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Good on you for getting that practice in, Rubylight! Setbacks are part of making progress — and remember that the goal with the AWAKE exercise is to practice building skill in experiencing wakefulness and all the thoughts and feelings that might show up with less struggle and less resistance 🙂
Oh, and quite often, “expectations” can end up biting us — we feel bad when they aren’t met and we only feel neutral when they are met (because we expected them to happen anyway). Sometimes it can be helpful to approach each night as a fresh start, with zero expectations.
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Difficult thoughts and feelings come with being a human being — I am not sure any of us would still be alive if our problem-solving brains didn’t generate them!
What did you learn about dealing with difficult thoughts and feelings from the Week 2 course content, kingy75 and Christianna?
I’m also curious to know what *accepting* difficult thoughts means to you, Christianna?
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Hello Sriram and thank you for sharing!
When you say you are not able to overcome sleep anxiety, what does that mean to you? If you were able to overcome it, what would be different?
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Hello Kendra and thank you for sharing!
Difficult thoughts and feelings are often difficult to experience — and, as you mentioned, practicing new skills can be challenging! What matters is that you got some practice in 🙂
Good on you for getting to yoga, taking walks, seeing friends and family, and doing your part-time work — even in the presence of exhaustion, fear, and all the other difficult stuff that was present. What did you learn from that?
Continuing to explore your situation and your relationship with all this stuff is evidence of your growth mindset — you know that things can change, that you can learn to get better at things, that challenges are an opportunity to learn, and that persistence in the face of obstacles will help keep you moving toward your goals.
Thank you for sharing how you’ve reframed nights as being different rather than bad — “bad” can come with connotations of blame and that might result in you being hard on yourself. Talking to yourself harshly or in a mean way. That rarely makes things any better or easier — especially when none of this difficult stuff is your fault!
I wish you all the best as you continue on your journey 🙂
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Welcome and congratulations on your pregnancy! If you have any questions please feel free to post them here 🙂
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If you have been admitted to a mental health hospital, I would encourage you to seek an answer to your question from the doctors there.
Quite often, ongoing struggle comes from trying to control what our own experience tells us cannot be directly or permanently controlled. So, the more we try to fight or avoid anxiety or the more we try to make sleep happen, for example, the more we can struggle — and that’s when we can so easily end up getting stuck.
I hope there’s something useful here and I wish you all the best.
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I appreciate your introspection, curiosity, and willingness to explore this stuff with an open mind!
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Many people find that sleep meditations work — until they don’t work! And, perhaps when they no longer seem to work, perhaps that implies they never really worked in the first place? And, in turn, maybe that’s a reminder that sleep cannot be controlled through effort?
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Yes, I agree — it can definitely be helpful to remember that every night is different. Not necessarily better or worse — just different.
And, having fewer expectations can be helpful too — if something happens in a way we did not expect, we tend to be unhappy about that.
When something does happen in a way we expect, the best outcome is neutral — something happened that we expected to happen.
So, with expectations we set ourselves up for disappointment and, at best, indifference!
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Is it the fear of being up by yourself that is the problem here, or is it the belief that you shouldn’t have the fear of being up by yourself that is creating the struggle?
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As mentioned by Ardnek57, this is tough stuff. So, it makes sense that you find this difficult. It is difficult.
And, it makes sense that you are terrified of having another sleepless night. And, it makes sense that you experience other difficult thoughts and feelings such as fear and a pounding heart as your mind does its job of looking out for you and trying to protect you from what it believes is the threat posed by being awake at night.
We’re going to be exploring all this in a lot more detail as the course progresses because there’s a lot to cover here. In the meantime, it sounds as though your experience tells you that you cannot eliminate difficult thoughts and feelings through effort — so perhaps recognizing that might be a helpful first step for moving away from the struggle that comes from trying to control what cannot be controlled?
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That’s a great questions and I am happy to share my thoughts on that — but first, I’d like to hear your thoughts. What do you think you should do and why? Does your experience offer you any guidance or insights?
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Setbacks are a normal part of progress 🙂
If you are normally getting up around the same time each day, you are anchoring your body clock and moving away from chasing after sleep. With that being said, it’s also important to take care of yourself — sometimes it might not be possible to start your day as planned when you have a baby to take care of through the night!
I hope this course helps bring you some clarity and clear action steps that will help you move away from the insomnia struggle!
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I just realized I missed this post, Tara — my apologies! Welcome aboard 🙂
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That sounds really difficult — just like torture, as you described. And, what I have read in your post sounds much like a common struggle with insomnia. So, you are not alone.
Ironically, sleep often becomes more of a struggle the more we try to fix it. The more effort we put into it (which is completely understandable) the more difficult and elusive it can become.
The mind can even learn to believe that being awake at night is a danger or a threat since it regularly creates so much struggle — and so it fires up to protect you and this can lead to a sense that sleepiness has been lost (after all, we don’t want to be falling asleep when we are in danger).
I hope my reply here brings you some clarity and I wish you all the best. We are all here for you.
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