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It’s OK to worry — you’re a human being not a robot, right?
If you felt as though you were moving forward instead of backwards, what would be different?
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Welcome to the forum! Since you quit coffee it sounds as though we can rule that out as the cause of the struggle you’re experiencing!
Can you tell us a bit more about your sleep at the current time? Can you describe an average or a typical night with us, including the time of night when you usually go to bed and the time of day when you usually get out of bed to start your day in the morning?
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As we get older we typically generate less sleep (and less deep sleep, too). That doesn’t mean we’re destined to struggle with sleep as we get older, just that sleep changes as we get older.
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Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing that insight with us! How do you feel you might be able to move away from trying too hard?
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If you feel comfortable when you wake during the night, perhaps there’s no need to do anything? Perhaps you can rest instead of trying to make sleep happen and allow sleep to show up if it chooses to do so, until your normal out of bed time?
As for the naps — totally up to you. You might want to consider that sleeping during the day might make sleep at night more difficult.
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Hello Mia!
You’re right that anxiety and sadness can be all consuming — it’s good to hear that you are committing to doing things that matter to you, even when it is present. That’s often a more workable way of responding compared to going to war and using all your energy and attention in an effort to fight or avoid those feelings (since they always end up coming back anyway, right?).
A sleep window can help reduce the amount of time available for nighttime wakefulness and help with sleep consolidation if you are spending a lot more time in bed compared to the amount of sleep you usually generate.
From my experience working with clients, the sleep window can often be most useful as a tool that helps us move away from chasing after sleep. It’s a lot harder to chase after sleep if we have an earliest possible bedtime, a consistent out of bed time in the morning, and aren’t napping (or attempting to nap) during the day.
Something that might also be helpful is exploring how you respond to those awakenings when they happen. Are you trying to fight or avoid them? Are you putting effort into sleep when you wake at night? If so, that might be creating some struggle that has the potential to make things more difficult.
I hope there’s something useful here!
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It sounds as though trying to control your sleep in this way isn’t proving to be helpful, SA324. Are you able to remember a time when sleep wasn’t a concern? How did you manage to sleep right through until 7:00 AM in those days? Any insights there?
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That fear is completely understandable! And, at the same time, it’s not possible to “forget” how to sleep. Sleep always happens when we’ve been awake for long enough 🙂
What can make things more difficult is trying to get involved in the process. Trying to make sleep happen. Trying to get rid of wakefulness. Trying to fight, avoid, or otherwise control what we’re thinking or feeling. Since we can’t control any of that stuff, the more we try the more we can set ourselves up for a struggle that makes everything more difficult.
Instead of trying to manage your thoughts or trying to change them, do you think there might be any value in practicing allowing them to exist? Acknowledging their presence and allowing them to come and go as they choose (even though you might wish they didn’t exist)? Do you feel that might help you struggle with them a bit less?
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That sounds really difficult and I am sorry that you went through that experience and for what you are currently going through. I would suggest looking for a professional in your country that might be able to help you with this. You aren’t alone and you do not need to suffer alone. Please reach out to someone you trust. I wish you all the very best.
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I am yet to come across anyone who found that a weighted stuffed animal cured their insomnia — and that might be because a weighted stuffed animal is unlikely to address the thing that provides insomnia with the oxygen it needs to survive (the struggle that usually comes from all our efforts to make sleep happen).
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Was there anything useful in my earlier reply, NikC14?
That fear is natural and normal — it comes from your brain doing its job and looking out for you. You can’t control that fear (the more you try to control your thoughts and feelings the more difficult they can become) but you can always control how you respond.
How are you currently responding to that fear?
Fear and anxiety comes and goes for as long as we are living, breathing human beings. It tends to become more powerful and we are more likely to get trapped in a bit of a vicious cycle with it the more we try to fight, avoid, or otherwise control those normal thoughts and feelings.
If we are able to acknowledge these difficult thoughts and feelings and allow them to exist, they are less likely to get stuck. When we go to war with them they are more likely to consume our energy and attention and makes things more difficult.
PS: There is no evidence that chronic insomnia causes any health problem, increases mortality, or causes people to lose their minds. And, that’s probably because the human body will always generate, at the very least, the minimum amount of sleep it needs, as long as it is given the opportunity to generate sleep.
I hope there’s something useful here.
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Ongoing tossing and turning can sometimes be an indication that we are tangled up in a bit of a struggle, trying to make sleep happen. That, in turn, can make things more difficult — and make the nights less pleasant!
With that being said, I am not you — only you know your intent when you’re tossing and turning and only you know whether that tossing and turning is comfortable or not and whether it’s a “workable” behavior or not.
If you feel it’s a symptom of chasing after sleep, trying to make it happen, perhaps noticing the ongoing tossing and turning might be a good cue to respond to wakefulness in a different way? A way that might give you the opportunity to experience wakefulness with a bit less struggle? Do you think that might be useful? If so, how might that look?
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Hello Brad! It’s totally natural that you feel concern about moving away from the medication — after all, you want to function the next day, right?
You might want to ask yourself where medication is getting you. Is it generating great sleep every night and leaving you feeling refreshed and energetic every day?
You might also want to ask yourself whether taking medication is aligned with your values and the kind of life you want to live.
If your answer to those questions is yes, why change anything?
If your answer to those questions is no, perhaps that’s why you feel a bit stuck? And, if you feel a bit stuck, perhaps coming up with a specific plan that might help you get unstuck might be useful?
PS: Have you ever experienced a night of no sleep (medication or not) and been completely unable to function? Completely unable to stand, walk, talk, eat, drink, or get through the day? If not, perhaps your mind might be saying one thing, while your experience is saying something else. In that case, who is the more reliable commentator?
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Thank you for sharing your experience — some good stuff there!
It sounds as though you’ve been moving away from struggling with wakefulness and any difficult thoughts and feelings that your brain chooses to generate — and, as a result, things are feeling better and there’s less struggle.
And, when there’s less struggle, it becomes easier for sleep to happen and it becomes easier to live the kind of life you want to live 🙂
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The human brain is a thought generating machine — so it’s totally natural and normal for you to find your brain thinking about sleep during the day! You might want to thank your brain for looking out for you when that happens, and then refocus your attention on where you are and what you are doing.
What was your mentality before you went to bed in the days before sleep was something you paid any attention to? Are there any insights there you might be able to share with us?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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