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Thanks for the update!
I appreciated you sharing that big insight at the end of your post — that shifting focus onto the things that are within your control, and continuing to do things that matter (no matter how small) can often be more helpful than struggling with all the difficult stuff that’s out of your control!
I am sure others will also find it reassuring that after CBT-I didn’t prove to be helpful for you, you were still able to find an approach that was!
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Welcome to the forum! If you have any questions while you’re on your journey please feel free to post them here!
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Welcome aboard, Leslie! Nobody is ever broken — we can just get stuck from time to time!
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What you are going through is hard, Kmm. As you have seen from all the supportive replies you have received, you are not alone!
As you have experienced, we can’t really delete thoughts from our mind — at least, not permanently anyway. They always come back, right?
So, with that in mind, one way of reducing the struggle might involve practicing moving away from trying to fight or avoid what’s going on in your mind. To acknowledge what your brain is saying. To make space for those thoughts and feelings to come and go as they choose, and to be kind to yourself in return.
I hope there’s something useful here.
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Welcome to the forum, Glen!
The worry and concern you described is natural and normal — that’s your brain looking out for you (thanks, brain)!
Since you’re still finding sleep difficult, it sounds as though we can discount sleep hygiene, vitamins, and minerals as being the solution.
Perhaps the source of much of your struggle might be the ongoing effort to make sleep happen, to get rid of wakefulness when it shows up, and/or to fight or avoid the difficult thoughts and feelings that often come with insomnia.
Could that be a possibility?
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The human body doesn’t require any type of supplement to generate sleep.
Sometimes it’s the ongoing experimentation with supplements (and even medication) that can train the brain to believe that wakefulness is a threat that it needs to be alert at night to protect us from — it’s one of the understandable efforts we can engage in to make sleep happen that ends up making sleep even more difficult!
To fall asleep naturally, we need to be sleepy enough for sleep (we need to have been awake for long enough) and we need to completely remove ourselves from the process of sleep. The more we try, the more we usually set ourselves up for a struggle!
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Desire to sleep doesn’t stop sleep from happening — but trying to make sleep happen sure can!
In other words, what’s going on in your mind probably isn’t the obstacle here — it might be your response that’s making things more difficult.
I hope this helps!
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Hello Farkel — sorry to hear of the bad news you received.
It’s natural and normal for sleep to be disrupted when we receive bad news or something unexpected happens.
If the initial trigger for the sleep disruption is no longer present or relevant but the insomnia sticks around, that’s often because of our understandable response — all the things we might be doing in an effort to make sleep happen, get rid of wakefulness, or to fight or avoid the difficult thoughts and feelings that often come with insomnia.
So, you might want to start by comparing your approach to sleep at the current time with how it was in the past, when you slept fine and sleep wasn’t a concern. Is there a difference? If so, perhaps you might start exploring how you can get back to that earlier approach.
I hope there’s something useful here. If you have any questions, please let me know!
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You’ve sure been through a lot — and I admire your tenacity!
Perhaps slowly reducing the duration of your naps might be a helpful approach rather than trying to eliminate them cold turkey?
In terms of a sleep window, you might want to simply give yourself a reasonably consistent out of bed time in the morning and allow yourself to go to bed at night when you feel sleepy enough for sleep. That might help remove some pressure and effort away from the natural process of sleep.
Finally, instead of tracking sleep efficiency (or any other sleep metric) I wonder if it might be more useful to do things that help you move toward the life you want to live and the person you want to be each day, independently of sleep? After all, you can’t control sleep — but you can always control your actions!
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That sounds really difficult — and you aren’t the only person who hasn’t found medication to be helpful! Have you tried working through my free insomnia sleep training course to see if some changes that don’t rely on medication might be worth exploring?
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Welcome to the forum, Milena — and thank you @baggypepperowl for extending such a kind welcome, too!
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It’s really difficult when a baby wakes repeatedly during the night. No doubt about it. And, all the thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing are natural, normal, and completely valid!
I wonder if it might be worth talking to your baby’s doctor to see if they would recommend any approaches that might help with your daughter’s separation anxiety at night.
I would also encourage you to be kind to yourself because what you are going through is very difficult.
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I know you’ve enrolled in my online course since you posted this — so you now have access to the client forum for future questions and concerns. However, I didn’t want to leave this unanswered!
It sounds as though you might find it helpful to practice some self-kindness — to not be so hard on yourself when things are difficult. To practice being comfortable with something a bit less than perfection (especially when the pinnacle of perfection might be connected to something you can’t directly control, such as what you think and how you sleep).
Life is rarely easy — and yet, even when things are difficult, we can usually do things (no matter how small) that keep us moving in the direction we want to head. Toward the kind of life we want to live and the person we want to be. If we continue to do that, maybe any “imperfections” and the difficult stuff that comes with being a human being (and that are out of our control) might start to be less influential and have less of a hold over our lives.
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That would be a question for your doctor, Zac! I know many people who have done sleep restriction while on different medications, but nobody here can give you advice on that.
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It’s natural and normal to experience worry and to think about sleep. Problems tend to occur when we try to fight or avoid our thoughts and feelings — because, since we cannot directly or permanently control what goes on inside our minds, trying to do so often sets us up for an endless and exhausting struggle.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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