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As mentioned by Ardnek57, this is tough stuff. So, it makes sense that you find this difficult. It is difficult.
And, it makes sense that you are terrified of having another sleepless night. And, it makes sense that you experience other difficult thoughts and feelings such as fear and a pounding heart as your mind does its job of looking out for you and trying to protect you from what it believes is the threat posed by being awake at night.
We’re going to be exploring all this in a lot more detail as the course progresses because there’s a lot to cover here. In the meantime, it sounds as though your experience tells you that you cannot eliminate difficult thoughts and feelings through effort — so perhaps recognizing that might be a helpful first step for moving away from the struggle that comes from trying to control what cannot be controlled?
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That’s a great questions and I am happy to share my thoughts on that — but first, I’d like to hear your thoughts. What do you think you should do and why? Does your experience offer you any guidance or insights?
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Setbacks are a normal part of progress
If you are normally getting up around the same time each day, you are anchoring your body clock and moving away from chasing after sleep. With that being said, it’s also important to take care of yourself — sometimes it might not be possible to start your day as planned when you have a baby to take care of through the night!
I hope this course helps bring you some clarity and clear action steps that will help you move away from the insomnia struggle!
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I just realized I missed this post, Tara — my apologies! Welcome aboard
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That sounds really difficult — just like torture, as you described. And, what I have read in your post sounds much like a common struggle with insomnia. So, you are not alone.
Ironically, sleep often becomes more of a struggle the more we try to fix it. The more effort we put into it (which is completely understandable) the more difficult and elusive it can become.
The mind can even learn to believe that being awake at night is a danger or a threat since it regularly creates so much struggle — and so it fires up to protect you and this can lead to a sense that sleepiness has been lost (after all, we don’t want to be falling asleep when we are in danger).
I hope my reply here brings you some clarity and I wish you all the best. We are all here for you.
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It is possible to wean off of Ambien — and the process would probably start by discussing your desire to move away from medication with your doctor.
You might also find these podcast episodes helpful since they involve people who moved away from Ambien in particular:
How Jim stopped chasing after sleep and put over 10 years of insomnia behind him (#42)
I hope this helps!
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Hello JV! Welcome and thank you for your kind words
As you shared, anxiety can show up in so many ways — as thoughts, as feelings, and as physical sensations just as you described.
With that being said, if you are concerned about any of the symptoms you listed, I would encourage you to talk to your doctor. If nothing else, it might help relieve some of the understandable concern those symptoms might be causing you.
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This would be outside my area of expertise and, since you know your goddaughter best, I suspect you would be the best person to figure out how to explain what you know about dealing with insomnia in a helpful way
Letting go typically involves acknowledging what we are thinking and feeling — allowing it to sit with us or to float next to us like a beach ball — rather than trying to fight or avoid it. Observing rather than fighting. When we try to push a beach ball under the water because we don’t want it next to us, what happens? If we just let it float alongside us, what happens?
I hope this helps. And, when it comes to spending time with a toddler that doesn’t sleep well — perhaps spending that time with the little one is a greater contributor to living a rich and meaningful life than how you might sleep during that time?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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Many people find things temporarily get more difficult when they make changes to their approach — so you aren’t alone there!
In my experience, I don’t think there’s any need to get out of bed just because you’re awake — unless you want to! What I feel is more important is responding in a different way to wakefulness whenever you find yourself struggling with being awake. I think it’s the ongoing struggle with being awake that is the real issue — not being awake in bed, as tends to be the opinion within mainstream CBT-I.
With all this being said, I am a coach and not a therapist! And, your therapist knows more about you than I do (although you still remain the expert on yourself)! Have you shared your concerns about getting out of bed when awake with your CBT-I therapist?
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It’s hard to come up with timelines since everyone is different and many people define “effectiveness” and “success” in different ways.
A sleep window is just one tool that can help us move away from chasing after sleep. Although some people find that a sleep window is all they need, other areas often need to be explored (such as how we respond to being awake during the night and how we deal with the difficult thoughts and feelings that often show up with insomnia).
A sleep window can easily become a sleep effort if used in an attempt to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen — and, as you likely know from experience, the more effort we put into sleep the more elusive and difficult it can seem to become!
As you shared, this is often a marathon and not a sprint. And you cannot control the outcome you are looking to reach — you can only control your ongoing practice and implementation. Things that will move you closer to where you want to be.
I wish you all the best on your journey. It sounds as though you have the mindset, attitude, and strengths to succeed
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Ah yes, turning on the news might not always be helpful!!!
A podcast cannot make sleep happen, but if it helps you experience being awake with less struggle, it might be a more helpful option!
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Sorry to hear about your lifelong struggle with insomnia. You are not alone. Have you picked up any ideas or made any changes since you found us?
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Sleep paralysis can happen in the presence of insomnia and without the presence of insomnia.
Sleep paralysis can be scary but it’s not usually a symptom of a medication condition. With that being said, sleep paralysis isn’t my area of expertise so if it’s of concern, I would suggest talking to your doctor.
This information from the Cleveland Clinic might be helpful, too: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21974-sleep-paralysis
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I love it! Willingness to learn is the first step toward transformation
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There can be no doubt that the exhaustion, fear, anxiety, nervousness and all the other thoughts and feelings that often come with insomnia are really difficult to experience.
Those thoughts and feelings can also influence our actions in unhelpful ways — we can find ourselves acting in ways that we don’t want to act, we can find ourselves getting pulled away from the life we want to live.
When we are struggling with insomnia it can be so much harder to be the person we want to be and to focus on the world around us.
Did you pick up any ideas or insights from the free insomnia sleep training course? Did it help you identify any potential changes you might make that could potentially change your current situation and relationship with sleep?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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