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Thanks for the great question, WhitneyB!
I think any time we do something with the goal of making sleep happen we are engaged in a sleep effort — an attempt to sleep.
With this in mind, can you think of any things that you might be doing in an attempt to make sleep happen, avoid nighttime wakefulness, or otherwise “protect” your sleep?
Perhaps you might be going to bed earlier than you otherwise would? Maybe you are staying in bed later in the morning, spending a lot of time researching sleep, modifying your plans in response to sleep, tossing and turning through the night in an attempt to make sleep happen? Perhaps you are engaged in a battle with your mind, trying to fight or avoid all the difficult thoughts and feelings that usually come with insomnia.
These are just a few examples!
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Welcome to the forum, boke!
Thoughts like, “What if I don’t sleep well tonight?” don’t stop sleep from happening — but the almost default human response of trying to fight or avoid thoughts like that sure can! That’s because we then engage in a battle with our mind — and, if we are heading into battle, our brain probably isn’t going to let us sleep!
Perhaps acknowledging and allowing all the thoughts your brain wants to generate (as it does its job of trying to look out for you) might be a more helpful strategy? Thoughts tend to come and go in their own time — if you became an observer rather than a fighter, I wonder what kind of effect that might have?
It can definitely be difficult to get out of bed around the same time after a difficult night. If, however, you know from experience that staying in bed doesn’t seem to be a helpful strategy, perhaps a different approach might be more helpful?
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Exercising doesn’t really have much effect on sleep. It’s generally good for our health and might be one of those things that’s aligned with our values and helps us live the kind of life we want to live. It’s not something that can make sleep happen or prevent sleep from happening, though.
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Unfortunately with sleep, the more we try the harder it becomes. Sleep happens best when we eliminate all effort to sleep and any pressure we might put on ourselves to sleep.
Furthermore, when we’ve been awake for long enough, sleep will ALWAYS happen!
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Things sound very difficult for you, Black_Tea. Thank you for sharing and welcome to the forum.
I think one way we can get really tangled up when it comes to anxiety is that, because it doesn’t feel good and we don’t want to experience it, we end up trying really hard to fight it or avoid it.
Unfortunately, anxiety is something that doesn’t respond well to our efforts to get rid of it (and, for a long as we are human beings, we will experience anxiety). The more we try, the more powerful that anxiety can feel — and the more influential it might be over our lives (and our sleep).
I wonder if a more workable approach might involve acknowledging the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings like anxiety and worry, being kind to yourself, and gently redirecting your attention and focus onto coming back into your body, coming back to the present, and engaging in activities that are important and/or meaningful to you — even in the presence of all that really difficult stuff?
The battle with anxiety is exhausting, distracting, and unpleasant. Perhaps just as (if not more) unpleasant than the anxiety itself. What might it feel like to withdraw from that battle?
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Anxiety is difficult — and it’s one of those things that can become more difficult, the more we try to fight or avoid it. You might find this forum discussion helpful: https://insomniacoach.com/forums/topic/difficult-times/
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You sure have been through a tough ride, Zenobia — it’s little wonder that you’re experiencing insomnia! Have you tried any of the techniques that are discussed on this site that might help create better conditions for sleep and that might help you deal with all the difficult thoughts and feelings that come with insomnia in a more helpful/workable way?
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You aren’t alone, Tiredmom — many parents of young children go through exactly what you are experiencing right now.
Of course, there’s not a whole lot you can do to prevent your baby from waking you at night but there are many things you can do to help create good conditions for sleep and to help you respond to nighttime wakefulness and all the difficult thoughts and feelings that come with it in a more workable way.
Have you enrolled in my free insomnia sleep training course? That might be a helpful place to start.
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Unfortunately we can’t really control our appearance (short of surgery) — just as we can’t control sleep itself. I wonder if a more workable approach might be engaging in activities that allow you to live a meaningful life, even in the presence of eye bags and dark circles?
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You know, sometimes we have difficult nights — just as we have difficult days. What’s important is how we respond to them (since that’s always in our control).
We can end up getting distracted by them and move away from the life we want to live or we can acknowledge them, be kind to ourselves, and continue to engage in activities that keep us moving toward the life we want to live.
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Strange things can happen as we drift between sleep and wakefulness (and the different stages of sleep itself). Ultimately, though, I don’t think anyone here is qualified to offer you guidance on your specific experience — so I’d suggest discussing the sounds you are hearing with your doctor.
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If you know from experience that going to bed before you are sleepy often sets you up for long periods of unpleasant wakefulness, it can be helpful to wait until you do feel sleepy enough for sleep. Since none of us can remain awake indefinitely, sooner or later sleepiness will arrive.
If, however, you know from experience that you often fall asleep even without a strong sense of sleepiness, you might want to simply go to bed as soon as your sleep window begins — especially if you are also implementing sleep reconditioning and giving yourself the opportunity to make any unpleasant nighttime wakefulness more pleasant.
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Hello Bruce! What’s your goal here? What would you be doing differently in your life if you were getting the type (and amount) of sleep that you’d like to be getting?
When it comes to the daytime sleepiness — have you been evaluated for that? People with chronic insomnia are far more likely to experience daytime fatigue than daytime sleepiness — that excessive might suggest the presence of another issue (for example, sleep apnea).
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Thanks for sharing — there’s some big insights in your post!
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I don’t think that’s any problem at all!
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