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Sleep during the day will reduce your sleep “need” — and that can mean less sleep at night. Whether or not that’s OK is up to you, since you are the expert on yourself!
The bigger picture in your experience seems to be not a lack of sleep pressure but a heightened level of effort to make sleep happen as you want it to happen which, in turn, makes things more difficult.
What’s the opportunity here?
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Welcome to the course — it’s good to have you here 🙂
Falling asleep isn’t a problem for you. When you wake during the night you notice the presence of anxiety and other difficult thoughts and feelings and your response to them seems to be making things more difficult.
Thanks to your superpowers of curiosity and self-reflection, you’ve identified that your problem-solving brain is just doing its job of looking out for you — and trying to fight or avoid the actions of your brain and the thoughts and feelings it generates only consumes more energy and attention, gives them more power and influence, and creates more struggle.
You asked about what to do when you wake up and can’t stay in bed. What is stopping you from staying in bed when you wake during the night?
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You’re welcome 🙂
Fear is natural and normal! The only way you can go “backwards” is if you go back to trying to control what you know cannot be controlled — and, even then, when you are aware of that happening you have the opportunity to respond differently.
So, perhaps there’s never any moving backwards — only more learning opportunities!
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Welcome to the course, @agrieser!
Jet lag comes with international travel — I am not sure it can be avoided completely (I’ve heard it said that it can take the body a day to adjust to every hour of change created by crossing timezones but I’m not sure of the source of that claim)!
With this in mind, it can be helpful to acknowledge that some sleep disruption is likely to come with travel. And, most (if not all) rich and meaningful experiences come with some difficult or uncomfortable stuff, too.
What might matter most here is the fact you are traveling and doing stuff that matters — even though sleep might not happen as you want and even though difficult thoughts and feelings might come along for the ride!
You are acting in a way that moves you toward the life you want to live. You are maintaining control (and power) over your actions and your life.
Your body’s natural sleep mechanisms can be used to help reduce ongoing disruption from jet lag — and perhaps the most helpful way to do this would be to immediately adopt the local time as soon as you arrive at your destination.
So, if you arrive at your destination during the day, you might want to try staying awake until around your usual bedtime in your new destination (in other words, if you usually go to bed around 10:00 PM at home then see if you can delay going to bed until around 10:00 PM — local time — wherever you are in the world, too).
If you reach your destination at a time when you’d normally be sleeping, you might want to grab a bit of sleep and then try to get up at your normal time — or you can try to plough through until your normal bed time. The accumulated sleep drive will help create good conditions for sleep the following night and might help you adapt to the new timezone a bit quicker.
In a more general sense, it can be helpful to only go to bed when truly sleepy enough for sleep, maintain a reasonably consistent out of bed time in the morning, make any unpleasant nighttime wakefulness more pleasant (by doing something more enjoyable whenever being awake doesn’t feel good), and continue to do things each day (no matter how small) that are aligned with your values and help you continue moving toward the kind of life you want to live.
Quite often, the more we focus on trying to protect sleep or make a certain amount or type of sleep happen, the more difficult it becomes!
With all this being said what might be most important here is the fact you are going to Europe. You are going on an adventure. You are doing what matters. And, I’m going to guess than 50 years from now, what you did on that trip will be far more memorable than how you slept 🙂
I hope there’s something useful here and I wish you safe travels!
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Hello Rudy! You are taking action by observing a sleep window and getting some practice in with the AWAKE exercise. You also have a rule in place that states that if you are still awake at 2:00 AM you will then take a prescribed sleep medicine.
What kind of strategies or suggestions are you looking for? In other words, what are you trying to achieve?
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Thanks for sharing that interesting observation @Pam1129! When you don’t want sleep to happen — when there’s no pressure or effort to make it happen — it seems to show up all by itself!
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The AWAKE exercise, like all skills, is often difficult before it gets easier/more intuitive — so you definitely aren’t alone!
Remember that your goal is not to relax or remove tension or change any feeling. It’s simply to notice. To acknowledge. To observe. That’s all there is to it — and that, in itself, can be extremely challenging and often requires ongoing practice!
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Acceptance, acknowledgement, and self-kindness are three ways to deal with difficult thoughts and feelings — and perhaps they might be more useful compared to trying to control, fight, or avoid. You clearly have a growth mindset and are harnessing your superpowers of self-reflection and curiosity as you move forward!
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Thanks for sharing your reflections as you take the opportunity to apply what is shared in the course to your own experience!
Some people have found that if they go to bed with the expectation (and acceptance) that sleep won’t happen, they are less likely to put pressure on themselves to make sleep happen, less likely to put effort into sleep, and — as a consequence — conditions for sleep become a lot better.
So, perhaps this might be less about expectations (which can only have a neutral outcome, at best) and more about taking pressure of ourselves to try to control something that is beyond our control?
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Thanks for the great question! You can stay in bed for as long as you choose — if you are implementing a sleep window you would just aim to be out of bed by the end of the sleep window.
I usually suggest sticking with the same sleep window for at least a week or two before making changes. If you modify it too frequently you might be less likely to notice any benefit from it!
Does this answer your question? We’ll be exploring how to respond to being awake during the night in a lot more detail from Week 2 onward 🙂
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Choosing an out of bed time that fits into the life you live (or want to live) can be really helpful as it gets you moving in the direction you want to be heading!
Your superpower of self-reflection helped you identify that you were spending too much time in bed. By responding to that insight with a commitment to reduce the amount of time you allot for sleep, you are also starting to reclaim your life from insomnia.
I wish you all the best as you continue to move forward!
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying. It just proves you are human.
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Learning new skills is rarely easy. When this feels hard, it’s because it is hard!
@ktMD — It sounds as though the more you practice sitting with difficult thoughts and emotions, the more you are able to notice them for what they are. Thoughts and emotions. Certainly not facts or even accurate predictions (at least, not always!). They’re bursts of electrical signals that we attach meaning to. Nothing more. Nothing less.And, of course, since your brain’s main job is to keep you safe and alive it’s going to focus on “doom and gloom” stuff and worst-possible outcomes. Happy stuff, positive stuff, good stuff, and safe stuff isn’t a potential threat, risk, or danger — so if you want to identify those things (which can be really helpful!) you have to make the conscious effort to look for them because it’s unlikely your brain will waste time and energy finding them for you!
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Hello @ktMD! Waking during the night is a normal part of sleep. If that time awake is something you struggle with as you try to fight or avoid it, practicing the AWAKE exercise might be helpful as a way to build skill in experiencing it with less struggle 🙂
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Thanks for sharing!
Returning to your own bed is an action that is more aligned with the life you want to live, and it’s more comfortable!
Thanks to your problem-solving ability you now have a plan in place for what to do when you are awake at night that is more pleasant and workable compared to battling away. You are practicing acceptance and building skill in experiencing wakefulness with less struggle.
It sounds as though you are getting your life back from insomnia, and that’s all down to your own actions!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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