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It sounds like your goal might be to eliminate or delete anxiety from your brain, Sriram — do I have that right?
If so, that’s totally understandable — anxiety doesn’t feel good and we can also see it as an obstacle to sleep (although perhaps our ongoing attempts to fight or avoid anxiety might be the bigger obstacle to sleep).
How is trying to permanently eliminate or delete anxiety working for you? Does your experience tell you that’s possible? Was there anything related to this in the course content for Week 2 that you found relevant or useful?
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Thanks for sharing and I appreciate your words of encouragement to others! Other than building sleep pressure, have you been practicing any other skills or made any other changes that you feel have been proving helpful?
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Thanks for updating us to share that your two weeks of commitments went surprisingly well — if you hadn’t have followed through with them, you wouldn’t have gained that evidence of your ability to do what matters, independently of sleep and your thoughts and feelings.
It sure sounds as though you’ve made progress when it comes to being kinder to yourself. You are practicing opening up to the presence of anxiety; you are acknowledging that it’s normal to experience anxiety; you aren’t blaming yourself for it showing up and you aren’t blaming yourself for difficult nights — as you said, sleep cannot be controlled!
I can also tell that you are practicing making space for difficult thoughts and feelings to come and go as they please — and that’s important if you want to move away from the endless and exhausting struggle that comes from trying to fight or avoid them!
Reframing the goal of going to bed as rest rather than sleep can often help, too — it can help you move away from any pressure you might put on yourself to make sleep happen.
Sorry to hear that you fell sick and have been ill. Your concern that sticking to your commitments might make you fall ill is understandable — and I don’t know of any evidence that has found insomnia to cause any such health issues.
I hope you are feeling better and continue to practice all these new skills you are exploring so you can continue to move closer to where you want to be
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Thanks for sharing. It sounds as though you are practicing experiencing wakefulness and the thoughts and feelings that can come with it with less resistance.
Are things feeling clearer when it comes to using your values to act in ways that matter to you each day?
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Thank you so much for sharing! It sounds as though you are noticing changes and improvements in response to the new skills you are practicing! I love how you related this to your experience of target panic in archery — that sounds very apt!
Your recognition that you can continue to learn and continue to change, even as an adult, is evidence of your growth mindset and will no doubt continue to help you as you continue on your journey!
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Good on you for getting that practice in, Rubylight! Setbacks are part of making progress — and remember that the goal with the AWAKE exercise is to practice building skill in experiencing wakefulness and all the thoughts and feelings that might show up with less struggle and less resistance
Oh, and quite often, “expectations” can end up biting us — we feel bad when they aren’t met and we only feel neutral when they are met (because we expected them to happen anyway). Sometimes it can be helpful to approach each night as a fresh start, with zero expectations.
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Difficult thoughts and feelings come with being a human being — I am not sure any of us would still be alive if our problem-solving brains didn’t generate them!
What did you learn about dealing with difficult thoughts and feelings from the Week 2 course content, kingy75 and Christianna?
I’m also curious to know what *accepting* difficult thoughts means to you, Christianna?
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Hello Sriram and thank you for sharing!
When you say you are not able to overcome sleep anxiety, what does that mean to you? If you were able to overcome it, what would be different?
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Hello Kendra and thank you for sharing!
Difficult thoughts and feelings are often difficult to experience — and, as you mentioned, practicing new skills can be challenging! What matters is that you got some practice in
Good on you for getting to yoga, taking walks, seeing friends and family, and doing your part-time work — even in the presence of exhaustion, fear, and all the other difficult stuff that was present. What did you learn from that?
Continuing to explore your situation and your relationship with all this stuff is evidence of your growth mindset — you know that things can change, that you can learn to get better at things, that challenges are an opportunity to learn, and that persistence in the face of obstacles will help keep you moving toward your goals.
Thank you for sharing how you’ve reframed nights as being different rather than bad — “bad” can come with connotations of blame and that might result in you being hard on yourself. Talking to yourself harshly or in a mean way. That rarely makes things any better or easier — especially when none of this difficult stuff is your fault!
I wish you all the best as you continue on your journey
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Welcome and congratulations on your pregnancy! If you have any questions please feel free to post them here
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If you have been admitted to a mental health hospital, I would encourage you to seek an answer to your question from the doctors there.
Quite often, ongoing struggle comes from trying to control what our own experience tells us cannot be directly or permanently controlled. So, the more we try to fight or avoid anxiety or the more we try to make sleep happen, for example, the more we can struggle — and that’s when we can so easily end up getting stuck.
I hope there’s something useful here and I wish you all the best.
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I appreciate your introspection, curiosity, and willingness to explore this stuff with an open mind!
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Many people find that sleep meditations work — until they don’t work! And, perhaps when they no longer seem to work, perhaps that implies they never really worked in the first place? And, in turn, maybe that’s a reminder that sleep cannot be controlled through effort?
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Yes, I agree — it can definitely be helpful to remember that every night is different. Not necessarily better or worse — just different.
And, having fewer expectations can be helpful too — if something happens in a way we did not expect, we tend to be unhappy about that.
When something does happen in a way we expect, the best outcome is neutral — something happened that we expected to happen.
So, with expectations we set ourselves up for disappointment and, at best, indifference!
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Is it the fear of being up by yourself that is the problem here, or is it the belief that you shouldn’t have the fear of being up by yourself that is creating the struggle?
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