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You are clearly learning from your actions and your strengths of problem-solving, curiosity, and self-reflection are rising to the surface!
Your body is always going to generate, at the very least, the minimum amount of sleep you need. Perhaps ironically, the key to creating the opportunity for more sleep to happen often involves removing all effort and trying to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen! Sleep isn’t something you do — it’s something that happens to you.
It sounds as though you are refocusing attention on your actions (something you can always control) — and your actions determine how much you might struggle with sleep and the thoughts and feelings associated with sleep and insomnia, and how much power and influence all of this has over your life.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You are committing to action, even in the face of adversity. You are also reducing the power and influence that sleep (and insomnia) has over your life and you are expanding the focus of your attention by going out with friends and doing things that matter to you.
It makes complete sense that after several nights where you don’t get the amount or type of sleep you want, you experience a lot of difficult thoughts and feelings. And, because you have a lot of experience with battling with sleep and wakefulness, your brain is going to want to prepare you for a battle at night (and part of that involves temporarily suppressing sleepiness because it doesn’t want you to fall asleep if you’re at war).
Your brain is trying to protect you (thanks, brain!). And, at the same time, preparing you for battle doesn’t help when it comes to sleep, right?
You can’t control your brain but you can always control your actions. With that in mind, what might you be able to do, what might you be able to practice, to help your brain recognize that nighttime isn’t the start of a war? That the bedroom isn’t a battleground? That it doesn’t need to prepare you to fight each night?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Sticking with a sleep window even when things are hard is a reflection of your superpowers of commitment and resilience. You are also learning from your commitment to action, too.
Waking during the night is a normal part of sleep and so a sleep window cannot (and isn’t intended to) get rid of those awakenings. As you know from experience, sleep cannot be directly controlled. The sleep window is simply a tool that can help you move away from chasing after sleep. If you use it in an attempt to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen, you could be setting yourself up for an ongoing struggle.
Resting in bed or reading sounds like a workable way to respond to that wakefulness. As for whether it’s OK to rest in bed after the sleep window ends on weekends, that’s completely up to you since you are the expert on you! In what ways would that action move you closer to the life you want to live?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You are taking action by implementing a sleep window and getting some practice in with the AWAKE exercise. For change to happen, changes usually need to be made! So, you are making progress.
It can be hard to learn a whole lot or draw conclusions from what happens on individual nights. For this reason, I usually suggest not changing the sleep window more often than every week or two.
Remember, too, that the sleep window is not intended to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen — and the AWAKE exercise isn’t intended to make sleep happen or get rid of difficult thoughts and feelings.
The sleep window is simply a tool that’s intended to help you move away from chasing after sleep (something that can make it more difficult).
The AWAKE exercise is intended to help you build skill in experiencing wakefulness and all the difficult thoughts and feelings that can come with it with less struggle — being more of a curious (and kind) observer rather than a bloodthirsty opponent. This is a skill, and as with any skill, it requires ongoing practice and it is going to be hard before it becomes easy.
With all this in mind, what do you feel you should do, @Kan?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
There might be a difference between deliberately checking the time throughout the night and just happening to see the time as you listen to a podcast.
Since you are the expert on you, @anushivadas, what does your experience have to offer? Is seeing the time when you listen to podcasts creating a struggle and making things more difficult? If so, what is the opportunity here? If not, what makes it a problem?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
What you are going through is difficult. You said you can’t seem to stop obsessing over your sleep. What do you mean by that? If I saw you obsessing over sleep, what would I see you doing? What, if any, changes do you want to make in connection to that?
Your experience seems to be telling you that sleep is beyond your direct control. Your experience also seems to be telling you that the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings (like anxiety) is beyond your direct control.
With that in mind, what’s the most likely outcome for as long as you try to control what is out of your control and what might an alternative way of dealing with all this difficult stuff look like?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You’ve clearly learned a lot and overcome a lot on your journey, @struninja! Thanks for sharing your observation that how you sleep doesn’t always predetermine how you feel (or what you can do) during the day.
What advice does your own experience offer you as you reflect on the most workable way to deal with long-lasting difficult bodily sensations? What has proven to be most helpful in the past?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
We always have access to the wise mind — and accessing the wise mind doesn’t mean the problem-solving mind will go silent. It’ll always be there, doing its job of looking out for you!
Practicing self-compassion is evidence of your strengths of self-care and self-awareness. And, again, practicing self-compassion doesn’t necessarily silence the problem-solving mind. It’s something you’ll probably need to do in the presence of whatever thoughts and feelings you notice showing up.
Many people find that the more they try to control or reduce hyper vigilance, the more “hyper” that hyper vigilance becomes. Perhaps your own experience has some guidance to offer there. As always, you are the expert on yourself!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
@eric-amodeo — It’s totally natural and normal to get pulled back into the struggle over and over again because that’s how most of us are hard-wired. Your awareness that this is happening is a huge strength because it gives you the opportunity to choose to respond differently.
Thoughts and feelings can definitely feel like they are spiraling out of control whenever we try to control them because, as your experience tells you, thoughts and feelings are not within your control.
@vandeinseg1: Practicing and building skill in acceptance is one way to move away from the struggle that comes from trying to control what is out of your control!If that practice comes with the intention of calming you down or changing what you are thinking and feeling, it might create some struggle, though. Because, with that intent, you are still (understandably!) trying to control what you know cannot be controlled! You are switching the “struggle switch” to the on position!
The book about dealing with panic attacks in a way that’s aligned with the approach shared in this course is Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast.
I hope there’s something useful here 🙂
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
As the expert on yourself, what do you feel is the best way forward?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Welcome to your new journey, Christy! You have experience of getting through adversity before and so you know you can do it again. It sounds as though your approach to sleep up to this point hasn’t been working for you, leaving you feeling trapped in the cycle you described. I hope this course will offer you new options for moving forward so you can break out of that cycle!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Yes, it’s very hard to remember all the steps at first. Like any new skill, it’s going to be hard before it gets easy (or easier)!
You are the expert on you, so only you know what the best way to continue to practice looks like. You can play the guided exercise on your phone (and you might see the time or you might not see the time) or you can print out the PDF “cheat sheet” and have that next to your bed.
Those are a couple of ways forward off the top of my head. What do you feel might be the best way to continue to learn and practice the exercise?
Some people do practice the AWAKE exercise during the day, too — and that might also come with the added benefit of helping you get more familiar with the process for when you might want to use it at night.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for the great question, Kan!
It simply means experience wakefulness with less struggle — whatever that means and however that looks for you.
So, you can stay in bed or you can get out of bed. You can read. You can watch TV. You can trampoline. You can try your hand at go kart racing. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as your intention or goal is to build skill in experiencing wakefulness with less struggle. To experience wakefulness without trying to fight or avoid it.
Does this help?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
It’s amazing how different things can be when we practice moving away from battling with stuff that’s out of our control and when we act and talk to ourselves with more kindness when things are difficult. Reflecting on every positive, every win, and every strength that exists within you can be so powerful, too. Thanks for sharing!
PS: We are all a work in progress — every last one of us!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Even at this very early stage, your mindset is starting to change. You are holding sleep (and the difficult thoughts and feelings that can show up when you don’t get the sleep you want to get) less tightly.
You are refocusing on actions that matter to you and that keep you moving toward the life you want to live. You are noticing more of the good stuff that’s still present, even after difficult nights.
You are learning and you are taking action. You are on your way to insomnia independence!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
