to time as well. So, you are not alone — and what matters now is how you respond.
In terms of dealing with difficult nights when they show up again, what have you learned from the course and what had you been practicing and finding helpful up to the time when illness hit your family? Which of those actions/skills/approaches could you start practicing (or continue to practice), do you think?
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Thanks for sharing! What kind of things do you tend to do during your buffer time and how is that different compared to what you might have been doing before you had a buffer period?
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If you were to clean that up a little, what would be different, Mark?
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Good on you for diving in on the values work, Kevin — and thanks for sharing that you are finding that you identify with many different values, to varying degrees.
I’d suggest starting with (or prioritizing) values that really resonate with you — those might be more important to you compared to those you identify with but don’t get too excited about 😉
With that being said, as long as you are acting in ways that are aligned with your values (to any degree) you are likely to be moving toward the life you want to live compared to if you acted in ways that aren’t aligned with any of your values!
Does this help?
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Some great stuff there, @hiker — thank you for sharing!
@BorgC: Perhaps that fear or that internal voice is nothing more than a reminder that the work you are doing here is important to you? Perhaps it’s also a reminder that your brain is still there, doing its job and looking out for you — so maybe an appropriate response might involve simply thanking your brain for looking out for you?As you shared, you can’t directly or permanently control your thoughts and feelings — but you can always choose how to respond to them. So, if you want to laugh when your brain comes up with certain thoughts, feelings, or stories — go for it!
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You’re definitely not alone in that experience, Sriram — and it’s great to hear that even when you have difficult nights you are continuing to get up around the same time and to go about your day as planned. That is not always easy to do and the fact you are doing that shows you have determination, resilience, and grit!
As you’ve found, difficult thoughts always come back — there’s no delete button for the brain. Did you pick up anything useful from Week 2 for how to practice moving away from the struggle with nighttime wakefulness (and the thoughts and feelings that can come with it)?
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This is great to hear — thank you so much for sharing! It makes sense that you have the wish and desire to get a certain amount or type of sleep — just as it makes sense that you’d probably like to have access to a magic delete button that could remove difficult thoughts and feelings from your mind whenever they show up! (I’ll have one of those too, please!)
As your experience tells you, sleep cannot be controlled through effort and thoughts and feelings cannot be controlled through effort. So, moving away from the ongoing struggle that comes from endless trying can sometimes feel quite liberating and free up so much energy and attention — and that, in turn, might help you do more of the stuff that truly matters to you 🙂
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If your goal is to get out of bed, then getting out of bed means you meet your goal, right?! 😉
Is that truly your intent, though — simply to get out of bed (and, if so, why)? Or is there something else at play here?
Are you getting out of bed in an attempt to fight or avoid certain thoughts or feelings? If so, how is that working for you?
If getting out of bed worked, what would happen?
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Waking during the night is a normal part of sleep — so not much you can do about that. And, a sleep window cannot make a certain amount or type of sleep happen since, as you know from experience, sleep cannot be directly or permanently controlled.
What you can do is figure out whether your approach or your response to all this stuff is workable, or not — based on your own experience.
To help with that, you might want to consider these questions:
1. Is allotting eight hours for sleep appropriate, based on the amount of sleep you are currently getting? If you aren’t sure, you might consider this instead — how is allotting eight hours for sleep working for you?
2. How is your current response to waking during the night working for you? Did you pick up any ideas on this in the course content for Week 2?
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Thanks for the great question! It can be helpful to use your own experience as a guide here — how do you currently respond to that tossing and turning and how is that working for you?
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You are the expert on you, Hyhan — so if you don’t feel a sleep window is helpful or appropriate, then it’s not something you should feel obligated to implement! Thanks for sharing that you like the AWAKE exercise in Week 2 🙂
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Welcome aboard, Rosanne and Hyhan! Thank you for sharing those insights with us, Rosanne — and thanks for sticking around and offering others your support and the benefits of your experience, GenieB!
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