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Sorry to hear how difficult things are for you at the current time. I appreciate you sharing that you feel you now have the opportunity to get to the root of your insomnia by tackling the behaviors and thought processes that can perpetuate sleep disruption.
The fatigue is real and it’s hard — and we have two ways to react to it. We can withdraw from life in an attempt to recover that lost energy (this isn’t usually helpful over the long term) or we can engage in actions that allow us to continue to move toward the kind of life we want to live, even in the presence of that fatigue.
I think the latter often helps us get closer to living a richer, engaging, and more meaningful life — even when in the presence of all the difficult stuff that comes with being a human being.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Sometimes, when our goal is to change how we feel we can end up engaged in an endless struggle with our thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it can be helpful to allow the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings — to make some space for them (even though they can definitely feel uncomfortable) and allow them to come and go as they please. If nothing else, it’s one less battle we have to engage in — and that in itself can be quite liberating (and frees up energy for other things).
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Ultimately, what we do and how we live our life has more of an influence on the kind of life we live than how we sleep. So, if a sleep window of 11:00 PM to 11:00 AM on weekends helps you live a life that’s aligned with your values, then how can anyone tell you that you can’t do such a thing?!
If we continue to do things that move us toward the kind of life we want to live, independently of sleep, we end up living a more enriching and rewarding life — even in the presence of the pain, struggle, and all the other difficulties and challenges all human beings live with!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
People with chronic insomnia haven’t lost the ability to sleep — when you’ve been awake for long enough, sleep will happen!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
I wonder if you might find it helpful to start doing some of these things (or actions related to these things) even after difficult nights and even in the presence of fatigue and any other difficult thoughts or feelings since it sounds as though they’re important to you:
* Eating healthy
* Going to the gym
* Spending time with friends and family
* Attending family functions and gatherings
* Exploring ways to socialize/make new friendsAlthough it can feel as though sleep controls all of these things, it doesn’t. We always have control over our actions — no matter how dire our situation.
The more we withdraw from living a life that’s important to us, the more we move away from the kind of life we want to live — and that doesn’t usually lead to any improvement in our current situation.
If we can move toward the kind of life we want to live, even in the presence of pain, difficulty, challenge, and struggle, then we end up living a life that’s more aligned with our values — and that might help up live a richer and more fulfilling life. Then, the difficult stuff might feel less difficult.
Unfortunately, we can’t control our thoughts and feelings. We can’t make ourselves feel happy all the time (nobody is happy all the time). We can’t eliminate fatigue (as a parent, I feel tired ALL the time!). We can’t get rid of anxiety — it will always come and go for as long as we are alive. As human beings, we will experience the full range of human thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Some will feel good and some will not.
What we do have control over are our actions.
I hope there’s something helpful here.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
You might find this video helpful, too: How to improve sleep when you don’t feel sleepy and don’t know how to get sleepy.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
There are so many huge insights in this post — I think all the answers are already there, they might just need some teasing out!
As you mentioned, it’s helpful to recognize that:
1. You are not alone.
2. You have control over your actions.
3. Your actions determine the kind of life you live.
4. Insomnia and anxiety don’t feel good — but they cannot be controlled.If we can end the battle by no longer exerting so much effort into trying to avoid wakefulness and the difficult thoughts and feelings that come along for the ride we might have a bit more energy and feel better able to engage in actions that help us move toward the kind of life we want to live, even in their presence.
The more we try to control what cannot be controlled, the more we struggle and the more we get distracted from the actions that help make live rich and meaningful!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If six-and-a-half hours is less than the amount of time you currently allot for sleep, that would still be a fantastic start! No need to go “all in” right from day one!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for sharing, Helen — and good on you for being open minded and curious and taking some action even though your mind was generating thoughts that made you skeptical!
Remember that everyone experiences difficult nights from time to time — they’re all part of the human experience! They can only set you back if you fall back into the old habits of trying to make sleep happen and battling with your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Sometimes the symptoms of hyperarousal are intensified when we try to fight or avoid them — a bit like how all the jerks we might experience as we are falling asleep might get more intense the more we try to avoid them.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Welcome to the forum! It might be useful to emphasize that acceptance isn’t about giving up — it’s about accepting that we cannot control what’s out of our control and, ideally, then committing to actions that are in our control and help us move toward the kind of life we want to live, even in the presence of all the difficult stuff that’s outside of our control.
Anxiety itself doesn’t guarantee sleep disruption — but battling with it, trying to fight or avoid it, sure can!
I hope there’s something helpful here.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Anxiety doesn’t usually feel good — so it makes sense that we don’t want to experience it! However, for as long as we are human beings we will always experience the full range of human emotions. Some will feel good. Some won’t.
What can be helpful is dropping the struggle with trying to fight or avoid difficult and uncomfortable thoughts and feelings such as anxiety — simply allowing them to exist can really reduce their influence over our lives.
I hope there’s something helpful here.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
What is your goal when you practice relaxation?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
I hope things improve for you soon. Small actions — no matter how small — are still actions!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for sharing! What changes did you make to get to this point?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
