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Your growth mindset means you know that growth and learning is always happening and is always possible. And, evidence exists in your success at weaning off medication and the insight you just shared.
The concept that thoughts don’t stop sleep from happening (and therefore don’t require any effort to fight, avoid or control) was powerful and liberating for you!
How might things be different if thoughts just came and went and didn’t require you to do anything with them?
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Welcome to the course and the forum!
The sleep window cannot make a certain amount or type of sleep happen. It’s more of a tool to help you move away from chasing after sleep — something that only makes it more difficult.
Waking is a normal part of sleep. Your experience tells you that you can fall asleep (and that means you can also fall back to sleep). So, something seems to be getting in the way when that doesn’t happen.
How do you usually respond when you aren’t falling asleep and what have you been learning from that response?
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Thanks for sharing, @anthonye!
Your actions are now a better reflection of who you are and the life you want to live. They serve you and move you closer to where you want to be, compared to in the past when they might have been more likely to serve sleep and insomnia and pull you away from the life you want to live.
You are also being kinder to yourself, not demanding perfection (an impossible goal!). As you let go of the struggle that comes from trying to control what your experience tells you is out of your control, you’re freeing yourself from an ongoing struggle.
You are noticing a growing sense of calm and you are freeing up energy (and attention) to do more of what matters.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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Your experience is your best guide, Pam — and it seems to tell you that the more effort you put into sleep and the more you try to fight, avoid, or control your thoughts and feelings, the more you struggle and the more difficult all that stuff becomes.
If that’s the case, perhaps the way forward might involve moving away from trying to control what seems to be out of your control? Being aware of the intent (and workability) of your actions and making changes to your actions, if/when appropriate.
Unfortunately I don’t have all the answers for you — you are the expert on yourself! Hopefully there might be something useful here, though.
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Hello Pam. You aren’t alone.
Battling is an action — so it’s something you get to choose to do (or not do). It can also be a symptom of putting effort into trying to make something happen.
It’s so easy to get drawn into a battle. And yet, you have the superpower of awareness and — therefore — the ability to withdraw from the battle whenever you notice it happening.
From reading your posts it sounds as though there might still be some effort directed toward either making sleep happen or (perhaps more likely from what I am reading) in trying to fight or avoid certain thoughts and feelings.
Perhaps that might be the source of ongoing battle, struggle, and difficulty.
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Developing new skills requires work and that work is worth it because you know that struggling against difficult and/or uncomfortable thoughts doesn’t work — and struggling requires even more work and effort and creates even more difficulty.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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Hello @whitintx and welcome to the forum! To clarify, what do you mean by “gotten over this” — what, specifically, are you looking to achieve?
@ktMD — It sounds like your experience is reminding you that thoughts and feelings (such as anxiety) are out of your control. So, for as long as you are trying to change, fight, avoid, or
“improve” what you think or how you feel, you are going to continue to struggle. With that in mind, what’s the opportunity presenting itself to you?—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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As you celebrate remaining committed to actions that matter to you, you are also opening up to the presence of thoughts and feelings — recognizing that they come from your brain doing its job of looking out for you. That means you’ve successfully withdrawn from one potential battleground!
Your experience seems to tell you that the more you try to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen, the more likely you are to struggle with sleep. The more difficult it becomes.
Sleep happens (and happens best) when it is effortless. For as long as there is a pursuit of a certain amount or type of sleep to happen, conditions are ripe for an ongoing struggle!
Sleep doesn’t need rules to happen. It just needs us to get out of its way 😉
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The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thoughts and feelings are human. Sleep can happen no matter what thoughts and feelings are present. So, yes — it is normal to still think about sleep 🙂
Trying to fight or avoid thoughts and feelings is understandable and it often pulls us into an exhausting (and endless) battle with our minds. And sleep is perhaps less likely to happen if we engaged in a war!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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If an approach of acceptance is what you are working toward, it sounds like you are on the right track!
Acceptance is an action-based skill and skills usually take time and ongoing practice to develop. There are usually ups and downs along the way, too.
I’m curious — what needs to happen for the hard nights to become easier?
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Welcome to the forum @Toneman!
Acceptance is far easier said than done, just as you said! It usually requires ongoing practice, too. And, if your goal with accepting you might not sleep is for sleep to happen, is that true acceptance?
As for how to switch your mind off on command, if you figure that one out let me know first and we can be trillionaires together 😉
Since the human brain is active and generating thoughts 24/7, it knows how to generate sleep no matter what you are thinking or feeling. So trying to switch off your mind might be a distraction that’s only consuming more energy and attention and making things even more difficult.
If that’s not the obstacle, what could be? Perhaps this question might help:
If you think back to when sleep wasn’t an issue or a concern, what were you doing back then to make sleep happen so effortlessly?
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Hello @SpeedofLight 🙂
First, to answer your questions:
1. Sleep restriction: Do people do this who have to drive to work?
Yes. People with insomnia rarely fall asleep without warning during the day (they tend to be “tired but wired” rather than excessively sleepy). However, you are the expert on you and if it feels unsafe for you to drive then it’s important not to drive.
2. Do people find they are overwhelmingly sleepy but refuse to go to bed before bedtime, then the drowsiness fades and doesn’t come back?
This is very common. When there’s no effort or pressure to sleep (and your brain isn’t trying to protect you from the perceived threat of insomnia) conditions are good for sleep (and sleepiness). When you go to bed, one or more of those things (effort, pressure, perceived threat level) changes — and that can suppress the sensation of sleepiness.
Moving on from those questions, and to address the additional posts here:
You are clearly a powerful problem-solver, with superpowers of self-reflection, honesty, and curiosity. You’ve also learned a lot from your experience. These are all resources you can draw from as you continue to move forward.
Sleep confidence is great to have and sleep confidence isn’t needed for sleep to happen (just as breathing confidence isn’t needed for breathing to happen).
As your experience seems to tell you, it’s not really possible to “not worry”, “not think”, or “not care” about certain things — not genuinely and permanently, at least. The more you try, the more those things consume your focus, energy, and attention (and perhaps the more likely they are to create a struggle that makes things even more difficult).
Your experience tells you that when worry shows up, sleep might not happen. It also tells you that without worry, sleep might not happen. So the presence worry itself doesn’t seem to be a factor in whether or not you’ll get the amount or type of sleep you want to get.
So, something else must be at play here. Can you recall a time when sleep wasn’t an issue or a concern for you? If so, what did you do to make it happen so effortlessly?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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Thanks for sharing this part of your journey with us all 🙂
You have a clear plan in place for how to approach sleep, how to respond when sleep doesn’t happen as you might want it to, and how to deal with the difficult thoughts and feelings that might show up for as long as you are a human being.
Your actions better reflect who you are and the life you want to live. Your focus has shifted away from sleep and toward living your life. As a result, the stage has been set for sleep to take care of itself and difficult thoughts and feelings do not rule over your life.
Thank you for sharing the specific nuances and changes you made that you found particularly beneficial. This demonstrates that everyone’s journey is their own and that everyone is the expert on themselves!
What matters more than any exercise or tool shared in this course is whether your actions are creating more struggle, leaving you feeling stuck, or moving you in the direction you want to be heading.
I appreciate your kind words. I was merely your guide. You took the action. You did the work. You drew on your growth mindset, your problem-solving abilities, and your superpowers of self-reflection, self-awareness, commitment, and resilience to move forward and gain the insights you shared.
I wish you all the best as you continue to move forward!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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You are reclaiming your life from insomnia as you commit to actions that better reflect who you are and the life you want to live. It’s clear that moving away from medication matters to you.
Your experience is reminding you that you cannot control sleep but you can control your actions. And your actions determine how much power and influence sleep has over your life and the kind of life you live.
Your optimism shines through as you give yourself the opportunity to notice bright spots and positive moments and experiences even when things are difficult.
I wish you all the best as you continue to move forward, with kindness and patience for yourself.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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Welcome to the forum, @Slumberseeker — you are not alone!
Congratulations on your pregnancy! It sounds as though you are looking for an alternative to medication now that’s no longer an option. Without that alternative, you feel uncertain how you can move forward and you are doubting your natural ability to sleep (even though that never went away and never goes away).
People cope with emotions in all different ways. What matters most is how you cope. How you respond. How do you currently respond, and what are you learning from that?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
