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Thanks for sharing, Ellyboo — I wish you all the best as you continue on your journey!
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Thanks for sharing your insights!
The more we try to hold ourselves to a goal we cannot control (such as getting a certain amount or type of sleep) the more pressure we might put on ourselves to “perform”, the more effort we might put into sleep, and the more harshly we might treat ourselves if we don’t achieve the standards we’ve set for ourselves. When we take that route, we are on a journey toward disappointment and struggle.
The alternative is the abandonment of control and judgement — acceptance. And acceptance isn’t a final destination; it’s something that requires ongoing practice because difficult nights will always show up from time to time and difficult thoughts will always show up from time to time.
What matters, and what determines how much power and influence that stuff will have over us, is how we respond. We can battle, struggle, fight, avoid, and treat ourselves harshly. Or, we can acknowledge, observe, be kind to ourselves, and commit to actions that matter to us — even in the presence of difficult stuff.
It sounds as though you are on a workable path forward — and, as you shared, there will always be ups and downs because life is a journey 🙂
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I suspect that confidence only comes following repeated, committed, and meaningful action — and action doesn’t require confidence; it just requires action!
So, if moving away from medication is important to you, it requires the action of moving away from the medication — even if that means some difficult nights.
In my experience, the tapering process chosen is less important when it comes to success compared to having a clear tapering plan in place and sticking to it, regardless of how each night goes. And, of course, it’s important to discuss this with your doctor before making any changes.
I hope there’s something useful here and I wish you all the best!
PS: The human body doesn’t require medication to generate sleep — it can do it all by itself, just as it can generate breathing all by itself without medication. Problems tend to occur when we (understandably!) try to control a bodily function that cannot be controlled and doesn’t need to be controlled.
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All forms of insomnia typically last for as long as we fight them. In other words, the more we resist insomnia and the more we try to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen through effort, the more difficult we are likely to find sleep. Has that been your experience?
As for mixing alcohol with zolpidem, I suspect that’s not a good idea — but it would be best to get an answer from a licensed healthcare provider.
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These are all great questions and they should probably be directed to a licensed healthcare provider for qualified answers.
Are you able to recall a time in your life when sleep wasn’t so difficult, didn’t require attention or effort? If so, was diphenhydramine/nytol liquid needed to generate sleep back then? If not, why is it needed now?
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Thanks for the great question!
My course cannot guarantee you a certain amount or type of sleep because, as your experience is likely telling you, sleep cannot be controlled and the more effort we put into sleep the more difficult it can become.
What my course can do is help you practice actions that will help create good conditions for sleep and move you away from struggling with being awake at night and all the difficult thoughts and feelings that can come with that wakefulness.
When there’s less struggle, there’s more energy and attention available to live the life we want to live. And, as we live our lives independently of sleep, sleep tends to take care of itself.
I hope there’s something useful here and I wish you all the best!
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Hello Matthew! It’s good to hear that you are practicing what you are learning from the course — you are taking action and action is what creates change!
It’s totally understandable that you went back for the Tylenol, Advil, and your sleep aid — and, even though it sounds as though that’s something you don’t want to do, you have learned something from that experience.
Your brain doesn’t care if you are awake or asleep in bed. Your brain only cares about one thing — protecting you.
If you struggle in bed, it can see the bed as a threat and is more likely to fire up to protect you. If you don’t struggle in bed, it’s far less likely to see the bed as a threat.
With this in mind, it doesn’t matter whether you get out of bed or not. What matters is what your intention is when you are in bed or out of bed. What you are doing and why you are doing it. What you are trying to achieve.
Is there anything useful here?
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Yes, there will always be ups and downs. There can be no doubt about that! And now, when those “downs” happen, you can remind yourself of the time when you got eight hours of uninterrupted sleep, or six hours of sleep. You can remind yourself of the value of practicing the AWAKE exercise.
You know you are capable of good nights of sleep and you know that good sleep tends to happen when you are less attached to making it happen.
Thanks for sharing your growing awareness and the insights you are picking up on your journey!
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If you are within the hour or so before your sleep window begins and feel ready to go to bed, you might want to just go to bed. Some people find it helpful to stop checking the time once their buffer zone begins and then go to bed whenever they feel ready to go to bed. Do you feel that might be an approach that could be worth exploring?
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Good job getting some practice in with the AWAKE exercise! Since “shallow sleep” is still sleep, I am not sure how it would be helpful to get out of bed when shallow sleep is happening. How do you feel that would help you?
To answer your second question, sleep doesn’t care whether you take magnesium or not. Your belief about whether it might (or might not) probably has the most influence!
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Thanks for the great question! There’s no need to get out of bed during your sleep window unless you want to. What matters is practicing experiencing being awake (and all the thoughts and feelings that can come with being awake) with less struggle. Being more of a curious observer of what’s happening rather than an aggressive opponent.
You don’t necessarily need to find enjoyment in activities you practice while awake at night — although that can be a bonus! What truly matters is that the activity is more appealing than the alternative (which is often battling with being awake, struggling, fighting, pressure, effort, and unhelpful self-talk).
Remember you aren’t trying to make sleep happen (your experience tells you that trying to make sleep happen doesn’t work, right?) — so the activity itself doesn’t really matter. Your goal here is simply to practice experiencing nighttime wakefulness with less struggle.
Does this help?
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Hello Timh! Have you been diagnosed with OCD and the urge to move your body has been medically attributed to OCD? If so, I would suggest seeking medical advice on that.
If this is more of an observation rather than a medical issue, how do you currently respond to the urge to move your body and how is that working for you?
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If you used to take a book to bed and read until you feel sleepy, what’s stopping you from doing that again? If you feel comfortable with being awake in bed from the time you go to bed to the time you fall asleep, how can it be a problem?
Remember that the sleep window is simply one tool that is intended to help you move away from chasing after sleep. If you feel completely comfortable with the amount of time you spend in bed, there’s no need to change anything. If the amount of time you spend in bed seems to be creating a struggle and making things difficult, that’s when a sleep window might be worth practicing.
Does this help?
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Hello Matthew and thanks for sharing that you’ve been completely off the sleep aids, along with the Tylenol/Advil! Why was it important for you to do that?
As you have experienced, difficult nights are going to show up from time to time — just as difficult days are going to show up from time to time. What matters is how we respond because our response determines how much we are going to struggle and the level of power and influence these difficult nights will have over us.
We probably don’t need to work on not associating the bed with wakefulness — after all, many people who don’t pay any attention to sleep read in bed, watch TV in bed, and do many other activities in bed while awake and they sleep just fine. What can be helpful is working on not associating the bed with struggle.
Tossing and turning through the night doesn’t sound pleasant (but perhaps I am wrong — you are the expert on you, after all)! Can you think of an alternative way of responding to nighttime wakefulness that might be a bit more pleasant or a bit more workable compared to tossing and turning? A way that might help you build skill in experiencing wakefulness and all the thoughts and feelings that can come with that with a bit less struggle?
You could always shorten your sleep window if you think that would be helpful — just remember that the goal of the sleep window isn’t to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen (if used in that way, it could create some additional struggle). The real intent with the sleep window is to help you move away from chasing after sleep, trying to make it happen.
Is there anything useful here?
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It sounds as though it might come down to this — what action best reflects who you are, who you want to be, and moves you closer to the life you want to live? Playing in concerts or not playing in concerts?
You can control the action of playing in concerts. According to your experience, can you control any of the other stuff that happens inside you (such as thoughts, feelings, sleep itself)?
It might be helpful to use your experience as a guide when questions like this come up — after all, you are the expert on you!
To use the question you posed here about whether or not you should play in the concert, you might reflect on whether you have played a concert after a night of no sleep in the past. If so, what happened? Did that move you closer to the life you want to live and the person you want to be? What did you learn from that experience?
And, you might reflect on whether you withdrew from a concert after a night of no sleep in the past. If so, what happened? Did that move you closer to the life you want to live and the person you want to be? What did you learn from that experience?
If your anxiety is so intense as to cause frequent vomiting, unsteadiness, and trembling, I would suggest seeking help from a licensed healthcare provider — it would be beyond the scope of this course to aim to help you with that.
I would also encourage you to practice being kind to yourself. What you are going through is really difficult and none of it is your fault.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
