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Waking during the night is a normal part of sleep — if you find it hard to fall back to sleep, you might be putting effort into the process (and that, in turn, can make things more difficult).
Frequent nighttime awakenings can also be a symptom of other issues (for example, sleep apnea). Have you discussed your concerns with your doctor?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Welcome to the forum, Sarilen!
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The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
That sounds difficult — and, at the same time, your experience with insomnia is not unique or unusual. You definitely aren’t alone.
As you’ve experienced, medication isn’t usually helpful over the long term since it doesn’t get to the root cause of insomnia — all the things we do to try to get rid of it that get us tangled up in a struggle.
The key to moving away from this struggle is to practice responding to all this difficult stuff in a workable way — a way that doesn’t involve trying to control what cannot be controlled. To shift our focus onto the things we can control (our actions) so we can create good conditions for sleep and continue to do things that matter (no matter how small) when all this difficult stuff shows up.
The alternative is going to war with all the things we can’t control — and that is not only potentially endless, but it’s also exhausting and distracting, too. And that, in turn, makes it harder for us to live the kind of life we want to live.
You might want to start with my free two-week insomnia sleep training course and see how you get on with that. And, of course, if you have any questions, please feel free to post them here!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
There’s a lot going on for you right now, Evy — little wonder you are finding that your mind is in overdrive!
As far as I know, there’s no magic off-switch for the brain and there’s no delete button for the brain, either.
Perhaps some of the struggle might come from trying to find those switches and buttons, from trying to fight or avoid what’s going on in your mind?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Sorry to hear how difficult things are for you right now.
You definitely aren’t alone and there is always a way through the struggle — as you’ll see in the insomnia success stories forum and Insomnia Coach podcast episodes.
If you have any specific questions, please feel free to share them here.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If you haven’t seen it yet, you might find this video (and many of the comments that come with it) helpful: Why you jerk yourself awake every time you try to fall asleep (and what to do about it).
If you are describing more of a sense of mental alertness when you go to bed rather than physical sleep starts as you drift off to sleep, this video might be more useful: What to do when you feel sleepy early in the evening but don’t feel sleepy when it’s time for bed.
Is there anything helpful here?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
It’s hard to run on a half battery (or less!) each day, right?
That’s real and it’s hard.
And, at the same time, perhaps all the effort that’s required when we try to make sleep happen or try to get rid of certain difficult thoughts and feelings that often come with insomnia might be helping to deplete that battery?
Without so much struggle, perhaps you might be able to free up some additional energy to do more of the things that matter to you (no matter how small)?
Even in the presence of all the very real and very legitimate difficult stuff you described.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Since a sleep window is always longer than your average nightly sleep duration (so it doesn’t reduce the opportunity for sleep) I am curious to know why you feel it’s going to be difficult to implement a sleep window while employed?
If you could share more of your thinking there, perhaps I can offer a pointer or two!
PS: Plenty of success stories on the podcast. 15 years is a long time, but it’s not the record, not by a long way!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If I understand your question correctly, David, acceptance is about accepting that there’s some difficult stuff that comes with being a human being that we cannot control.
We aren’t saying we want this difficult stuff to exist — instead, we are acknowledging that we might not be able to control it.
When we move away from trying to control what cannot be controlled (sleep, thoughts, feelings) we can free up energy and expand the focus of our attention — and this can help us better live the kind of life we want to live, even when difficult stuff we cannot control is present.
The more we continue to live the kind of life we want to live, the more we move away from trying to fight or avoid wakefulness, what we think, and how we feel, the less of an influence all this difficult stuff might start to have over us.
The more we can be open and accepting of difficult thoughts and feelings (and difficult nights of sleep) the better able we might be to respond in a way that moves us away from endless struggle and toward doing things that help us live a rich and meaningful life.
Am I on the right lines here? Did I help answer your question?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Hello Alya!
1. Plenty of people are working through the course while still taking medication. Do you currently have any plan in place for how/when you might start to move away from the medication, if that’s one of your goals?
2. If you enjoy practicing Yoga Nidra — if it’s something that’s aligned with your values and helps you live the kind of life you want to live, then it’s definitely OK to continue practicing that! If it’s not something you really enjoy, if it’s not something that helps you live the kind of life you want to live, if it’s something you’re practicing only in an attempt to control what you’re thinking or feeling, it might be something that has the potential to get you a bit tangled up in a struggle.
3. As for the anxiety you described with the sleep window, that’s natural and normal and is a sign that your brain is doing its job and looking out for you (thanks brain!). How are you responding to that anxiety? I’d also be curious to know why you are getting out of bed — that’s not something suggested in the course so I’d be interested to know what your goal is with that!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for sharing that you’ve been making progress and that you’re experiencing some typical setbacks on your journey, Kmm!
I removed your email address from your post so it doesn’t get picked up by spam bots.
If anyone wants to connect with you, they can contact me and I can make the connection “behind the scenes”!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for letting me know that made sense — and the key word is, as you mentioned, practice! These are new skills and they require ongoing practice!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
That sounds really difficult, Fifi — and at the same time you are not alone. What you described is not unique or unusual.
When you wake at night (which is a normal part of sleep) what do you do next? How do you respond to that wakefulness and any difficult thoughts or feelings that might come with it?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You’re welcome — and thank you for your kind words!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for sharing, Neal — I appreciate you taking the time to share your progress!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
