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Snuggling is all good — we want being in bed to be pleasant; anything that helps with that can’t be a bad thing!
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Probably the best tip is this — don’t try to control sleep! A bonus tip would be this — don’t try to control your thoughts and feelings!
This is a common theme you’ll probably notice in the insomnia success stories here in the forum and on the Insomnia Coach podcast — a move away from trying to control sleep (and thoughts) and a fresh focus on the actions that help us move toward the kind of life we want to live, independently of sleep.
I hope there’s something helpful here!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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In that case, cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) is usually recommended as the first-line treatment for chronic insomnia!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
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I am so glad you found this helpful — thank you for sharing that!
It’s normal for your brain to trigger difficult thoughts; its number one job is to look out for you! Unfortunately, the human brain can’t tell the difference between a real threat (like a grizzly bear breaking into your bedroom) and a perceived threat (nighttime wakefulness).
So, sometimes we need to step in to train it that the perceived threat of nighttime wakefulness isn’t a threat at all. Sure, it can be unpleasant (but we can also do things that make being awake more pleasant) but it’s not a danger to us.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Fear is a human emotion that will exist for as long as you are a human being! Luckily, as a human being, you always get to decide how to respond to it. Do you allow it to control your behaviors in a way that moves you away from the kind of life you want to live? Or, do you acknowledge that fear and then engage in behaviors that help you move toward the kind of life you want to live, even in its presence?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If only we could control how we feel and what we think! Unfortunately, we can’t — and it’s when we (quite understandably!) try to do so that we really get tangled up in an endless struggle.
I wonder if you might find it helpful to acknowledge all that difficult and unpleasant fatigue inside your body and even allow it to exist — to make a bit of space for it inside you. Then, engage in actions (no matter how small) that are aligned with your values and help you continue to move toward the kind of life you want to live, even in the presence of that difficult fatigue?
Perhaps that might be more helpful than trying to eliminate the fatigue — something it sounds as though you’ve valiantly tried to do for a long time, without success?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
This sounds like chronic insomnia — have you been diagnosed with chronic insomnia?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Anxiety is a normal human emotion — so we know that you are a human being because you experience anxiety! Often, anxiety becomes problematic because of our natural desire to fight or avoid it — it doesn’t feel good, so we don’t want it near us.
Unfortunately, trying to push anxiety away is like trying to push a beach ball under the water. It only pushes back harder.
So, I wonder if it might be worth exploring a different approach? Instead of the default desire to fight or avoid anxiety, I wonder what would happen if you made a bit of space for it? If you allowed it to exist?
Instead of pushing that beach ball under the water, you allow it to float alongside you. You don’t want it there, of course, but there it is. If you then redirect attention onto things you have control over — like moving your body and engaging in actions and behaviors that are important to you, perhaps that anxiety will eventually drift off like a bobbing beach ball will eventually drift off?
Of course, it will likely come back again and again. But if you don’t fight it, it’ll likely drift off again and again, too.
If you can gently redirect your attention toward what’s in your control and what helps you move toward the kind of life you want to live, perhaps that anxiety might become less and less noticeable and less and less powerful when it returns in the future.
I hope there’s something helpful here!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Have you thought about (or tried) implementing any cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) techniques?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Thanks for sharing that big insight, manohargss!
All I would add is that it’s impossible to control our thoughts, feelings, and emotions — when we try to do that we get tangled up in an endless struggle. What can be more helpful is making some space for difficult thoughts and feelings to exist, and then redirecting our attention onto things we have control over — the actions we can engage in that are important to us and that help us move toward the kind of life we want to live.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Often that hypervigilance occurs because we have a strong desire to make sleep happen or otherwise avoid nighttime wakefulness. Sometimes a more effective approach is to give wakefulness permission to happen — when we are less concerned about being awake, we create better conditions for sleep to occur!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
I wonder if you abandon your attempts to get eight hours of sleep, you might immediately create better conditions for that to happen? Often it’s our efforts to get a certain amount or type of sleep that keep us trapped in an endless struggle with sleep!
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
Your insomnia doesn’t sound unique or unusual — it sounds like regular old insomnia! Ultimately, insomnia exists because of a strong desire to avoid nighttime wakefulness. This desire trains the brain to think of wakefulness as a threat or a danger — something we must be protected from.
How does the brain usually protect us? By generating difficult thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and by activating the defense mechanisms commonly referred to as the “fight or flight” response.
Of course, this makes sleep really difficult! So, as human beings we look for a solution — however, this usually leads to endless research, experimentation, and rituals. All things that don’t help and all things that reinforce the brain’s belief that wakefulness is a threat that must be avoided.
So, the key to moving past insomnia is to train the brain that wakefulness isn’t a threat. Effective ways to do this involve focussing on what we can control — our actions. Our actions allow us to do things that keep us moving toward the kind of life we want to live each day, regardless of how we sleep. If we can continue to do that, perhaps the brain will no longer think that wakefulness is such a threat.
Finally, if it’s any help, Matthew Walker’s book has been debunked and really should be pulled off the shelves.
I hope there’s something helpful here.
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If I could wave a magic wand and grant you seven or even eight hours of blissful, uninterrupted sleep every single night for the rest of your life, what would you be doing differently in your life?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
If you don’t feel sleepy during the day then you are either getting enough sleep, or arousal is high enough to suppress sleepiness.
What kind of things do you do during the day? Does how you feel tend to vary as the day progresses, and does how you feel tend to be influenced by what you’re doing?
What is it about the idea of not feeling sleepy during the day that has you concerned?
—If you are ready to stop struggling with insomnia you can enroll in the online insomnia coaching course right now! If you would prefer ongoing phone or video coaching calls as part of a powerful three month program that will help you reclaim your life from insomnia, consider applying for the Insomnia Mastery program.
The content of this post is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.
