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It’s natural and normal for your mind to generate thoughts — especially when those thoughts are related to things it sees as a problem or a threat.
Your brain might generate thoughts about sleep every hour, every minute, every second, or even more often than that. And, it sounds as though your experience tells you that you cannot stop those thoughts from happening. So perhaps it might be worthwhile to practice allowing those thoughts to come and go instead?
When we try to fight or avoid thoughts we can set ourselves up for a struggle that makes things more difficult. If we can practice making space for those thoughts to come and go as they choose, we might have more energy to do things that matter and they might start to consume less of our energy and attention.
We’ll be exploring all this in a lot more detail as the course progresses 🙂
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I would suggest resting and recuperating. You can revisit what you’ve been learning when you feel better. Right now your priority should probably be resting and healing.
I hope you feel better soon.
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Welcome to the forum, Aleta. Did anything in particular happen over the past eight days that might help explain why your sleep has been better over the past eight days?
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Yes, anxiety can be really difficult — I am not sure anyone finds it easy to experience anxiety and I don’t think anyone wants to experience anxiety!
Since it doesn’t feel good, most human beings will try to fight or avoid anxiety — and that’s where we can get tangled up in a struggle that makes things more difficult since the mind will often push back and fight our efforts (because it’s generating anxiety to protect us from a real or imagined threat).
And, perhaps sleep might be less likely to happen if we’re busily engaged in a furious battle with our minds in the middle of the night.
I hope there’s something useful here 🙂
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Thanks for sharing, Fady. How do you think you might break that habit and why is breaking that important to you?
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Thanks for sharing these insights, Luke.
Something in particular that really stood out was this sentence:
Today I’ve had the chance to think quite a bit on my reaction to the lack of control (over sleep) that insomnia represents, and have had to again reframe that stress as only being endurable if I consciously chose a more productive response.
This stood out for me because it suggests that when you respond to a difficult night, stress, or the realization that you cannot control sleep in a way that moves you away from struggle and toward the life you want to live — for example by continuing to do things that matter — then at least all that difficult stuff is serving some kind of purpose, right?
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Great stuff — thanks for sharing!
As you mentioned, the anxiety will still show up — that’s natural and normal — but your resistance to it is falling. Your response to it is becoming more workable. As a result, it’s becoming less influential and creating less struggle as you are less inclined to get pulled into a struggle with it.
Thanks again for sharing your experience and insights 🙂
PS: Everyone here is brave, and probably far stronger than they imagine or give themselves credit for.
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That’s quite common and, in fact, I just responded to a similar post from another client in the Week 1 forum: https://insomniacoach.com/forums/topic/yo-yo-effect-anyone/
If your sleep window begins around midnight, I don’t think working out between 6:30 PM to 8:00 PM is going to have much of an impact on sleep — you could always experiment with morning workouts if working out in the morning is aligned with the kind of life you want to live.
I hope this helps!
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It’s great to feel funny, happy, outgoing, and energetic — who wouldn’t want to feel that way, right? And yet, we cannot really control any of that. We cannot make ourselves feel those things (there’s no “happy” switch, for example) — just as we cannot make sleep happen.
With that in mind, perhaps trying to make certain feelings happen (or trying to get rid of others) has the potential to make things more difficult since all that trying can end up consuming your energy and attention indefinitely since those are things you cannot directly control.
What if, instead of trying to get rid of difficult thoughts and feelings, that energy and attention was used to do things that matter instead? To engage in actions that are important, even in the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings?
How might things be different then?
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Temperature is one of those things that can trip us up a bit — ultimately, the body can sleep in pretty much any survivable temperature.
Of course, it’s helpful for us to feel comfortable, but the body can still generate sleep even if we aren’t comfortable.
If certain temperatures prevented sleep, we probably wouldn’t see human beings living all over the world, regardless of the climate 🙂
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Please call me Martin 🙂
Distraction can definitely shift our attention temporarily — but I don’t think it’s an effective long-term strategy (and it often requires a lot of energy, effort, and attention to distract ourselves).
So, no surprise you are finding distraction difficult — that’s probably quite normal! And, all those thoughts you shared are probably thoughts that virtually everyone with chronic insomnia experiences.
Perhaps moving away from trying to distract or otherwise control your mind might help you start moving away from struggling with all the stuff your mind chooses to do (and will do anyway, regardless of your efforts)?
If nothing else, perhaps it might free up some energy and attention for you to do more of what matters?
These are all things we’ll be exploring in a lot more detail as the course progresses. As a client, you can always book one-off 30-minute calls (subject to availability) using this link: https://insomniacoach.com/30min/
I hope there’s something useful here!
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It’s good to see you back @jsoucy!
If you enjoy listening to an audiobook in bed and that helps you practice experiencing wakefulness with less struggle, I can’t think of why that would be a bad thing!
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That can be a common hallmark of insomnia — this older video from the YouTube channel might offer some insights:
How to stop the sleep roller coaster and make sleep more consistent and more predictable
Was there anything helpful there?
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Glad that was helpful! Have you come up with any ideas for activities you might do when awake at night that will help you practice experiencing wakefulness with less struggle? Sometimes it can be helpful to have a clear plan in place.
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Thanks for sharing that insight, Czor — many people get confused when it comes to understanding the difference between being tired and being sleepy. And, as you mentioned, yawning isn’t always a sign of sleepiness 🙂
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